To prove this, experts selected 280 students, both girls and boys, and showed them various photographs of women. The students were asked to divide all the girls in the photographs into four groups: sexy, friendly, boring, and repulsive.
It turned out that many young people could not even imagine that a tunic lowered on the shoulder and a half-thrown off shoe speak of the girl's desire for something more than just a nice chat. On the other hand, non-binding signs of attention (for example, when a girl, sitting at a table, leans forward to better hear the interlocutor), men took for a clear sexual interest.
The results allowed determining the reasons for this "promiscuity" of men. The generally accepted explanation is that sex is an inherent biological property of the male sex and is the result of centuries of upbringing. According to this idea, men and women have sexual desire, but women need a much stronger reason to mistake friendship for sexual desire. However, research says this is not entirely true.
Girls, in turn, take too close to their hearts the open and friendly behavior of men. For ladies it is a call to action, for men it is a non-binding sign. When they actually make the decision to "attack", he behaves much more cheekily and decisively.
However, this does not mean at all that there are no men who do not "recognize" the non-verbal signals of women. There are supremely skillful gentlemen in this area.
Flirting(from the English word flirt) - courtship, coquetry, love play. The Small Encyclopedic Dictionary of Brockhaus and Efron defines "flirting" as a special form of manifestation of sexual feelings, which is expressed in flirtatious flirting with glances, words, feigned unintentional touches, etc.
Meanwhile, the history of flirting goes back centuries and can be traced back to the time of Cleopatra (69-30 BC). The last queen of Egypt from the Ptolemaic dynasty introduced incense and oils, which she used to attract the attention of the opposite sex. She also invented decoctions to give the eyes a special shine.
Flirting finally took shape in a certain set of rules of behavior in the 17th-18th centuries. The birth of a new meaning of the word "flirting" was described by the English writer Lord Chesterfield. According to him, at one of the high society receptions, Lady Francis sometimes opened and closed her fan, then hid her whole face, then only her eyes. And when the man who was talking to her jokingly reprimanded her for such teasing behavior, she replied that it was just "flirting", she was just waving her fan. With her light hand, this word became widespread, first in Britain, and then throughout the world.
Leonard Louis Levinson came closest to the definition of flirting technique "Flirting: when a girl does not know what she wants, but in every possible way achieves it", and to his goal - Wojciech Bartoszewski, who said: "The goal of all love maneuvers is to fall together and as close as possible to each other". According to sexologist Alexander Poleev, flirting is a woman's way of making a man understand that she is ready to consider him as a sexual partner.
Do you know your husband well? Probably not very much if you are tormented by this question. A loved one whom you trust literally betrays you, and in front of your very eyes: flirts with other women openly!
Is everything as scary as you imagine it? Maybe it's just harmless flirting? Let's figure it out and think about what to do with this problem.
Remember your acquaintance with him - how did he behave towards you and how many girls did he go over before you? If his behavior is the same frivolous until now, then surely he charmed you with the same manner: with witticisms, with hints and compliments. His communication is like that. But he chose you as his wife!
Flirting is not only a way of seduction, it is also a way to show yourself and amuse your pride (for more details, see the article). Showing yourself a leader and an alpha male is in the blood of every man.
You see, the betrayal that you assume is a top secret and disguised affair. The spouse will not openly flirt with other girls in front of you if he is determined to betray. It's like a game of chance for him. True, if this player is not a complete ladies' man.
Basically, a flirt can be like this:
Seductive merry fellow. He is the soul of the company and gallant with all the ladies. He is accustomed to being the center of attention and for this he does everything so that he is not “overthrown from the throne”: he shower women with compliments, tries to please everyone in the hope of reciprocity.
Impudent macho. He has the same image as Antonio Banderas, even if in appearance he is his complete opposite. First of all, he loves himself, so small victories over women (reciprocal flirting) are his self-affirmation. So he takes it with impudence.
Kinesthetic. There is such a type of men who, during a conversation, either take the hand or hug it. It looks like flirting and even harassment. But the fact is that the kinesthetic feels the world this way - through tactile contact, that is, by touching.
In principle, if your husband is an open person, then all these are harmless games. The point is different - you don't like it. As if he humiliates you in front of everyone. But you're just not used to his antics.
