What is a real person, how does he think, behave, what is his message? Quotes, examples and the meaning of selflessness, friendship and kindness in life.
Selflessness is not material consciousness
This is the entrance to the spiritual realm. And if we begin to live with disinterested feelings, this energy will come. Because this is spiritual mathematics: the more you give, the more will come to you. This is a completely different reality of life. This is the reality of the soul: the more you give, the more comes to you.
Because it is through this mood that we get a connection with the Highest source. The highest source - it is full, you see, it gives to everyone. This is the original, Divine love that supports all living things in this universe. He gives all the time.
And look, everything works: the sun rises every day. We don’t even have such a thought: why didn’t it come up? And why does it arise, in fact, never thought? It's a perpetual motion machine. People are constantly trying to invent a perpetual motion machine. And the Sun ... every day operates according to this law, do you understand? Do you understand that there is another reality, another reality of existence? She's just around us.
Oleg Gadetsky
“The mind is a mad monkey heading towards the abyss. Moreover, the thought that the mind is a mad monkey rushing to the abyss is nothing more than a flirtatious attempt by the mad monkey to correct his hair on the way to the cliff. "
Victor Pelevin
Examples and proverbs of friendship. generosity and selflessness in life
Like attracts like. Be yourself - calm, clear, bright. Ask yourself every minute if this is what you really want to do, and do it only when you hear the answer “yes”. This will drive away those with whom you do not learn anything about yourself, and will attract others from whom you should learn.
Richard Bach
Depression comes from self-love. Obsession and preoccupation with yourself makes you depressed. To love yourself is to live in vain. Don't love yourself, love God and your neighbor - and you will never get depressed.
Schiarchimandrite Joachim Parr
You yourself determine how much joy and pain to experience in the future, simply by becoming a REASON FOR OTHERS. No one will put too much on your plate.
In order to become happy, we need to bring the energy of goodness into our lives. And you can't buy it for money, you have to work on it. It is not for nothing that the Vedas say that happiness is in goodness "at first like poison, then like honey." We have to work on ourselves, on our character traits.
The energy of goodness is taken from meditations, prayers, communication with exalted people ... This energy is also called the energy of purity. We just need to think about purity in our life - purity of food, lifestyle, purity of relationships, pure thoughts, and then happiness will become an integral companion of our life, and people around us will feel trust, calmness and joy in our presence.
Then we will be real people, because a person will have to raise his level of consciousness from the animal to the human, and from the human to the Divine.
Marina Targakova
"Happinnes exists! It cannot but be! "
Does the soul negotiate with God its fate in the next incarnation immediately after death?
If a soul has learned to talk with God during its lifetime, it will not have the desire to discuss anything with Him. She understands that everything is God's will, that God knows best what will be good for the soul. The soul is aware of its position as a servant.
Meaning, problems and quotes about selflessness and generosity
After death, the Lord reveals to the soul its entire life, lived and future, and says that it will not be He who will deal with its fate, but His special forces, the administrators of the Universe.
After death, for a certain period of time, the soul opens up spiritual sight, and it sees God, but cannot say anything. At the same time, she does not have any questions for God, everything is already clear (that she needs to get a new form, work off karma, etc.).
The soul has no claims to God, but there is an understanding that everything that it has, it all deserved, and the soul also has a feeling of gratitude to God. For the fact that He has just shown Himself to her, which gives the opportunity to be near Him, that He will not abandon her, that He will go with her to the next form of life (in the form of the Oversoul). That is, the Lord is always with the soul, even if it turns into a dung worm. Therefore, the Lord is our best friend.
Vladimir Sleptsov (Valmiki das)
You will not find anything in the world around you that is not in your soul. There are no people in whom there is nothing good, just as there are no absolutely bad people. Every soul has both good and bad. The more love, wisdom, beauty, kindness you discover in yourself, the more you will notice them in the world around you.
