How many beautiful love stories have ended because of stupidity or betrayal. How many tears and regrets were shed because of a break with a loved one. How many beauties are looking for an answer to the question: "?". So, it's time to stop feeling sorry for yourself and solve the problem once and for all, if feelings for your ex are still strong, and you are ready to do a lot to achieve your goal.
Time passed, the pain after the breakup subsided a little, but thoughts about him continue to haunt, forcing you to replay in your head over and over again what happened and how you could have lost him. And no matter what you do, nothing can get you to throw it out of your head. New hobbies, acquaintances, studies, attempts to start a new life, and even new relationships do not allow letting go of the past. And instead of relief, you start to feel more and more that you miss it.
But no matter how hard it is and you do not want to run to him, try to calm down and approach the problem with a "cold" head. In order for your life to return to normal again, you need to deal with this problem, get rid of its source, and not drown out thoughts with a lot of different activities. Allow yourself to live for today, do not rush to run away from yourself and your thoughts, return yourself to peace.
First, analyze everything that happened between you and your ex. Remember how you broke up, what was the reason when the relationship began to deteriorate, and what mistakes you made and what you could not forgive him. Be honest with yourself. Do not try to blame yourself or him for all sins. Look at the situation from the outside. Put yourself in his place. Just no dusting your head with ashes and thinking that your life is over. You are too important a person and many and many depend on you, especially since everything in life is fixable, except for really tragic events.
When a person decides to look into his soul and relive painful memories again, he finds the strength to let go of this situation, free himself from it and move on. So you, remembering everything that happened between you, will be able to make a decision that you will not regret later. After all, the chances of returning an ex-boyfriend depend not only on who made the decision to break up, but also on how much the girl really needs it.
The desire to return the ex can often be caused not by remaining feelings, but by the fear of being alone, jealousy or possessiveness, especially when a guy starts dating another.
Therefore, after immersion in yourself, try to forget about it. Do what you wanted for a long time. Watch a good movie, listen to your favorite music, which is not associated with your ex-lover, but makes you happy and uplifting.
Full immersion in the tasks that you have not found the time to complete will also help to understand yourself. Give them some free time. Imagine that the ex went on a business trip and will return soon, and you have the opportunity to take care of yourself exclusively with your beloved. Look for ways to achieve goals that you have long forgotten, but which have not lost their relevance.
After such occupational therapy, it is much easier to understand why, after a breakup, which was unlikely to be without mutual insults, you still want to be with him. If you realized that the desire to renew the relationship has nothing to do with love, unfortunately, she really left or she never was, you can breathe a sigh of relief. You are free and ready to meet the one and only one who will never leave you.
In the event that you really continue to love your ex-boyfriend, you will have to fight for your happiness. Just first answer if you initiated the separation, why did you suddenly change your mind. He corrected himself or you realized that you were wrong.
If you think you got excited, then it's time to apologize to him. Make an appointment with him, but it is better to send an SMS or an e-mail first.
It is much easier to admit your mistakes in writing; in a personal meeting, you may not have enough courage. Don't offer to forget everything and resume the relationship. Leave the decision to him. Otherwise, your apology will be perceived not as a sincere desire to correct the harm done and to admit guilt, but as an attempt to get what you want.
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Do not press on him, do not rush to answer. Be patient and enjoy the fact that you managed to ask for forgiveness. Very soon he will take a step forward.
We decided to part by mutual agreement, try to understand who, after all, became the first to suggest such a scenario. If you, and the young man just supported you, invite him to meet and talk. Usually, a few meetings will be enough to renew the relationship, because you did not have time to tell each other offensive things, parted in a civilized manner and retained your feelings, despite the difficulties.
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There's always a chance to get your ex-boyfriend back. Of course, this will take effort and some sacrifice. But if you are ready for everything for him, nothing is impossible. Just before you do something, you should think again whether you need it. Do you really want to return to the person who already left you once. If you are sure that he is exactly the one you need or left first, and now you understand that life is not the same without him, then do not hesitate and fight for your happiness.
Try to understand why the relationship ended. Was there a quarrel, betrayal, or did you feel that he gradually lost interest in you? Knowing the reason why the guy left you can help you figure out if it's worth returning.