It’s unpleasant when some lady takes this game seriously and starts playing insolently. This is where it is necessary to check the husband "for lice": if the flirting on his part remains at the same level - with humor and glances, then everything is normal, just "the child" is amused.
But it's awful if these flirting goes beyond all boundaries: now some kind of solitude, then passionate whispering. Especially if the couple is drunk - alcohol makes a person uncontrollable. This is where you need an article. So you will find out who your spouse is: a spoiled person or a traitor.
Yes, it’s unclear, it’s like scandals will be useless here. He will answer:
What am I actually doing? I show politeness and gallantry towards women! I cheer them up and boost their self-esteem with compliments!
You can't argue here. If all this is really so, then it is better than he would sit in the company of a beech, and gaze sullenly at all the ladies present. But you don't like either one or the other. What can be done then?
You know your husband - his drinking behavior becomes obnoxious. “Under the steam” another person is born in him - an inveterate womanizer and red tape. It is difficult to keep track of him, because in this state he is able to disappear, and far from being alone.
Even the most faithful husband can get on a crooked path and do something wrong. Remember what got into the head of Ivan Vasilyevich - a strong family man who "cut himself":
So here are some tips in case of parties:
By the way, the same applies to corporate events, if the husband of a womanizer goes to him alone, and even works in a women's team. It's one thing if you are accustomed to his antics, and all the women sew him off, pitying you. But be careful if there is some seductive rat in there. In drinking, he can also look for a "separate office".
Some women resemble masochists: where a problem needs to be eliminated, they create it even more. For example:
Some girl lives in the neighborhood, terribly eager for men. More than once she was caught on the fact that she leads different men to her and does not disdain even married people. But the "masochist" takes her as her friend, despite the fact that she does not miss the opportunity to stick to her husband, and he is happy to flirt.
The "masochist" takes a tenant into her apartment - a young and attractive person. She defiles in a short robe around the house or comes out of the bath wrapped in a towel. And the husband, having led her along the corridor with his eyes, will lick his lips and sigh: “Oh, what legs!”. And then he makes eyes at her.
The husband has a choice: to get a job in a women's team, where the boss is an unmarried lady, and there are some pretty girls around, or in a men's team, where the salary is lower. The wife insists on the feminine - the main thing is to earn more, maybe she will carry it. But for a man to get into such a flower garden is tantamount to a woman in a jewelry store.
Consider, my dear, a spouse is, first of all, a man with all his appropriate set: personal belongings and testosterone. If he is not impotent, not deaf and not blind, then why arrange provocations for him? He will even subconsciously start flirting! No money at work and friendship with a neighbor is worth it.
The "masochist" can be justified in two cases - either she likes to suffer so much, or she herself provokes a scandal so that it works out, as in. And what: the man is already sexually and morally aroused, why not make a scandal?
But some women, on the contrary, believe that "anti-provocation" is the isolation of the husband from everything around him and constant control over him.
Those men who are not suitable for henpecked can do everything in spite of:
Specially flirt with everyone in front of your wife, and the main thing is that she sees it. Don't give a damn if she gets mad - she really needs it!
Communicate with might and main with other girls on the Internet, especially those who are looking for dating. He won't even put the password on his computer - let his wife watch.
He will definitely tell his wife that a new colleague has come to the team - a girl with long legs and blue eyes.
Is that why he does this? It's just that he shows his wife with all his behavior: figs you will fit me under the heel! If you show off - I'll go to another, there are many hunters, even in correspondence!
By the way, he will do so if his wife strains to such an extent that I will not save from her. The only way out is to treat everything with humor, not to take these pranks seriously and not to keep your husband tight-lipped. Then he will lose this passion - to do everything in spite.
The husband will not even need to assert himself surrounded by beautiful ladies, if he himself has a wife-princess. To teach a flirting husband a lesson, you don't need to invent any intrigues and punishments - just change yourself in terms of appearance, figure and character. You have to look sexy.
And also read,. When he himself, a talkative womanizer, sees how it looks from the outside, and he himself feels your constant neurosis, he will understand how unpleasant it is. Then you will be able to prove to him that there is nothing reprehensible in this.