It seems to you that if you do not see something, it does not exist. No, you just do not notice in the world that which is not inside you. An evil person does not see good. To the greedy, everyone seems to be greedy, to the lover the world seems to be filled with love, and to the hater - with hatred.
Therefore, make no mistake: you will never achieve wealth, peace and happiness outside of you if you have not made an effort to find them in yourself.
Mother Teresa
Selflessness creates a crystalline clarity that extinguishes the vibrant coloration of flowers and precious stones, just as excessive sunlight fades the brightness of colors.
Annie Besant
Blessed are the poor, for they can have disinterested friends!
Marc Gilbert Sauvageon
Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra
Self-interest speaks all languages and plays any role - even the role of selflessness.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Unselfish people are always too expensive.
Joan of Arc
Selflessness is a deep moral satisfaction at the expense of some material costs.
Vigen Ohanyan
Unselfish - illusions, selfish - money with which you can buy illusions.
Wojciech Werciech
Selfless friendship is possible only between people with the same income.
Paul Getty, billionaire
Self-interest often calculates worse than selflessness.
Pierre Bouast
Selflessness is a deep moral satisfaction at the expense of some material costs.
Vigen Ohanyan
One should not stretch one's selflessness to the point of surrendering to the power of ingratitude.
Pierre Bouast
Self-interest speaks all languages and plays any role, including the role of selflessness.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
He lived on interest from disinterestedness.
Alexander Ratner
Self-interest is insatiable.
(Pittac)
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Selfishness takes away the most cherished feelings - love for the fatherland, family love, love for virtue and purity.
(Sallust)
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Peace is wonderful, recklessness is dangerous, self-interest is disgusting.
(Lermontov M. Yu.)
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Selfishness makes of a person the same miracles as love.
(Fonvizin D.I.)
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Selflessness is one of the most commendable virtues that give rise to good glory.
(Cervantes)
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When self-interest sounds in words, do not believe Neither the flattery of a woman, nor the intrigues of a man.
(Navoi A.)
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If a person has even one selfish thought, his firmness will turn into cowardice, his knowledge - recklessness, and purity - viciousness. His whole life will be ruined. That is why the ancients considered selflessness to be the greatest asset. The one who possesses it will ascend over the whole world.
(Hong Zicheng)
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Great sorrows are always the fruit of unbridled greed.
(Voltaire)
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The toughest of all is the one who is soft out of self-interest.
(Vovenargue)
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Selfishness rarely wins love.
(Fonvizin D.I.)
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The appearance of virtue benefits self-interest no less than vice.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
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Virtues are lost in self-interest, like rivers in the sea.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
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Self-interest blinds some, opens their eyes to others.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
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Natural good nature, which loves to boast of its sensitivity, often falls silent, defeated by the smallest self-interest.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
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Self-interest speaks all languages and plays any role - even the role of selflessness.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
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Self-interest activates all virtues and all vices.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
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Whatever we explain our grief, most often they are based on deceived self-interest or wounded vanity.
(Francois de La Rochefoucault)
We have heard that selflessness is one of the qualities that a spiritually oriented person should develop in himself.
Watching how people try to selflessly serve and love others, “without expecting anything in return,” I see how all their attempts invariably fail. And all from a misunderstanding of what selflessness is.
Selflessly does not mean free. Selflessly means wanting and expecting no more in return than it is worth. Unselfishness is a conscious refusal of profit where it can be obtained (without self-interest, without profit). Selflessly means without the expectation of super-profit. Receiving a commensurate payment for your work, contribution is normal, it is a fair exchange on which human society and relations are built. The requirement beyond what is invested is already self-interest. Therefore, those who sell their goods and services at a fair and proportionate price are disinterested. Those who take advantage of the worsening conditions, the bad situation and fight for it in three ways - are selfish. But it is unfair to blame people who want fair pay for their work for selfishness.
It happens that people, having an excess, share it. They share without asking for anything in return because this process is not a burden for them, but a joy. For ungrateful recipients of such gifts, it is a freebie. Not feeling responsible to return something in return out of gratitude, wanting to consolidate the process of getting freebies, such consumers call only such a process of “free distribution of elephants” “disinterestedness”, equating it with “free” and meaning that “you are everything to me, I but nothing to you and be happy that I call you kind and disinterested, but in fact I envy and hate you. "
An unselfish person may strive to get profit and benefit from cooperation, from his labor. It `s naturally. But the mercenary strives for super-profit, for what he did not earn, for what he did not deserve. That's the whole difference.
“But what about selfless love?” You ask. No different, I will answer. It's okay to expect love in return for your love. But not in excess of what I gave. It is normal and natural to expect to be loved in return for my love. But expecting to be loved more than I invested in love for another is self-interest. There are people who are full of love and they give love out of abundance. "Freeloaders" call it "disinterestedness" - when you can use others and not return anything in return.
“Expect nothing in return” is an illusion. Everyone who loves expects love in return because it makes it possible to deepen, expand love. Everyone strives to deepen and increase the flow of love. Even religions claim that in spite of the fact that “God loves us unselfishly,” he nevertheless expects us to love him too (which means there is still an expectation), and, as religions claim, stimulates us to this. For example, threats of eternal hellish torment or endless karmic reincarnations. We see that the “unselfish God” in the religious view is not so unselfish if he requires obedience, fulfillment of conditions and prescriptions, which, moreover, are extremely complex and not logical.
If we accept the existence of God as an infinitely loving being, infinitely patient in his love, unselfish, then all the requirements “love me or suffer” look meaningless.
But disinterestedness, as I wrote above, does not mean without waiting. Unselfishness is the expectation of an adequate response (no self-interest, no extra profit). Therefore, selfless love is not a freebie. Selflessness is waiting for gratitude and understanding, waiting for an answer. And this is natural.
Be happy!
psychologist Alexander Shakhov
When disclosing this issue, the essence of friendship should be emphasized. It is based on common goals and interests, mutual attractiveness, trust and devotion, strength and duration of interpersonal relationships.
“He who does not seek friendship with his neighbor is his own sworn enemy,” said Shota Rustaveli back in the 12th century. But even now these words have not lost their significance. There is hardly a person who would not reflect on the essence of friendship, would not want to have a friend or be a friend. The need to have a true friend is especially acute in early adolescence. If a teenager is looking for his own group, then the young man is already striving for individual friendship.
Here the teacher can pose the question: what is true friendship? Summarizing the students' answers, it is advisable for the teacher to give several definitions that characterize the main aspects of the concept of "friendship". In the Great Soviet Encyclopedia (M., 1972, v. 8, p. 1518) friendship is defined as relations between people based on mutual affection, spiritual closeness, community of interests, etc. Ethics experts almost echo this: “Friendship is it is a lasting personal attachment between people, which arose on the basis of the unity of views, interests and goals and has stood the test of time. " Psychologists note mutual understanding, empathy, deep emotional attachment as the most important signs of friendship.
At all times, friendship as a whole was considered the highest moral value. However, in different historical conditions, its moral foundations, its social significance, opportunities for its development were different.
In any class antagonistic society, there are many restrictions on the development of friendship. For example, a person who lived in the era of slavery hardly admitted the idea of friendship between free and slaves.
Socialism, having eliminated private property and relations of domination and subordination, created favorable conditions for the development of friendship. After all, the previously existing inequality, hostility between people was a barrier to the emergence of friendship, undermined its foundations.
In a developed socialist society, more and more conditions are being created for the development of friendly relations. But this does not mean that in our country friendship can arise between any people, that every person can be a friend.
A good school of friendship is camaraderie. Here, the following question to the class is also appropriate: what are the main moral qualities that allow a person to be a true friend. Students name a number of such qualities. Systematizing and summarizing their answers, the teacher emphasizes that "friendship develops and grows stronger only with high moral qualities of people." Marxist ethics especially emphasizes the importance of such moral requirements as deep mutual interest in each other's affairs and lives; complete trust in each other, based on honesty and sincerity in words and deeds; mutual support and assistance in solving difficult problems of life, especially in trouble and grief, willingness to sacrifice one's own interests for the sake of helping a friend; devotion and loyalty in friendship, combined with complete selflessness; mutual exactingness arising from a sense of responsibility for a friend, from caring for him
And another question for students: what human vices are especially incompatible with friendship? Together with vices, they can also name shortcomings - hot temper, weak-willedness, forgetfulness, slowness, indecision, etc. It should be emphasized here that these and other similar shortcomings should not be a hindrance to friendship. She just has to help a person get rid of them. Selfishness, hypocrisy, deceit, selfishness, betrayal are incompatible with friendship. A swaggering, lazy, uncultured, indifferent person will not bring joy in friendly communication. Even the ancient Roman orator and philosopher Cicero noted that "friendship is possible only between honest people ...". The Persian poet Saadi stated:
He is a true friend who will show the way
All obstacles and help to pass.
Be wary of the flatterers as friends.
He is your true friend who is honest and straightforward.
And the great German poet Friedrich Schiller wrote: "True friendship is truthful and courageous." It is appropriate for the teacher to ask: why does friendship need courage? Students can answer: in order to achieve the intended goal, in order to overcome difficulties encountered on the path of friendship, trials. It's right. Another aspect of friendship is extremely important. The French moralist writer, author of the collection of aphorisms "Maxims" Francois La Rochefoucauld noted: "The greatest feat of friendship is not to show a friend our shortcomings, but to open his eyes to his own."
Nikolai Ostrovsky spoke about this very vividly: “Friendship is, first of all, sincerity, it is criticism of the mistakes of a comrade. Friends must be the first to give harsh criticism so that a friend can correct his mistake. " Pay attention to the statement of the ancient Greek thinker Solon: "Rebuke your friend in private, praise - in public." Here it is appropriate to ask students: "Is there a contradiction between the last two statements?" If students note the presence of a contradiction, the following should be said. At first glance, it seems that Solon's advice is outdated: you can't praise a friend publicly without a single comment. Here, of course, a measure is needed. NA Ostrovsky's words “to give harsh criticism” also at first seem too harsh. But in them - intolerance of mistakes, a passionate desire to help a friend correct them. Moreover, such criticism does not have to be public. A conversation in private (this is exactly what you should do!) Can be principled, impartial, but sincere and useful. All this, as it were, confirms the statement of Walter Scott: "You should not be angry with a friend who, wishing you well, will make you wake up from sweet dreams, even if he did it somewhat harshly and rudely."
It goes without saying that any kind of friendship, any of its positive motives, cannot be considered equivalent. "For all the intimacy of friendly relations, the scale of friendship is determined primarily by the social and moral value of the activities to which the friends have devoted themselves, the ideas and interests on which their union is based."
Friendship carries tremendous moral and educational strength. It makes a person more purposeful, nobler, more self-confident, kinder, more humane. Friendship inspires, inspires a person. Life presents a lot of evidence that many serious failures and even tragedies happened to people because at a difficult moment there was no true friend nearby who could provide the necessary help. But there are even more vivid examples of amazing discoveries and great victories achieved thanks to the friendly alliance of people.
True friendship is unthinkable without dedication. Unselfish, demanding neither rewards nor gifts in return. Let's remember the old aphorism: "What you gave is yours, what you took is lost." “It's like a competition between two for the right to be kinder, more cordial, and compliant. And here no one loses, both win. " Such "competition" enriches us, develops humanity in us, makes us feel happy.
Friendship helps to overcome difficulties. If the basis of friendship is the coinciding life affairs, significant ideas, then the eye often lasts for many, many years. The amazing friendship between A.I. Herzen and N.P. Ogarev continued throughout their lives. A. I. Herzen wrote: “... on the Sparrow Hills, in front of the whole of Moscow, we embraced, gave each other hands to walk through life together, and nothing will open our hands. We raised each other. This is my first feeling - Friendship. It gave me his deep soul, from which I could draw thought, as from the ocean. " Loyalty to each other was strengthened by loyalty to the noble idea to which they dedicated their lives.
The strength of the friendship between K. Marx and F. Engels was striking. It is no exaggeration to say that it continued after the death of Karl Marx: the loyalty of friendship helped F. Engels to complete and publish the works of his friend, to lead the international revolutionary movement. VI Lenin characterizes the friendship of these great people in the following way: "The European proletariat can say that its science was created by two scientists and fighters, whose relations surpass all the most touching legends of the ancients about human friendship."
But if friends are not united by socially significant goals and interests, if there is no unity in views and beliefs, then even with mutual personal sympathy, such a friendship at the very first serious life trials can collapse like a house of cards.
In support of this, it is appropriate for the teacher to read an excerpt from A. Fadeev's "Young Guard" (Collected works, vol. 2, pp. 41-42), where it is shown with great reliability how the friendship between Ulyana Gromova and Valya Filatova because they turned out to be very different people. Their parting was touching. “Some kind of premonition told them that what happened between them was happening for the last time. They not only felt, they knew that in some special spiritual sense they were forgiving forever. " If possible, it is advisable to conduct a short discussion here, posing the questions to the students: what was the main weakness of this friendship? Under what conditions would the fate of this friendship be different? Summarizing the opinions of students, the teacher pays special attention to the possibility of serious contradictions between friends, to the need for their moral regulation.
Friendship unites people with individual characteristics, different abilities and experiences, and peculiar temperaments. Contradictions, doubts, collisions can arise in it. In order not to damage friendship, not to weaken it, it is necessary to timely and correctly regulate the relationship between friends.
“The most important norms governing friendship relations are:
Naturally, friends must be ready to comply with these norms, must be able to do it delicately and respectfully. The basis of such a relationship is a constant desire to help a friend become smarter, more cultured, stronger, and help overcome shortcomings.
If relations between people are not based on these provisions, then they cannot be considered friendly. Justifying the shortcomings of a loved one, being undemanding to him, praising imaginary merits are signs of false friendship. It is not for nothing that folk wisdom says: "Not the friend who indulges, but the one who helps," "The foe assent, the friend argues." False friendship does not bring real benefit to either the individual or society. True, sometimes it creates the illusion of mutual benefit. But such gains are temporary, speculative, and ultimately harmful.
Remarkably, true friendship is highly selective. Man has few proven friends. K. Marx wrote: "... I enter into friendship with very few, but I value it."
Naturally, friendship does not arise by chance and develops according to its own laws. All this is clearly manifested in adolescence.
But still, what does
This word? So what is it?
What is real friendship? Whom does a person have the right to call his friend?
There are no unequivocal answers to these questions. But I am sure everyone should think about them. And I would like to start the conversation about friendship "from the opposite". The opposite of friendship is selfishness. An egoist cannot have a real friend ... Vladimir Ivanovich Dal in his "Explanatory Dictionary" gives the following definition of friendship: "disinterested persistent affection." The famous scientist and writer puts disinterestedness in the first place.
Municipal budgetary educational institution
Bolsheyanikovskaya secondary school
Urmarsky district of the Chuvash Republic
Classroom hour:
"About disinterestedness in friendship»
Chuvash language and literature teacher
D.Bolshoe Yanikovo
2011 r.
Target: raising the level of culture.
Tasks: to form in children the position of recognizing the value of friendship, a sense of responsibility for maintaining and strengthening friendship; overcoming negative phenomena in friendship, selfishness, selfishness; to form practical skills.