Analyze the cause of the dispute. If the breakup is due to an argument, understanding why it happened can help you fix it. Was this your first fight or were you constantly fighting? People swear, disperse and reconcile all the time. However, if it has become a habit, it already indicates larger problems in the relationship in general.
Decide if you can forgive cheating. If the breakup was due to infidelity, consider whether a healthy relationship is possible. In most cases, you shouldn't return a relationship that ended due to infidelity.
Find out why he lost interest. If a relationship has faded due to a loss of interest, think about the reason. Perhaps you didn't have time for each other, or you were going through a difficult period, or this is simply not your person.
Admit your mistake. If you think you did something wrong, you should accept it and prepare to admit your wrongdoing. Understand that if you hurt your boyfriend, chances are your actions hurt him.
We are a group of psychologists who have been specializing in recovering lost relationships for more than 3 years. So that you can be sure of this, below on this page there is video with us from Channel One, from STS, articles from magazines...
Over the past few years, we helped by more than 2000 couples reunited and consulted several hundred people individually. Based on these consultations, we have compiled a methodology that we have posted on this site.
The method takes into account most of the reasons for parting, be it betrayal, new love, cooling feelings, etc. Read on carefully and we we will tell you step by step what you need to do so that very soon your man will be with you again!
The problem is that you don't know what action to take to make the man want to be with you again. The secret is that there are psychological techniques that allow him to make him want and be attracted to you.
You just need to press the correct "emotional buttons" and he himself will come running and begin to beg you to return to him. This is very simple if you understand male psychology, the mechanisms of creating attraction and decision-making.
Men have various "buttons", by clicking on which you can:
I want to cheer you up. If you know male psychology, then it is easy to influence his behavior.
That is why some girls so easily attract and keep men close, while others, it would seem, are nicer, more economic and beautiful, scare off the opposite sex with wrong actions! But this shouldn't happen to you!
Imagine a moment - your phone rings ...
You look at the display and see that it is HE ... he is calling! You can feel from his voice that he is worried ...
He tries to tell you something, but his voice trembles ... Collecting his thoughts, he says:
"Sorry I made a mistake. I'm an idiot. I love you very much and I want you to come back "
Now think about how you would feel at this moment, how good it would be for you ...
Let's make him love only you! And never exchanged for anyone!
Secret # 1 that will help you get your loved one back
Men prefer women who know how to keep their emotions in check. They fall in love with such women faster and want to be with them all their lives. The faster you take control of your emotions, the faster the man will fall at your feet.
Women are more emotional than men. Girls grew up talking about relationships, expressing their feelings, discussing them with loved ones and easily read someone else's emotional state. Much better than men.
But the problem is that women are so emotional that often their actions are subject only to emotions! Men say about this behavior "she has PMS again."
Emotions dominate the mind and control behavior!
Of course, not all girls obey only emotions, but most succumb to them. They express feelings much more strongly than men, and in the event of parting, everything spills out in a stormy stream! If, on emotions, you demanded a lot of attention from him, tried to control and showed strong dependence on him, then this only pushed him away from you. And this will definitely not help bring him back ...
Men don't like pleading, suffering, and needy women. You don't want him to come back to you out of pity, do you?
Comments from expert Alena Volk:
This is a typical mistake, I also went through it on my own experience. I admit that at one time, too, at first, I screwed up a lot. I let my fears and worries get the best of me. I wrote long blog entries to which he was subscribed. I wanted to speak out and for him to hear it. I sent him a text message. I called him. But trust me, it doesn't work!
Secret 2 that helps in our business ...
It is five times more difficult for a man to break an emotional bond with the one he loved than with a new girlfriend.
This means that if you know how to act, you will achieve it 10 times faster!
You've already done most of the work the last time he fell in love with you! And if he did not pretend, then his feelings remained somewhere in the depths of his heart until now.
But there is one more thing I want to warn you about:
It is impossible to attract a man who knows and loved you in the same ways that you attracted a man from scratch.
While this is simpler, completely different methods are needed.
Here's a plan of action:
Understanding "Why?"
You will need to get into his brain and understand why he left you before trying to restore interest in himself.
We remove the resistance.
We remove the resistance. Removing his prejudice about his relationship with you.