Let's do a thought experiment.
Imagine that you have the super ability to "read" men. Like Sherlock Holmes: she looked at a man - and immediately you know everything about him and understand what is on his mind. You would hardly be reading this article right now in search of a solution to your problem - you would not have any relationship problems at all.
And who said that this is impossible? Of course, you will not read other people's thoughts, but otherwise there is no magic here - only psychology.
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At the first stage of a relationship, flirting plays a very important role. Many have heard about this and observed, but not many know what this concept means. And if you think about what the word flirting means, then not everyone.
Flirting is a special behavior that is inherent in nature. Flirting is typical for both men and women, although it is most often attributed to women. Flirting often means expressing sympathy for a particular person, after which one of the parties can initiate a relationship. Flirting has two forms: it can be expressed in the form of a game, or it can indicate more serious intentions. Flirting does not always imply any intention, it may just be a manifestation of the feminine principle.
Initially, the concept of flirting assumed the correct presentation of flowers to a girl; its origins this concept comes from France, from the 17th-18th centuries.
Flirting intrigues the opposite sex, has clear boundaries, when flirting turns into physical contact (touch).
Some people have a more developed sense of flirting, some less. Usually, flirting is inherent in women to a greater extent, however, not everyone succeeds in women.
Flirting is a concept that does not apply to all members of the opposite sex. After all, if a woman flirts with all members of the opposite sex, then this is recognized as frivolous stupid behavior. For a man who flirts with all women, the stigma of a womanizer and a womanizer can hang.
Flirting should work when an object appears on the horizon that seems interesting as a man or woman, and not as a business partner, colleague or client. Sometimes a person may not even guess that flirting is happening, it will be seen from the outside.
There are certain signs of flirting by which it can be recognized. This is manifested in words and gestures, as well as facial expressions. Body language will tell you more about interest than words or actions that draw attention to yourself.
The gestures that are signs of flirting are as follows: it is known that men, talking with a woman of interest to him, straightens their hair, tie, shirt, and fiddles with the buttons on her. As he speaks, he looks from the woman's eyes to her lips. A man's breathing quickens, his pupils dilate, just like a man is in the dark. If the conversation takes place while standing, then the man puts one leg in the direction of the woman who attracts him.
A woman by nature has more means to play. Flirting - what is for a woman? This is a way to discover your sexuality. She plays with her hair in conversation, skipping curls between her fingers. Sitting down, a woman throws her legs over her legs, swinging it, thereby attracting attention. It can be given out by a voice in which a hoarseness appears. The pupils dilate regardless of gender. In order to attract attention, she demonstrates her wrists. In conversation, she often laughs, shoots her eyes in the direction of the interlocutor.
Flirting people look at the object on the sly, an open gaze wanders from eye to foot.
Many people think that flirting is available only to self-confident individuals. However, this is not at all the case. There are two reasons for flirting.
Flirting is manifested not only in gestures, but also in conversation. For flirting, you need to choose light, unobtrusive topics that are not related to professional activities. The topic should be neutral so as not to cause conflict during communication. Any dispute destroys flirting. The most reliable way to attract a partner is the use of compliments in speech. Some are attracted to circulation and flattery, this is permissible.
Flirting is usually indicated within the social zone. To determine the edge, they conditionally divide the social zone, personal and intimate. Personal (70 cm.) And intimate (45 cm.) Area are available only for the closest people.
Men and women have different foundations for flirting. The basis of flirting for men is the following thesis points:
Is flirting cheating? This question is asked by those who notice such behavior.
If flirting is not typical for a person's behavior, and suddenly, when communicating with a man, she begins to actively flirt and flirt. In this case, problems are brewing in the relationship, since such flirting can develop into treason. Each couple determines for themselves in each individual case, which framework of flirting is acceptable.
If flirting is part of business communication, then this is one thing, and if it started suddenly, then this indicates the emergence of interest in another person.
Many women resort to flirting in order to feel interest from the opposite sex. This can create a false sense that the woman wants to continue communication.