Registration:
"A friend is one who, whenever you need him, guesses about it" (J. Genan)
"Without true friendship, life is nothing" (Cicero)
"Three things are tested only in three cases: resilience in danger, wisdom in anger, and friendship in need" (French proverb)
"Mutual trust is the foundation of friendship" (Chinese proverb)
"In the explanation that the condition of friendship is the effort of each of the friends to correct by word or deed the noticed shortcomings of any other" (from the poem "The Golden Chain")
Event progress
1. Introductory speech of the teacher. The message of the goal of this class hour.The teacher reads an excerpt from L. Izmailov's poem "Monologue about Friendship".
What is friendship? Everyone knows.
Maybe it's funny to ask.
But still, what does
This word? So what is it?
What is real friendship? Whom does a person have the right to call his friend?
There are no unequivocal answers to these questions. But I am sure everyone should think about them. And I would like to start the conversation about friendship "from the opposite". The opposite of friendship is selfishness. An egoist cannot have a real friend ... Vladimir Ivanovich Dal in his "Explanatory Dictionary" gives the following definition of friendship: "disinterested persistent affection." The famous scientist and writer puts disinterestedness in the first place.
You are friends with the person because he is close to you. His interests, his views, his inner world are close. If a person chooses friends for himself "for beautiful eyes", "for fashionable clothes", then they never have real friends.
It happens that for the sake of friendship you need to sacrifice your personal interests. And if friendship is really valuable to you, you will do it without hesitation.
Speaking of friendship, one cannot but mention such an important concept as decency. Decency is at the core of many human actions. To intercede for a junior who is being offended, to give way to a trolleybus, to come to the aid of an old man - all this is a manifestation of decency ...
I would put decency first when talking about friendship. Because I am sure - only a decent person can have real, loyal, reliable friends. Friends for life. The kind that each of you dreams of.
"Friend". "Make friends". "Friendship". What do you mean by these words? Can you give a clear definition of these concepts? We will try to find the answer to our question in the poem "What is friendship?" Leakey
1st reader:
Friendship is a warm wind
Friendship is a bright world
Friendship is the sun at dawn
A fun feast for the soul.
Friendship is only happiness
Friendship - people have one.
With friendship, bad weather is not afraid,
With friendship - life is full in spring.
2nd reader:
A friend will share pain and joy
A friend will support and save.
With a friend - even an evil weakness
In a moment it will melt and go away.
Believe, keep, value the friendship,
This is the highest ideal.
She will serve you.
After all, friendship is a valuable gift!
2. Teacher. Every person has to deal with friendship in life. When a person has real friends, it greatly affects even how happy they feel. What is needed for this. Listen to the parable "A REAL FRIEND" and you will understand everything.
Putting its head out of the nest, the eaglet saw many birds flying below among the rocks.
- Mom, what are these birds? - he asked.
“Our friends,” the eagle replied to her son. - The eagle lives alone - this is his lot. But sometimes he also needs an environment. Otherwise, what kind of king of birds is he? Everyone you see below are our faithful friends.
Satisfied with its mother's explanation, the eaglet continued to observe the flight of the birds with interest, considering them henceforth to be its faithful friends. Suddenly he shouted:
- Ay-ay, they stole food from us!
birds living in the neighborhood. At such a height, they cannot find food for themselves, and they should be helped.
Anyone who wants to have faithful friends should be kind and tolerant, showing attention to the needs of others. Honor and respect
Discussion of the parable.
- Do you agree with the eagle's words and why?
3. What is friendship?
1st presenter. Dictionaries give many interpretations of the word "friend". Explanatory and derivational dictionary in explanation is much simpler: “Friend. 1. Someone who is closely associated with someone by friendship, loved one, beloved or beloved. 2. A supporter of someone, a defender of someone’s interests, views ... 4. Colloquial. Used as a friendly address to someone. "
2nd leader. Friendship is "a close relationship based on mutual trust, affection, community of interests" (Explanatory Dictionary of Ozhegov) ... Friendship is a deep connection between people, which presupposes "not only loyalty and mutual assistance, but also inner closeness, frankness, .. love"(Encyclopedia "Krugosvet").
But the dictionary of synonyms is much more extensive. “Friend (friend, girlfriend), well-wisher, friend, supporter, confidante, brother-in-law, brother-in-law, comrade. A close friend, sincere, bosom, intimate, sincere, unchanging, old.
1st presenter. Get acquainted with the reflections on friendship of the modern writer Felix Krivin and try to answer the following questions: Why does a person need a friend? Why are the rails always close by?
The rails are always close, but never meet. I would like to meet, but business does not allow: each rail carries half of the tram. And they do not diverge for the same reason: after all, if one even for a minute
the point will be absent, the other will have to carry the whole tram.This is real friendship: to be with a friend not for play, not for fun, but to take on half of the tram so that the friend does not have to carry the whole tram.
4. Traits that characterize friendship. Situational questions to students.
1) A 3rd grade student wrote the following note to the newspaper: “There is a boy in our class who is probably in a very often bad mood. In our class, he feels like a stranger, alone. At breaks, he always stands either by the wall or by the window. And his eyes are sad, sad. He stands and looks at the guys who are having fun, playing, laughing. Sometimes I notice that he also wants to play with the guys. He even sometimes hesitantly takes a step forward, but then again moves back to the wall.
Guys! We need to do something to make everyone have fun and make everyone friends. Lena".
Question. What advice would you give Lena and the guys?
2) All fives to one
At Svetlova Nadia.
I ask: - And you are with me
Make friends even for a day!
You and I will get along:
Will you save me-
Let me write off the test.
And the girls are rearing up!
They say: I would be silent!
Do not get down on your knees
Persuading friends ...
I'll write an ad:
A friend is urgently needed!
Question. Why don't they want to be friends with this girl?
3) There were two inseparable first-grader girlfriends. Both of them are small, fair-haired, they looked very much like each other. Both mothers were dressed in the same dresses, both studied only for grades.
We are in everything, in everything the same! - said the girls with pride.
But one day Sonya, that was the name of one of the girls, ran home and boasted to her mother:
I got a five in arithmetic, and Vera only got a C. We are no longer the same ...
Mom looked at her daughter carefully. Then she said sadly:
Yes, you got worse ...
Me? - Sonya was surprised. - But I didn't get the top three! ..
Vera got the top three, but she got it because she was sick the other day ... And you were delighted - and this is much worse.
Question. Why did mom blame Sonya? What would you say to Sonya?
5. Drawing up the "Laws of Friendship" by students.
1. One for all and all for one.
2. With a good friend, it is more fun with luck, easier in trouble.
3. Do not quarrel or argue with a friend over trifles.
4. Don't sneak, it's better to fix it yourself.
5. Do not be arrogant if you do something very well. Do not be angry or discouraged if something did not work out for you.
6. In conversation, in the game, do not be rude, do not shout.
Teacher. The following conclusion can be drawn from the "Laws of Friendship". Friendship can be constant and joyful only when you are attentive to each other, learn to subtly observe the mood, state of mind of a friend, share with him his joys and weaknesses.
And here are some of the "Laws of Friendship" mentioned by VA Sukhomlinsky in the book "The Wise Power of the Collective":
Don't leave your friend in trouble. To turn away from a friend in a difficult moment for him means to morally prepare oneself for betrayal.
Friendship is the moral enrichment of a person. Finding a reliable friend, you multiply your strength, become morally cleaner, richer, more beautiful.
Friendship is faith in a person and exactingness towards him. The deeper your faith, the higher your exactingness should be, the more you owe, you owe.
To be demanding in a friendship means to have the courage to break it if a friend betrays what the friendship is built for. Unscrupulousness devastates friendship.
Know how to make you and your friend united by the unity of spirit and ideals. True friendship protects against selfishness, teaches us to condemn greed.
6. We said that friendship has its own laws, and the main one is the ability to help a friend.Let's play the game "Collect the proverb".The class is divided into groups and each group has an envelope with proverbs. For a certain time, they must collect proverbs and sayings from individual words.
1) Look for a friend, but if you find it, take care of it. 2) You can't recognize a friend without trouble. A friend is known in misfortune. 3) With a good friend, it is more fun with luck, easier in trouble. 4) The enemy agrees, but the friend argues. 5) Friendship is friendship, but at least give up the other. 6)Friendship is strong not by flattery, but by truth and honor.
7. 10 signs of friendship for those who want to have real friends.
Memo for students.
1) A friend is one who never forgets about you.
A friend is one who, every time he is needed, guesses about it. / Jules Renard /
2). A friend is someone who is always ready to talk.
In joy, friends recognize us, in misfortune we recognize them. / John Collins /
3). A friend is someone who cares about your problems.
Where friendship weakens, ceremonial politeness intensifies. / William Shakespeare/
4). A friend is someone who cares about you
There are no debtors or benefactors in friendship. / Romain Rolland /
5). A friend is someone with whom you can do everything together.
Everything should be in common between friends. / Euripides /
6). A friend is someone who knows how to forgive.
Only those people who know how to forgive each other's minor flaws can be connected with true friendship. / J. La Bruyère /
7). A friend is someone who always cares about your financial condition.
Before borrowing money from a friend, think about what is more important to you: friend or money? / American proverb /
eight). Friend - do not blame you for your mistakes.
« Friendship is, first of all, sincerity, it is criticism of a friend's mistakes. Friends should be the first to give harsh criticism so that a friend can correct his mistakes. ”/ N.А. Ostrovsky /
9). A friend is someone who always cares about your thought
People are usually brought together by the coincidence of views on third parties and shares the difference in views on their own personality. / Zbigniew Zemetsky /
10). A friend is someone who always knows how to cheer you up.
3rd reader: Never change your friends!
They cannot be exchanged like a coin.
You will understand this later,
There is no closer friend in the world.
Never lose your friends
There is nothing to measure that loss.
An old friend won't come back to you
You can't replace him with a new friend.
4th reader: And you shouldn't offend your friends -
Resentment will become a wound in the heart,
Even though friends know how to forgive
The door to their soul will be closed.
Friendship must always be protected.
This feeling is longer than a century.
The best friend will never betray
There is simply no more devoted person.
8 . Every year on June 9, the world celebrates Friends Day.This holiday date is considered unofficial, but the reason for its creation does not lose its relevance.
International Day of Friends is simply created so that we, regardless of life circumstances and various twists and turns, remind our friends of how important they are to us and make them happy.
Very few people in Russia know about this holiday. Meanwhile, the International Day of Friends is becoming more and more popular every year.
Today we also thought about the problem of friendship. Look within yourself and answer the question - am I a real friend? If the answer is no, think about what needs to be done to change. And then believe me - your life will definitely get better! Success !!
... Audio recording of the song "Whenmy friends are with me»
References.
Selflessness is an important point in friendships. After all, it presupposes complete trust, the absence of any interest. True friends can rely on each other, they are confident in help, support.
I believe that friendship cannot be built on self-interest. Although many are trying to pull off such shenanigans. Already the first trials and problems will show what is really happening. A real friend will definitely be there in difficult times, and a person who is looking for benefits will never follow into the dark to save someone.
So what is the meaning of selflessness in friendship? I think this is a great foundation for friendship. Selflessness is a solid stone on which you can build something worthwhile, something that will last for many years.
And greed is sand, which the waves and wind will quickly blow away.
If you want to be a loyal friend, then it is worth reflecting on selflessness over and over again. A humble heart will surely acquire love. And together, friends can achieve much more than those people who make friends for profit.
Updated: 2017-05-04
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