Recovery of attraction.
Most of the time, you won't have to go beyond step two, because if your ex still loves you, it will be enough to eliminate their prejudice about their relationship with you.
It's very easy! If you understand correctly what needs to be done.
The main thing is not to do stupid things or do something at the wrong time, as this can lead to a disastrous result.
Alena's story:
I understand very well how you feel!
Therefore, I will tell you how I felt when I parted with my beloved. The whole world collapsed when I was left alone, after a year of long-term relationship.
Immediately after parting, my friends and I went to the sea, but instead of resting, I was hysterical and shed tears into the sea, making it even more salty. All the time I was replaying our last meeting in my head, trying to understand - what should I say to get the relationship back? Why, for what and how did this happen to me ?!
Upon returning home, I had to solve other problems, besides, the school and working year began. And I was completely not up to that, I cried all the time, closed in on myself and thought only about how to renew my relationship with my ex. But because I could let other people down, I forced myself to calm down.
It was at that time that I studied dozens of books on psychology, socionics, relationships between a man and a woman, esotericism and other things that, as it seemed to me, could give an answer to the question that worries me - how to return a loved one?
These were the books:
Over time, the pieces of the puzzle in my head finally came together into a single picture. And then something very interesting happened ... Soon my ex-boyfriend first wrote on Skype, then began to call, write and beg me to pay attention to him! He began to fill me up with love letters and gifts, asking me to return to him.
I sincerely did not understand what was happening to him! To be honest .. I myself was in shock. At this point in history, you think that I happily threw myself on his neck and everything became the same again as before.
But no! What happened next surprised me even more. I realized that our relationship initially did not satisfy me to the end and that I did not want to return it back. That with this person I will not be happy!
The more he begged me to give him a chance, the more I realized that I didn't want this relationship!
And one more important detail ...
Even after several years, he STILL wants to meet with me and is ready to help me in any assignment! That's the impression I made on him!
I could just forget this story. But my friends, who often asked me for advice, opened my eyes to how many girls are suffering now, as I was then! And it is in my power to help them. To you!
Therefore, I took up counseling on problem relationships. And then I noticed ... how many similarities there are in the seemingly completely different stories of the gap! I sat down to work and began writing articles that later became part of this book.
It includes only those knowledge and techniques that work in practice and really help solve the problem. My task was to help the reader achieve the result as quickly as possible.
In addition, I have developed an effective system for changing my lifestyle after a breakup to improve your performance and subsequent relationship with both this and any other man, if you decide that your ex is not good enough for you.
How to get him to start fighting to get the relationship back more than you do!
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The real reasons for your breakup.
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Topics that should not be brought up in a conversation, because of which you can NEVER restore a relationship with your beloved man.
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How to remove his bias about your relationship.
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The secret is how to hook a man so that he always remains desirable for him.
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3 easy methods to make your ex feel very jealous so that he crawls back to you instantly!
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What to do if he's already out on dates or dating another woman.
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How to communicate and what to say when he calls you.
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The secret of how to dramatically increase your attractiveness so that your ex starts to go crazy for you and SPOIL when he sees you.
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We developed this system by working with real cases, collaborating with real people. It is the result of combining psychological information, attraction chips, different strategies and tactics into a single system.
So that you can return your loved one as soon as possible, we have prepared a guide that helps influence men... No water, only important and useful information in the bonus! You can use the latest techniques to attract the attention of your loved one, these techniques will teach you to influence his thoughts and desires, to awaken the interest of a man.
Only the most effective techniques are given that help to achieve excellent results. You will even know some of the dangerous methods of influence and persuasion, which were adapted for a specific purpose - to return a beloved man. I would like to believe that you will use these techniques only with good intentions. You should not turn into a manipulator, because playing with the feelings of others is dangerous. I beg you to use the techniques only when you are confident in your feelings, and only with good intentions.
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Gift # 3 To get into a positive state of the technician
I often see that many have a strong depressed or depressive state in the moment after a breakup. One of the most important magnets of attraction for men is the development of the correct inner state.
After using this technique, your inner state will change and it will be easier for you to implement the steps described in the book.
To return a loved one, that's not all ...
According to research, 80% of couples who decide to “start over” break up again after just a couple of months? “Starting all over again” they repeat all their old mistakes and notice that their old disagreements and problems have not disappeared anywhere!
A "jammed" break will never improve the situation in your favor!
Moreover, such "jammed breaks" can recur in even more painful breakups.
And if the subsequent breakup does not occur, then the couple simply continues to suffer together for many years.
Method difference
This is the difference between this method.
We help you not to "hush up the situation" and return everything as it was, but to build a more beneficial relationship for you with the same person!
Our course will help you rebuild your system of relationships with a man and live a happy family life not only immediately after the second "candy-bouquet" period, but also years later!
Do not worry! You don't have to cram long chunks of text like in school! Our system is much more than a collection of axioms!
This is an interactive course with text, exercises, games and other fun treats!
Your life after completing the course will change forever!
And these are just a few of the things that will happen to you!
You can lose it FOREVER
The more time has passed since the breakup, the more efforts will have to be made to return it. The more wrong actions you take, the more you push him away from you.
Most relationships after breaking up can still be saved. But some of them will die forever. It depends on what you are going to do. After all, while you are sitting and thinking what to do or, worse, making the wrong steps ...
He could already begin to build relationships with another woman, crossing out all the happy joint moments that are so dear to you!
Please don't make the mistakes that most women make, download our course and start implementing your return plan today. After all, the opportunity to return it is melting every day. There are many attractive women around him, one of whom he can fall head over heels in love with and then it will be a very difficult task to bring him back.
Most people like to put it off until tomorrow! Based on our experience, we can say that in this case, delay and indecision can cost you a happy future with your beloved. There won't be a better day than today to start your course!
Stop shedding tears, it's time to act! If you don’t "hook him on the heart" now, then after a while he will simply forget about you! Don't let this happen!
WHO WE ARE AND WHY you can trust us
Our team consists of active consultants on the topic of relationships with the opposite sex. We have combined our experience and knowledge to help people like you return love and never lose again.
My name is Sergey Sadkovsky.
I am a dating, seduction and relationship consultant. I have been a paid consultant since May 2008, during this time I have worked with more than 600 clients on an individual basis and accumulated vast experience in building relationships with the opposite sex, as well as restoring relationships.
Since in most of my practice I work individually, I have learned well how to bring people with different goals to the result.
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Not everyone loves drama in relationships (violent quarrels, partings, reconciliation). And many people know that such passions-muzzles rarely lead to building a strong family.
Love should be joyful and enjoyable, not a constant source of stress. And, if the relationship did not go well, eventually leading to a breakup, then it is better to let go of your ex-soul mate and focus on finding a new love.
Alas, in real life, things don't always go according to plan.
Many girls think how to get a guy back after breaking up for various reasons: great love, guilt, fear of loneliness.
This is not an easy task, and before embarking on it, consider whether you are ready to make some sacrifices and trample your pride. And also think whether the skin is worth the candle, because no one guarantees you a positive result.
You don't always have to try to get a guy back. Yes, there are times when this is really appropriate, but sometimes it is better to accept your fate, and throw all your strength into building new relationships.
It cannot be so unequivocally asserted that a girl has no right to try to return the guy she broke up with. There are times when taking the initiative is a very smart and useful step.
Reasons for parting, in which it is not shameful to try to get the guy back:
Misunderstanding.
Anything can happen in a relationship, especially if both the guy and the girl have difficult characters.
If a banal misunderstanding arose between you (for example, it seemed to him that you were cheating on him, but this is not even in sight), then it is clear that you need to look for the key to reconciliation.
You and your behavior.
And I have repeatedly told you about this. But he also repeatedly pointed out traits or behaviors that he does not like about you. He asked to change, you didn’t react and he left you.
If you are ready to finally change and can demonstrate these changes to the guy, then it will be easy to bring him back.
Your initiative.
It was you who decided to end your relationship, and then, on reflection, realized that you made a mistake and want to return the guy back. This will be easy to achieve if the young man is not too proud and still loves you dearly.
Forget about your boyfriend after breaking up and don't try to get him back if he:
Dumped you because of another girl.
If a young man left you to enter into a relationship with another girl, and you see that he is happy with her, trying to get him back in most cases will be pointless.
Now, if they part, then it's another matter - you can try.
Bad person.
Love is love, but it is useful to look at the object of your lust without rose-colored glasses.
If the young man you are trying to bring back constantly humiliated you, offended you, if he has problems with the law, alcohol or drugs, then look at your parting as a deliverance, and not a tragedy.
Not once refused you.
Have you tried to return the guy once, twice, or three times, but got the same refusal?
Resign yourself and stop making fun of yourself. This relationship is over!
It's almost impossible to get a guy back if he doesn't want to. You only have a chance if he regrets that he lost you and is waiting for the signal: you are ready to accept it back.
Here are 5 steps to take if you want to bring a guy back:
Analyze the reasons for the breakup.
Your relationship collapsed for a reason, there was a specific reason (or several reasons).
If you understand what exactly was the cataclysm for separation, and eliminate it, it will be much easier to return the guy's love.
Take care of your appearance.
Even if you are a beautiful, well-groomed young lady, there is always room for improvement. If you still do not attend any workouts, then fix it immediately.
Sign up to the spa for a facial, relaxing massage, manicure, pedicure. After such a pleasant procedure, you will immediately feel better.
Change of image (for example, haircut and painting). Well, shopping for a pair of beautiful dresses and new shoes is the best cure for depression.
Remain completely calm when meeting.
If you study or work together, or for some other reason have to constantly intersect, do not give out your excitement, embarrassment and pain. And, of course, you don't need to look at him from the beaten dog.
Behave calmly, with restraint, affable, a little indifferent. Also, confuse the guy with a radiant smile. This will make the boy think: did he act wisely in parting with you.
Build friendships with your ex-lover.
Those stupid girls who, when parting with a young man, break all ties with him. You can be friends with your ex.
And with the ex you want to return, you need to be friends. It is much easier to turn from a friend into a loved one than from an enemy.
Make him jealous.
The receiver is simple and not distinguished by novelty, but effective. If a young man still has feelings for you, he will definitely be jealous of you and will want to return himself.
If you remain indifferent, well, well - but you will know for sure that it is impossible to restore relations. Yes, and take a closer look at the young man, with the help of whom they tried to make the ex jealous. Maybe he's not that bad?
If you want to return a young man after a breakup, in no case should you:
Be humiliated.
All these crawling on my knees, pleading, tears look just disgusting.
Are these relationships so dear to you that you are ready to expose yourself to everyone's ridicule and let them wipe your feet? Fu, what are these obscene tendencies towards emotional BDSM?
Understand that sooner or later any lie will be declassified, so if you are going to return your loved one, fantasizing about your pregnancy, or writing some other ridiculous stories, then you should not even start.
It won't end well!
Threaten.
Moreover, it does not matter what exactly you threaten him with (to kill yourself, to rip out all the patches of his new shmare, to tell everyone that he has only 7 centimeters) there will be no sense from this.
The guy will not only not return to you, but he will also feel disgust for such an abnormal girl.
Promise what you can't fulfill.
It now seems to you that you are ready for absolutely anything to only return love. Once the ecstasy is over, you will deeply regret your words.
If you are sick of threesomes, free relationships, his drunk friends and so on, then you don't need to promise to love all this when he returns ...
All the same, you can't, you just lose a lot of nerves and time.
To impose.
There are such stuffy Velcro girls, which are almost impossible to get rid of. They will watch you, ask you about SMS and letters, arrange "random" meetings, offer themselves in all respects.
It is almost impossible to get through to them with explanations about the uselessness of such attempts, which is why the guys go to extreme measures, for example, they humiliate them in public.
Do you want to experience this "pleasure"? Then keep pushing.
Make a scandal.
All these showdowns in the style of bazaar women are not needed by anyone and are not interesting, even to you (you will understand this if you take a sober look at the situation).
Well, stop brawling in public and blaming the guy for that. Keep at least the respect of the young man, if not love.
Doing stupid things.
We, as emotional creatures, often do things that we later regret. Don't do anything until you are in control of your emotions.
It's one thing to throw away his gifts and burn shared photos after parting (it's stupid and unpleasant, but you can survive), and it's quite another to eat handfuls of pills, because you don't see well.
on how to get your ex-boyfriend back:
Despite all the advice you've heard from me, I want to ask you again: weigh the pros and cons before trying to get the guy back. Sometimes you just need to step on the throat of your feelings and let go of the situation.
At the institute, I was friends with Oksana. For a year she met with a boy from our faculty, but 2 years older. They had some strange relationship: she was madly in love, and he did not interfere with her doing it.
And then came the day that was supposed to come: Yura left Oksana, left for another girl. A classmate grieved, we tried to console her. After crying for 3 days, the girl decided to return Yura. Her friends, including me, tried to dissuade her as best they could, realizing that this was a disastrous business and that all that Oksana would achieve would be to expose herself to ridicule.
The persecution continued for 2 months. There was everything: declarations of love, and surprises, and gifts, and requests, and attempts to cause jealousy.
It is worth saying that in this story Yura showed an unusual sensitivity and tact - he delicately persuaded Oksana to leave him alone, claimed that he was happy in a new relationship, that everything between them ended long ago, etc.
The friend neither to his, nor to our words, nor to the voice of reason did not listen. This story ended sadly for Oksana. She once again tried to invite the ex-beloved somewhere to restore love, but chose the wrong moment.
Yuri was somewhat upset and angry, so he yelled at the entire university corridor: “Leave me finally alone !!! I told you 100 times that I do not need you, that I have another, that I will not return to you !!! Get off, you idiot, and don't come near me anymore !!! "
Of course, the guy is wrong that he decided to speak out in such an aggressive manner. But the blame for such a shame lies entirely with Oksana: in her attempts to return Yuri, she played too much. She did not even try to understand: nothing would come of it and this relationship really ended.
If you think how to get a guy back after breaking up, once again carefully read Oksana's story so as not to end up in the same situation.
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You took this rash step and left him, or he himself decided to end the relationship, it doesn't matter, because now you are reading this article for some reason. Therefore, you made yourself a target return the guy... If you’re just not his man, there’s nothing you can do about it. But if the reason for the separation was your wrong actions, and once he was really happy next to you, you can try to return everything.
Let's consider the problem in specific situations.
In this case, be sure to talk to him frankly, drop your pride. She definitely did not bring happiness to anyone. Open up to him, explain that you made a stupid attempt to ignite a spark in a relationship. You can even excuse yourself by the fact that you've seen enough of the series. Well, those where the hero on his knees begs the dear to give him a second chance.
Or maybe you cheated on him, tired of the relationship, wanting something new. And now you constantly, you do not stop thinking about him and regret, realizing that you have lost a very dear person. Treason is difficult to forgive, especially for men. After all, they are more proud and more vulnerable than women. Yeah, because men do not possess the talent of finding a million excuses for a loved one to the same extent as the opposite sex. In this case, forgiveness will have to be earned, and trust too.
Perhaps, for the sake of love, you will even have to change your lifestyle (stop going to nightclubs, start dressing more modestly and exclude all kinds of flirting). The guy must understand - you are really ready to change for his sake and sincerely regret your betrayal. Show him the bright side of your personality. If he doesn't even want to talk to you at first, that's okay. Don't push yourself, but don't give up. Offer to remain friends and prove that you can be trusted. If he values you, then he will forgive and everything will work out.
If you left him because of a mean act he did, then everything is clear. But for some reason you yearn for his return, you are ready to forgive everything in order to preserve the relationship. Think about whether you need such a relationship. Isn't it addiction?
You decided it was love after all. Make it clear to the ex-lover that she is not ready to endure his past mistakes again, although she forgave him. Raising a trusting and innocent look at him, embrace and say: “You are very dear to me and I do not want to destroy everything that we had because of offenses. I believe you won't make me cry anymore. " After such words, a loving man will do everything in his power so as not to hurt his beloved girlfriend. It is very important to forgive and forget. Believe me, if you constantly remind him of his past mistakes, he will leave himself.
Perhaps the guy did not stop loving you, but he has a mental, financial crisis, a lot of problems and he has withdrawn into himself. Maybe even he is ashamed of not being able to give you expensive gifts and drive to restaurants as before. This is if you are higher in social status and from a wealthier family.
Talk to him frankly, but don't press on an already depressed person. Say that you value him first of all, as a person, regardless of his financial and other capabilities.
If he left you for another girl, but you know that he loves you. A guy can't go to a girl for whom he doesn't feel anything. Well, he's not a masochist. Admit that he wanted it so, that's why he did it. Don't waste your time on it. If he broke up with you because of treason on your part, it is easy to understand him - he is trying to take revenge or find an outlet in another person. Of course, there is no need to try to discourage him from another. But it is necessary to ask for forgiveness and start changing for the better (read in the first situation). Maybe his relationship is not real (for example, he asked a friend to help make you jealous). Then he will return. In any case, you should not go over the heads, no one will appreciate this.
He could well break up with you because you became uninteresting to him. You've been reading a book for a long time, and when was the last time you changed your haircut? A man who is both beautiful and well-groomed, and not stupid, capable of supporting any conversation, give it.
Try to find yourself new hobbies, sign up for courses (the main thing is that they contribute to self-development). No need to do it for show, find a hobby that will make your eyes shine with pleasure. If you like to cook, go to a chef course. Go in for sports, pump up your figure, buy a dress that suits you. Become the one you want to match. Perhaps, when you achieve some result, you will not want to think about your ex.
Also, men often leave themselves quite beautiful and interesting in communication "princesses" who do not know the basics of building relationships with a man.
If you like to criticize, humiliate, ridicule him, even in jest, do not be surprised. Men are very proud. They take criticism painfully. It is important for them to be respected, admired. In this case, read the literature on male psychology instead of glossy magazines. Him to meet with you, not with your purse. A man is ready to spend the rest of his life with a person who deeply appreciates and respects him, ready to support him in all endeavors. An empty, painted doll is of little interest to him when it comes to the prospect of a long-term and serious relationship. 
You do not need to run after him, but you should not show your disdain with all your appearance. Be polite when you meet him, smile. Try to make friends (not intrusively) with his friends. Show yourself as a worthy candidate for any guy. For men, the opinion of friends is very important, so his friends should like you as a person. The main thing is not to flirt with them. Otherwise you will disgust him. Take care of yourself, develop.
If you do not have mutual acquaintances, you do not need to try to find his friends in social networks on his page and try to make friends with them. This is funny.
There is no need to visit the places where he goes every day (gym, institute, work). Well, he won't believe that you decided to enroll in the same fitness club without any intentions at his expense.
If, but, at the same time, does not invite to a meeting or does not give specific promises, there is no need to rush to regard this as a return.
"You need to show that you are not bad at all without him." "Be original and unique."
Grant.
"Admit you were wrong."
Sergei.
“Carefully analyze all the time of the relationship and try to identify what caused the breakup. If there is a girl's fault, efforts must be made to improve. If a guy left because of his badness or found another one (betrayal), then try to come to terms and let go ... you can't be cute. "
Andrey.
“Well, first of all, there should be sincerity in words. You can cry a little. He still needs to be fed properly. "
Novel.
“You need to let the guy understand that a girl is capable of performing the main female functions in a relationship: to be a friend, an“ object ”of beauty, an assistant, a housewife, a mother, a lover, finally. A fool would let go of such a woman. "
Alexei.
“Whims in moderation. Gentle character. Submission to the guy. The guy does not want anything bad for his beloved. Therefore, he should be submissive. "
Timur.
“Meet and talk calmly. Find out what went wrong. "
Vladimir.
“Show your weakness and humility. Don't show off. "
Arkady.
"You need to open up to your loved one completely, open your soul to him and thereby prove his importance to you."
Vladislav.
"Buy him a PlayStation 4."
Ruslan.
"Come up and ask:" Do you want to eat? "
Nikita.
"Stop enduring brains (control, far-fetched grievances, attempts to rebuild it in your own way."
Denis. 
Do not forget that you are beautiful and there is no need to shed tears for someone who himself wanted to leave you. Maybe tomorrow you will meet your true love and realize that the previous relationship was incomplete and unhealthy.
Main rules: be positive (sincerely, not faked); develop internally, as a person (you can, for example, do charity work); do not forget to look after your appearance (clean hair, neat makeup, proper nutrition and sports). Every guy will reach out to such a girl, but you will have to choose your own!