Many people perceive flirting as a betrayal of a loved one, and in some way this can be understood. Often, flirting is a sign at the initial stage of a relationship that a woman is not opposed to starting a relationship with him. If a man begins to show interest in response, then this means that the couple can have a future. When the relationship develops and reaches marriage, then the goal is achieved, and there is no need to flirt with other men. It is normal behavior when the opposite sex ceases to exist for partners, and when active flirting continues, then it is worth considering whether the relationship is so valuable.
In the event that a woman does not know how to flirt, then this can be learned. For example, if a woman wants to attract the attention of a man, but cannot speak to him, you need to gradually reduce your fear.
Flirting diversifies the communication between a man and a woman, keeping the fire of passion alive.
In order to successfully flirt, unobtrusively luring you into your networks, you need to fulfill certain conditions:
The basics of flirting assume that it is necessary for the initiative to come from the flirting.
Thus, flirting is an inherent ability to attract the attention of members of the opposite sex. In each person, this ability is developed to a different degree, and it is possible to develop it. Flirting makes communication between two people interesting, not ordinary. Thus, it is easier for a person to survive stress, relax, and enjoy life.
There is a colleague at work with whom we flirt, and he began to flirt with me first. Frequent long glances straight into the eyes, smiles, etc. I am very shy, so when he spoke to me I reacted coldly, answered something and quickly ran away. But she always responded to his smiles, also looked back for a long time, etc. I noticed that he was worried when she approached him with a question about work.
Oooh, how old are you, I wonder?
Only at the age of 12-13 can you be so dumb that you can come up with non-existent views and ideas.
There is not a single man in the world who would not come up and did not start dating a girl if he really liked her.
And what for is this with a ykun needed?
Take the first step You, men, too, are sometimes afraid to approach, and there can be many reasons,
As a rule, such first steps do not end with anything good. Guys get scared, start to freeze or ignore. Even I, who rarely visit the forum, have met about 30, if not more, about this. I myself, in my youth, had 3 such cases, I also believed in male shyness, and even all my friends had something like that. I think that in the case of the Author, he either works out the pick-up techniques on the Author, or this is his usual manner of communicating with all the girls, or the Author showed all his views.
Maybe start not paying attention to his views, then he will start to act?
In general, I read in esoteric literature that sometimes men do this to feed themselves on female energy due to the fact that a woman thinks a lot about him. Believe it or not, in fact, when I forgot this man, I began to feel much better
It's very funny about the ass, thanks for the advice, so now I will do it :) tomorrow at work when I see him, I will remember about your comment :)
Was there a flirtation?))) Maybe it was your girlish fantasy played out?
He's free? You are sure? Maybe he has a bride and daily sex! Does he need you with your one ?!)))
Well, the author, this is a classic of rocking you into emotions. A lot of facial expressions and glances, but not a single word and action. And after all, you are already led, think about him, write to the forum. And this is just a well-established technique for attracting a person. The next stage is a sharp "disappearance" or "cooling", but as soon as you begin to forget it, "hot looks" again. Thus, he makes you fall in love without feeling any emotion. Stay away from this pickup truck, "predators" bring only grief and suffering. He does not need a normal relationship.
There was some semblance of a relationship with such a guy in the past. I was wildly in love - behind such behavior I saw the depth of the inner world, the unusual and interesting.
Over time, I realized that the reason for this behavior in fact is the unwillingness to strain and take responsibility for something.
The guy provokes you to be the first to take the initiative - and if something goes wrong, then "you yourself are to blame, it was your idea."
In my case, the matter was aggravated by the fact that I was a girl - apparently the guy's conscience did not allow him to openly drag an innocent girl into bed, but if she herself decides to be seduced, then he would not refuse, of course.
Why would he? Why fall in love with yourself?
In most cases, just to raise self-esteem, to amuse self-esteem (it is especially important if he himself was recently rejected or abandoned and he needs to believe in himself again, plus practice in the science of attracting girls).
Any guy is pleased with the attention, the interest of a girl, especially a pretty one, especially if this girl is liked by one of his colleagues / friends.
Sometimes a guy at heart hopes for sex without commitment. But he rarely decides on it - after sex it will be morally more difficult to "merge"
The situation is clear in principle. The guy likes the author, but since they work in the same team, the guy is afraid to take the first step. T.k. the author can publicly dismiss, ridicule and ring out an attempt to tackle the whole team. And he still has to work in this team. So the guy is tormented, does not know what to do. In addition, the author does not give a hint of something that can be rolled up.
I had the same copy. I still did not understand what this flirting was for, if he did not dare to do anything. Was he waiting for me to throw myself on his neck? Yes, right now)) So it didn't end with anything. Although there were also long glances in the eyes (and not only in the eyes)
You want me, naughty girl. I see!
Rave! There are a lot of those who will usually come up to you, even if you really hooked. Such girls usually shaved off in their youth, so the imprint remained.
and then initiate all my life for them? naf it is necessary, let it be better to be treated
I had the same one at work. Then it turned out that he was a fuck and he was flirting with all the girls in the office, and I was the only one who was led))) And I had already invented love for myself)))
Was there any flirting?))) Maybe it was your girlish fantasy played out? Is he free? You are sure? Maybe he has a bride and daily sex! Does he need you with your one ?!)))
Agree. I have a lot of uneducated youth at work. And 20-year-old girls are discussing this-looked-hinted-oh, take the first step yourself. Usually girls give their phone number or invite them to the movies on weekends. the guys are smiling, flirting, fogging up a la everything can be and. do not go anywhere and do not call. And in about a month they ... get married. Naturally, not on our girls. Therefore, all these hints and flirtatious flirtations are bullshit.
I did not understand anything. I flirt at work because it's fun and enjoyable to communicate in this manner. This does not mean that I am going to relate to someone. Flirting is just flirting, it doesn't commit to anything.
And if you see that a pretty lady is clearly not against that one, do not you really want to take the opportunity?))
I just don't understand this behavior either. The man played with me in these peepers for a long time, and sometimes he looked like that .. Such a look cannot be faked in any way. Sometimes, when I thought that I was not looking at him, I caught his gaze hovering on my chest or even lower))) And so what to him? I really don't get it. I didn’t mind sleeping with him, he didn’t mind either, it was obvious to both. Why blunt something?
You look at him too much. In your text, there are only "long looks", it is too obvious for everyone how you want this relationship. How old is he? Why do you think that he has no one, because sometimes he looks at you? It does not interfere.
Yes, we love energy.)))
Well, not everyone found themselves in the trash to jump on whatever.)))
Worthy men have principles.
IT'S TRUE, NATURE GAVE A WOMAN A BOOT TO LOOK IN, MORE POIS TURN AND TURN SO MEMORIZE, TRAIN IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR.
Fuuu, what an abomination. (((
In most cases, just to raise self-esteem, to amuse self-esteem (it is especially important if he himself was recently rejected or abandoned and he needs to believe in himself again, plus practice in the science of attracting girls). It is pleasant to any guy the attention, the interest of a girl, especially a pretty one, especially if This girl is liked by some of her colleagues / friends. Sometimes the guy at heart hopes for sex without obligation. But he rarely decides on it - after sex it will be morally more difficult to "merge"
On the contrary, after sex it will be more difficult not to merge. Because such a disgust begins. You begin to understand that as a person she is about nothing at all.
You are like a fairy to him. About you will dream, and communicate with a simpler and more active colleague)))))))) Be simpler. It is not written on your forehead that you are not breathing evenly towards him. He looks at you and cannot understand - you need something or you don't give a damn about him
There is always hope, but a tiny one. A person can flirt because he is like that in life, flirts, raises his mood and self-esteem. Doesn't fit because he hasn't decided if he likes you so much to fit. You - to become more interesting a hundred times! so that he has no doubts that you are good! Just first decide: either you want to forget him, or you want him to pay attention to you. Otherwise, you get a mess in your head. Hence the behavior. There are different women, there are those who seek men, and there are those who are achieved by men.
Girls, remember that the atmosphere at work is not the same as just at a disco / bar / party (when you are not colleagues at all). The guy will not take active actions for a simple reason - he still has to work there and he does not need the gossip of his colleagues, especially if he breaks off in reciprocity. I hope I brought the male logic to your attention. I liked girls for work, but I didn't do anything. I met exclusively with non-colleagues
But I think if you really liked some girl you would have forgotten your principles. