However, it happens that the demands of girls, especially young ones, are too high. A real man seems to them to be a kind of prince who does not waste time on friends, loves his mother-in-law, and even erases his socks. Of course, such ideal young people either do not exist in nature, or they are typical "mama's" sons raised by a lonely authoritarian woman.
This is how arrogant young ladies learn from their mistakes, stuff a lot of bumps before they do not realize their own arrogance.
However, excessively high requests are just as harmful as low ones. What stereotype should correspond to the ideal man? We list the 45 most important qualities below.
Strong
Responsible
Able to "hammer a nail"
Confident
Honest and frank
Successful
Intelligence and sense of humor
Calm, balanced
To be a super lover
Romantic
Independent
True to your word
Strives for self-development
Love and respect yourself
Knows how to find the right information and people
Communicative
Purposeful
Able to make decisions and take responsibility for them
stress resistant
Able not only to plan, but also to act
Has a clear spiritual direction
Knows how to appreciate
Knows how to appreciate the efforts of his wife
Values quality over quantity
Loyal
Knows how to celebrate
Can control anger
Has interests, hobbies, hobbies
looks after himself
Writes and speaks well
Kind, generous, generous with family members
Maintains good physical shape
Knows how to choose good accessories
Initiative
Does not lose strength of mind even in the most difficult situations
Understands people
Careful with alcohol
Has no fundamentally important (for you!) bad habits
Jealous, but in moderation
Good with children
Courtesy with elders
Willing to share responsibilities
open to new
We tolerate people of other nationalities, views and faiths
If he is not talented in music or literature, he knows how to appreciate it in other people.
Undoubtedly, it is not at all necessary that each of the qualities described be inherent in your real man. One of the most important signs of sincere love is to be able to accept a partner as he is. Ideality should be left out of your family "boat", but in any case, you should not turn a blind eye to the lack of important traits for you. After a while, they will make themselves felt, so it’s better to take a closer look at the man right away. This will save both painful disappointments and unnecessary partings.
After all, love is also a choice.
At all times, girls and women adored knights without fear or reproach, and enthusiastically read novels about their adventures. With the advent of cinema, actors who played the roles of heroes-lovers enjoyed special fame. The audience transferred to them the best features of the characters in the film and believed that a miracle is possible outside the screen. The lucky ones who met the "stars" were usually severely disappointed in them.
Actors outside the role showed themselves as selfish, narcissistic, often narrow-minded characters. Few people will find such character traits attractive. So what do women expect from their chosen one? What should be in their view of the ideal man?
Even in childhood, girls come up with the image of a prince who will win their hearts in the future. Later, discussing classmates with friends, they continue to form a list of requirements for a future partner.
Of particular importance is the character, hobbies and desire to pay attention to the needs of a friend. The appearance of a friend, especially in his youth, also plays an important role for girls.
Tall strong men are always popular with the opposite sex. No wonder many schoolchildren try to get into a sports team in order to easily find a pretty girlfriend. However, not everyone likes athletes who are obsessed with victories in sports.
Of course, such a gentleman will make you feel confident and protected, but it is unlikely to help with your studies or appreciate your creative endeavors.
With the advent of the era of the Internet, girls became interested in young people who skillfully develop their skills as a user of the World Wide Web. Such abilities often seem like something unrealistic, and their owner turns into a modern superman, albeit without muscles.
However, a pressed shirt and a stylish haircut won't hurt. Women attach great importance to such details, and they do not want to blush for a sloppy gentleman.
In Hollywood, in the dream factory, they have long figured out which men are most likely to charm women. In any action movie or melodrama, there is certainly an impregnable hero with a prickly character, who is completely transformed in the presence of a lady of the heart.
With her, he is soft, compliant and kind. The latter qualities, coupled with his reliability and loyalty to the chosen mission, have an unfailing effect on women. Unfortunately, in life, such ideal men are extremely rare.
Girls willingly forgive their partners for the lack of purposefulness, but they are unlikely to put up with rudeness and lack of respect. The fair sex loves compliments, flowers and souvenirs, but most of all, simple attention from a man.
Any help or advice is regarded by them as an extra proof of the sincerity of feelings.
Every woman dreams that her lover belongs only to her and does not look after other slender beauties. The latter in the eyes of the ladies is a mortal sin. They know that it is in the nature of men to be interested in attractive people, so overcoming it is especially vividly demonstrates love.
Unlike women, the stronger sex is immediately ready for sexual contact if they like the chosen one. She also needs intrigue, testing relationships for strength and courtship. Serenades are also welcome. All the attributes of romance delight a woman.
When a man is infatuated with his girlfriend, he will gladly accept the rules of the game and want to look gallant. That is, he will spoil her with cute gifts, make her laugh and be interested in her opinion on significant issues. By this he will win the girl's trust and her consent to intimate dates.
Of course, in bed, he must prove himself as a passionate, but helpful partner.
Men, imagining the most attractive image of a macho, will first of all give him such qualities as success, self-confidence and demand among the female.
The kit includes a fashionable suit, an expensive car and the opportunity to relax in elite resorts. Not only girls imagine life as on the pages of glossy magazines, men also sin with this.
The ideal of a man in the understanding of the representatives of the stronger sex is an athlete with a good job and a beautiful girlfriend. He is always ready for sex and is able to get any beautiful girl, even completely impregnable.
He does not care, he easily solves complex problems and enjoys well-deserved authority among friends. Sounds a little childish? But men believe that the image they paint is real and achievable.
Each person is a full-fledged personality, different from others both in character traits and aspirations. Tastes regarding the ideal partner are also different for everyone. One girl will prefer a party-goer who changes nightclubs all night long, and the other a kind homebody with whom you can discuss the events of the past day and watch together.
Accordingly, it is impossible to choose an ideal that suits everyone without exception. At best, only the main features will coincide, such as politeness, loyalty, gallantry and wit. Otherwise, it is impossible to invent a single template that displays the man of dreams.
At the same time, it is the difference in worldview and wishes for a partner that makes the surrounding reality more interesting and unexpected. Both girls and boys are looking for their true soul mate, and from the bottom of their hearts admire a person who combines most of the hidden features.
Every year, dozens of manuals are published that tell about the rules for finding the perfect man. They list the places where you can most often meet the owner of a particular character.
Extroverts, on the contrary, attend sensational exhibitions, popular cafes and concerts. In fact, these are oversimplified concepts. Introverted people are often not averse to going to the theater or to the cinema, while sociable and energetic people love to make new friends online.
Some believe that the ideal partner enters life at the moment when a woman stops looking for him persistently. Often it becomes an old friend who suddenly committed an unusual act and showed himself from a previously unknown side.
It happens that events constantly push people together and, finally, make them take a closer look at each other. Each girl will tell her story of meeting with an ideal man.
Having found “that same” man next to you, you should not immediately throw yourself on his neck and confess to a joyful discovery. Nobody likes obsessive people. The subject of dreams will certainly not appreciate the perseverance and persistence of a new acquaintance.
The most obvious way to quickly find your soul mate is to go out more often and meet friends. Their relative or colleague may well represent a long-awaited ideal. Friends will always be able to ask for help in organizing a "casual" date.
Common interests are an important factor in the development of relations. For example, horseback riding or rock climbing will help you get to know the same obsessed athlete as the girl herself. One topic for conversation is already obvious, and with mutual sympathy, others will appear.
The attention of both women and men is attracted by people who have recently joined the team. They can be a colleague, neighbor or classmate. Everyone should be given a chance to prove themselves and not reject their courtship immediately. If the couple does not work out, you should not give up on friendly relations. Loneliness is far from the best way to spend your free time.
Ideas about the ideal man are very different among the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. Someone wants to see nearby, while others - a caring and gentle partner, if necessary, ready to support and protect.
Regardless of age and status, a woman will always pay attention to a man who has shown interest in her. If this is not a joke, and he is not obnoxious, anyone will feel affection for the gentleman who gallantly showed feelings. Whether the flirting turns into something serious depends on both.
A smart man will not put pressure on his girlfriend and give her ultimatums. He will behave patiently and kindly, come up with various entertainments and try to conquer a woman. If she understands that her goals are important for a partner, his stakes will increase significantly.
The desire to communicate more often is already a sign that a man is not indifferent. And if he shows character traits that impress the chosen one, and she is guaranteed to see her ideal in him.
My name is Julia Jenny Norman and I am an author of articles and books. I cooperate with the publishing houses "OLMA-PRESS" and "AST", as well as with glossy magazines. Currently I help promote virtual reality projects. I have European roots, but I spent most of my life in Moscow. There are many museums and exhibitions that charge with positive and give inspiration. In my spare time I study French medieval dances. I'm interested in any information about that era. I offer you articles that can captivate a new hobby or just give you pleasant moments. You need to dream about the beautiful, then it will come true!
Every girl dreams of seeing an ideal man next to her, able to protect, care for, beautifully look after, support and find a way out of difficult situations. Any girl determines for herself what qualities of a man she would like to see in her partner, because the future of relationships depends on the initial set of qualities - how problems in relationships, conflicts will be solved, how free time will pass or what awaits a couple in family life. In this review, you will find the main characteristics inherent in a real man.
Male qualities are the inner component of a man, by which one can determine his character, inner world, level of his development and rationality:
Own self-development- personal, spiritual and moral. A real man will not show with his whole appearance that he understands everything without someone's help, even if this is not always true. A real man will really study, read books, listen to lectures and so on. People who engage in self-development are very different from those who do not engage in it at all.
Understanding the meaning of life- Being engaged in spiritual self-development, over time, a man comprehends the deep meaning of human life.
Generosity to others- this does not mean that the man is a spender and scatters money. A generous man spends them wisely, while pampering his wife, children, providing for his family and making donations. Generosity is also manifested in emotional support when it is necessary to listen to and support someone. Sometimes such support is more important than financial support.
lofty life goals- a man without specific goals is only an individual in a male guise. Ideally, a person should have a goal for the good of society, family and others. In addition to the goals set, you need to have patience and courage in order to achieve them, and a real representative of the stronger sex will go to them through obstacles on the way and emerging obstacles.
The stronger sex should not only have the following qualities, but also constantly work on them:
A girl always knows what kind of guy she wants to see next to him in order to go through life with him. What qualities should a man have in her concept:
When planning a meeting or dating for marriage, a woman always thinks about what masculine virtues her chosen one is endowed with, attractive and priceless in life together. And these are the advantages she would like to see in her chosen one:
The qualities of a real ideal man have been discussed for thousands of years. Today, the ideal representative of the stronger sex is associated with a muscular, tall and tanned guy, but appearance is not the main thing, the inner and spiritual qualities of a person are important.
Each woman has her own list of qualities that an ideal man should have, but you can still try to create an average image, the features of which will satisfy the needs of many girls and women:
Character traits are formed in childhood, and from childhood it is necessary to instill in a boy features of behavior, thinking, to instill in him responsibility, masculinity and understanding. They should see by the example of their father that a man is a breadwinner and a protector, because children often imitate their parents, without even realizing it. Such an example will play no small role in shaping the character of the son.
Every man has his own character trait that a woman can like. There are those who have all the features of a real man. They are immediately noticeable, they are loved and want to be with them. If a guy dreams of becoming the perfect man for a woman, then he must meet the following traits:
To become just like that and change something in your life, you need to change yourself, despite the fact that it is hard. You can argue about the qualities of an ideal man ad infinitum. Only the woman herself can decide what he should be in her mind. People say that a beloved and dear person is always an ideal and even flaws admire in him, which ladies will exalt and touch with them. And in the unloved, even if he is endowed with all the qualities of a real man listed in the article, you can find a lot of shortcomings and inconsistencies. There are practically no ideal and perfect representatives of the stronger sex. The main quality of an ideal man is love for his woman.
What is the concept of "ideal" for me? Probably, the synonyms that I select mentally when I hear this word will answer this question: utopia, unreal image, template, standard. I think enough.
The ideal, like any, exclusively personal subject, depending on individual tastes, can be completely opposite, according to different people. But there are still some general touches that everyone uses, then, already in their own taste, style and interest, completing the main picture. These fuzzy lines that serve as dotted lines should most likely carry a positive charge. Simply put, the ideal is something positive and bright.
When people fall into the perspective of any concept (regardless of gender, age, etc.), it must be remembered that a person is not a computer, not a robot, and nothing extreme should be allowed. It is impossible to see an animated face from the very beginning in that in which it is impossible to see it. Speaking clearly, if we talk about people, then the calculation of the "ideal" is inappropriate. This is not true from start to finish.
There is nothing similar in this world, and nothing is perfect. We have not yet come up with something that perfectly meets absolutely all requirements and standards. Then why all this talk, why constant talk and shouting, arguments and quarrels?
I can philosophize long and tediously on the topic of "ideal" men, but, despite the provisions of the hostess of the article, I decided to include other people's opinions in the dialogue. This, on the one hand, is interesting, and on the other hand, it confirms what was previously written that the opportunity to discuss something and someone is a chance "not to be bored." So, sit back and get ready to listen first to the men who responded to the request to imagine themselves in the role of a woman and indicate what an ideal man should be like?
1. To love (this includes flowers (not only for holidays), carrying on hands, gifts, performing various quirks and whims, well, sex, probably more often - this is for advanced long-term couples or families, and so that you don’t fall asleep immediately after it, but talked a lot about how good, gentle and affectionate I am, etc., etc.
2. Attentive attitude - after work, to communicate with me and my family, did not sit all night long at the TV or computer, remembered our important dates - such as when we started dating, when we got married, when ... and more - and made me surprises on them.
3. To bring money into the house, which would be enough not only for pins and hairpins, but also for at least a weekly shopping in boutiques.
4. To not be a bore, to have a sense of humor, to speak interestingly and beautifully, but not to be a talker, to be a sociable guy (but in any company so as not to forget about me), to love my parents (or at least respect them - I don’t demand the impossible) , was an independent, well-established interesting person (although I will always correct those character traits that I don’t like), he listened (or at least pretended) to my opinion.
5. And, of course, that he drank and smoked in moderation (that is, a little with me). This is the main thing, we will decide everything else in the course of life. Well, something like that."
Maxim, manager, 27 years old, married, 1 child, 1.5 years of marriage - I myself am not ideal, according to my wife.
“It’s really hard for me to say what image of the ideal man women draw for themselves. I’m 38 years old and I don’t consider myself an old man or a man of old formations. I can only assume that it should be important for a woman that next to her is a real man with whom reliably, easily, warmly, and she can always hide from all adversity behind his wide, or not very, back.Unfortunately, in society, values change and perhaps for some it is more material wealth, but all this, in fact passing and, unfortunately, not from a good life, but love, decency, honesty are constant categories. And it seems to me that this is what should be valued. "
Evgeny Narcissov, director of the firm.
“The thought is this: there may be an ideal man for a single woman, and maybe one that is close to the ideal for the majority. Paradoxical as it sounds, he must be a woman or know what it means to be a woman - only in this case he will be able to most fully understand women - if there is a desire, of course.
Vyacheslav, psychologist, 25 years old.
Opinions, in my opinion, are different and there is something to think about and reason about. Just do not rush to conclusions, because you have not yet learned the point of view of the ladies who agreed to answer the question: What should be the ideal man for you?
"So that's it! Probably, appearance is still not the main thing ... so I'll go straight to the character ... or behavior ... For me, the ideal man is the type of Rhett Battler ("Gone with the Wind"), (or the heroes of Antonio Banderas), i.e. first of all - a man!Sexuality should be felt, albeit hidden, but I should feel that when we are left alone ... Further, I must be gentle, but at the same time, so that masculine power is felt both in actions and in Kind, reasonable (one of us must be reasonable), with a good sense of humor - this is, perhaps, a must ... It does not have to be a lover of parties, but it is easy enough to get up for all sorts of walks, romantic evenings and other forays dear to a woman's heart. Oh, in my opinion, I am describing my own husband ... And, of course, he must love me, but if it had not yet come to love, then see all of the above "...
Natalia, manager, 24
1. smart
2. with a sense of humor
3. generous
4. determined
5. last and foremost: He must be a MAN!!!
1. I do not consider myself a fool, especially since I have two higher educations in various fields of activity (legal and acting). If I have time and no one is around, I spend it with a book. Friends consider me an intellectual, because curiosity is the main feature of my character ... I hope it is clear that the man next to me should not lag behind me in my horizons and even be a little higher level, so that it would be interesting to catch up.
2. I am a cheerful person, and for us to be always funny together, only my witticisms are not enough.
3. I don't like mean people, but the main idea is still not about money. Generous for the time devoted to me, generous for beautiful words (even smart women love with their ears), generous for affection, kindness and care.
4. A man who does not know how to make decisions is not just not perfect, but simply NOT a man. Details below:
5. A MAN is a person who is opposite to a woman in terms of sexual and functional characteristics. He must hammer nails, must carry weights, must have the last word, must be the OWNER. I will never tolerate a comrade nearby who needs to be managed, who needs to be led by the hand and who does not know what is important for him in life and what is secondary.
Eva, theater actress, 32 years old
"I love testing men, choosing the most suitable candidate for my brutal appetite, and therefore ideal for me. Since I live in the virtual space all my time, the casting takes place there. I can take off my stockings, faint and demand artificial respiration, I can dance flamengo and knock with castañedas, drink martinis and offer all kinds of personalities hiding under loud nicknames to drink brotherhood. Naturally, while playing, I watch how a man behaves in different situations. to himself confident types. So it turns out that my ideal man should be strong and dexterous, held and wealthy, with the ability to formulate his thoughts verbally and have a decent supply of compliments, because a woman loves with her ears. He must have an aversion to pasta, since I they make me fat.To have great feelings for cats, because he will have to share our family bed with my mustachioed pet as well. eat. To adore children (who are simply obliged to be born) and pamper them with all sorts of gifts, however, like their mother. To endure and respect my beloved girlfriend Aska and our cute hourly chirping with her. Do not restrict my freedom. Don't have the audacity to say that there is no need to wear short skirts because there are long ones. Once a month, give kindness and attention to your mother-in-law. The main thing is to revere and bow before such a miracle of miracles like me. Continue the list?"
Ann, frequenter of Cleo's mini-chat, she is 17 years old
I've saved my humble opinion on the subject for last. About my position on the question of "ideal" in general, I have already told at the beginning. As for ideal men, I think they do not exist, if only because there are no ideal women. Naturally, I evaluate people at a meeting, acquaintance, at work, in life, and there are still a lot of options when you can put a label on a particular person. To be honest, I don’t really like the word “label” and I don’t like to hang this, but it’s easier to call the habit of judging people on their dignity. Although often for shortcomings.
Just the other day I was asked: what should be the ideal man? I could not give a clear answer to this simple question, it turned out that it was not easy. Because in my attitude towards people (separately men and women separately) there are certain criteria and certain general qualities that I like, but I don’t want to take them out as an “ideal image”, since a single person is a separate image.
In men (since we are talking about them), I have always appreciated two main features - decency and a sense of humor. The first determines a person's ability to focus on universal values and principles of life, and the second - to ignore the fact that life and universal values and principles are often incompatible.
