What's wrong with dreaming about love? Nothing. But if this love is doomed to failure, you need to stop injuring yourself with thoughts of failed happiness. Such torments and sighs for your beloved will only suck energy and joy out of your life. I used to think that sympathy and mental anguish are sent from above, and we cannot control them. However, the right attitude and simple actions will help you gain control over your condition.
If you are mentally healthy, then you can handle this task.
What is required for this:
Think and answer yourself if you have a desire. All you need to get started is this.
Why do you want to forget someone?
Perhaps you broke up or you were abandoned, betrayed, hurt. Or maybe you have never been together because he has a wife or she lives in another city. If this reason is strong enough, then it will reinforce your desire on the path to liberation from unnecessary thoughts.
Don't get hung up on whether you think or don't think about the person you need to forget. Try to calmly note that such thoughts have appeared and switch your attention. The main secret is not not to think, but to think about something else.
For example, when you are told not to think about white monkeys, you immediately think of them. This is how our brain works. Thoughts cannot be empty. But it’s also not possible to think about everything at once. Therefore, loading his mind with work, he will have no time to pick at old wounds.
Of course, the result will not be immediately, but know that you are on the right track.
There is a rule that has proven its effectiveness: out of sight, out of mind. You need to stop communicating with the person you want to forget. Otherwise, how to get rid of thoughts from someone who is constantly in sight?
For this:
Sometimes you still have to meet. For example, you are colleagues or ex-spouses and you have a common child. Then try not to attach great importance to meetings.
The main working mechanism is to load the mind with deeds.
Often we idealize our beloved too much, which is why it is so difficult to get rid of thoughts about him.
It is a useful exercise to present in an unsightly light the one you want to forget. Everyone has certain taboos, and you can use yours to gain peace of mind. Just play a little movie in your head about how your beloved commits an offense for which you cannot forgive him. And it really can be!
There are also certain exercises that will help you let off steam from emotions and allow you to calm down.
So, if resentment gnaws at you and you want to express everything that is in your soul to a person, but there is no such possibility or you wisely do not do this, you can use a letter. Take a piece of paper, write down the thoughts that are constantly spinning in your head, then fold the piece of paper and burn it. It is not necessary to send it to the addressee.
When the trauma is severe, it is better to contact a psychologist to work on this issue. You do not need to keep anger, resentment and other negative emotions in yourself, because they can destroy your new relationship. Get rid of them.
In any case, you need to continue to lead an active lifestyle and not let one person destroy your world. Look around, there are many opportunities to find happiness.
People of a creative nature are prone to hobbies and are able to in a short period of time.
More balanced persons are less likely to experience outbursts of new sympathies, but they may experience difficulty overcoming obsession on someone.
How move to a new stage of life leaving in the past the shadows and images of people, because of which the heart trembled treacherously, and disturbing and sweet dreams were dreamed at night?
What to do if you like a married man? Learn about it from ours.
Why shouldn't you think about the person you like?
In some cases, fixation on some person is formed not even because of real sympathy for this subject, but because of difficult life circumstances that force the psyche of the traumatized look for a suitable point to shift attention.
Finding out on your own the true reason for the passion for others in this case is quite difficult, and a course of correction by a psychotherapist is the best way out of the situation.
Why try free memory from a pleasantly disturbing image:
They try to forget the sweetheart even if the prospect of creating a temporary or permanent couple absolutely zero.
Realizing the insurmountability of the barrier in the form of, for example, complete disregard on the part of the object of sympathy, a healthy person seeks to get rid of the feeling of the heart, since it brings pain, irritation, prevents one from concentrating on the performance of duties and exhausting around the clock.
With a healthy psyche and a great desire - always. Of course, complete "amnesia" is difficult to achieve. But push back memories and fantasies on this subject to the farthest recesses of memory completely.
Yes, some methods may seem almost sacrilegious. How can one allow such thoughts about the object of sighing? But it is precisely such bitter "pills" that cure unwanted sympathies.
"Shameless" manipulations and others tricks for the good of the soul and protection against:
How to force yourself to stop communicating with the person you like?
It is better to separate from attachments competently so that the gap, albeit one-sided - a typical phenomenon in unrequited passion, does not become fertile ground for problems with future relationships.
How to forget a guy you like unrequitedly? Stop idealizing the person.
Most likely, the reason why it is difficult to “stick” from him was formed because of your own problems received in childhood.
Determine why you are afraid of real relationships and specifically subconsciously included in those that have no future.
It's possible that the issue is:
If all of the above seems to be true, try to seek advice to a good psychologist to further understand how normal relationships and healthy attachments are formed.
What else can be done:
How to stop thinking about a guy? Advice:
How to stop thinking about the girl you like? Young people do not particularly like to delve into the advice of psychologists and their problems, stretching from deep childhood. Firstly, it is good to philosophize by the fire and about the meaning of life, and not about ladies.
Secondly, adolescence is left behind, so why remember him and his problems? Therefore, with the above-mentioned complexity in life it is better to immediately proceed to real actions:
Subconscious- a strange thing, but very sensitive. Therefore, if somewhere and in some way you feel that the person you like is not yours, try to exclude not only him, but also memories of him from your life in order to receive only pleasant presents and pleasing relationships from her in the future. Believe me in the future they will definitely appear for you!
What to do and what to do when you catch yourself thinking that you think too often about someone, our today's article on the site Koshechka.ru. This time we'll figure it out how to stop thinking about a person.
In order to get rid of this kind of addiction, and constant thinking and remembering is exactly addiction, you need to try to put everything on the shelves and honestly answer certain questions for yourself. It is necessary not only to look at yourself from the outside, but to coldly and soberly, unemotionally assess the current situation.
All of the above is just what can happen to you if you do not stop torturing and tormenting yourself. You just need to understand for yourself that such behavior destroys your life, torments and exhausts you, does not allow you to go further and, in fact, is absolutely pointless. There are so many interesting moments, events and opportunities in life, life is one and it is short. And is it worth spending it on self-criticism.
Now let's talk about what often happens to young people when you suffer in silence.
Many girls think this way: “I feel so bad, I suffer so much, and he ...” And he sleeps peacefully, eats and continues to live. This is another argument in support of the fact that sad thoughts are groundless. You're killing yourself and he doesn't know or even think about it. In addition, if he does not show himself in any way in relation to you, it is worth closing this chapter of your life forever, the site advises.
How to stop thinking about a person? Understand that if he is not looking for contact with you, then you can not torment yourself with memories!
Even if you are already tired of persuading yourself not to think about your loved one and are increasingly thinking about returning your relationship, then you should weigh the pros and cons. But most of the time it doesn't make sense. Because the problem or reason that separated you has not disappeared. For example, a young man cheated quite often. And you still want to build a relationship with him. But why does he need old problems when now he is a free man and no one controls him, does not saw his brain and does not make scenes? Even if he agrees, there is no guarantee that it will not be out of pity, and he will try to hide his betrayals more carefully. If the reason for the breakup was work, hobbies or friends, then this has not disappeared anywhere. And what makes you think that he, having not previously given up part of his life, will now give up for you? And, if the reason was in your hobbies, in your friends, or in what you really liked and what you wanted to do, but he forbade it. Then in sad thoughts, in all these sufferings and the resumption of relationships, all the more there is no point. Relationships are mutual respect, for the life of another person in all its manifestations.
If your mistakes and actions caused a breakup, it gnaws at you, and you can’t stop thinking about your loved one and you really want to fix everything, then think carefully. Suppose now your ex is living a completely different life in which you no longer exist, and he does not seek to change anything. Then you should just talk to him and apologize. This will help ease your suffering and get rid of sad thoughts that are better directed in another direction. For example, mentally identify mistakes and try to never make them in relation to loved ones, so as not to suffer like this anymore and not lose loved ones because of them.
Many examples can be given. Just stop torturing yourself by analyzing and remembering. He has been living a different life for a long time, perhaps even busy with other relationships. And your endless thoughts concern only you. In order to don't think about the person anymore, it is enough to realize that this destroys your life, kills from the inside, deprives you of the opportunity to regain a wonderful feeling of love and many joys. Be strong, because time does not wait!
Bruslik Maria - especially for Koshechka.ru - a site for lovers ... into yourself!
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How to stop thinking about who is annoying, who left or who you will never be together with? These three variants of questions, based on the same thing: the desire to stop thinking, are quite common on the Internet. People asking this question have one thing in common - they suffer and would like to get rid of addiction. I didn’t specifically look for an answer to this question, but I accidentally stumbled upon some interesting facts that gave birth to reflections in my brain.Reading mystical sites, you can easily find information about thought forms. Which, as stated, take an active part in our life with you. Moreover, there are descriptions of experiments during which this very influence can be seen, so to speak. I want to tell you about one such experience that I found on the Internet.
A certain scientist, using special equipment, took pictures of the aura of a group of people being tested. He asked the subjects to think about some specific people and then filmed their aura. While thinking about a person, a plasma image of the person he was thinking about was separated from the thinker's aura and hung next to the subject. This plasma image outwardly resembled the person the person was thinking about. In fact, the subject's thought created the apparition of the person being thought of. But his "life" was short, it disappeared after the subject stopped thinking. At some point in the experiment, an incident occurred - a lighting lamp exploded. But the curious scientist kept filming. In the following photos, the plasma thought forms immediately after the explosion of the lamp grew several times. The scientist came to the conclusion that the energy from the fright of the people participating in the experiment nourished the thought forms they created and gave them life.
The same thing happens with those who voluntarily or involuntarily think about someone. In fact, with any of us. As soon as we think about a person, we surround ourselves with the plasma ghosts of this person created by us. When our thoughts are pleasant and joyful, thought forms also receive a positive charge. If you have ever been in love, then you must be familiar with this feeling of the presence of the object of your passion next to you. But our unpleasant thoughts about someone, our suffering and fears, charge with negativity and increase the size of the plasma ghost. And the more we think and the stronger the negative, the longer our thought form lives. And having acquired a life of its own, it is already beginning to influence us.
This may explain obsessive thoughts about someone that we are not able to control. No matter how hard we try not to think about a person, thoughts seem to be born themselves in our brain. These are the plasma thought-forms created by us that control our consciousness, constantly reminding us of ourselves in order to be nourished. And we involuntarily feed them with negative energy that has arisen from our suffering. What to do, how to get rid of our own "works"?
Now, knowing how the mechanism of our thoughts works, we can take it into our own hands and change it. We need to stop breeding plasma monsters that force us to feed them and clone them. We need to understand that when we think about a person, we do not send him anything, but surround ourselves with new thoughts about him. Therefore, thinking about someone, we do not create contacts and connections, but on the contrary, we cut and shorten the circle of our territory.
Close your eyes and imagine your day thinking about someone. So you got up in your house in the morning and the first thing you did was fill your house with the ghosts of another person. In your absence, they will affect people in your home. Especially if you have previously fed them with your suffering. You go to work and the same dull copies of the person you are suffering from are trailing behind you. They surround you at work or while studying and prevent you from working and studying productively. Is not it? In the evening you return home, where they meet you again, already weakened and begin to remind you of your suffering, waiting for food. Horror and only!
So what should be done first? You need to find a theme that will help you in the fight against the plasma ghosts. It may be some old hobby of yours, a hobby that you have abandoned. Or something new, but inapplicable bringing you positive emotions. If there is nothing like this in your life, then the universal will fit - thoughts about money. Find yourself an object that you would like to get for money, by the way, this can also be an object of your hobby. And mentally set a goal - to earn money for this object. Think as far as possible about ways to make money, trying not to turn to crime. Talk to people, asking them about new earning opportunities. You will be surrounded by money thought forms, and when you dream about money, they will grow, receiving your positive emotions. New plasma money thought-forms will start to slowly displace the human thought-forms and, influencing you, will push you to new types of earnings. You just need to let them do it.
Do not be afraid to turn into a careerist, obsessed with work and money. Or become crazy about some idea or hobby. After all, you already know the mechanism of appearance and influence of thought forms. So, at any time you can adjust it yourself. And your life, your destiny, will follow the path chosen by you. Dare!
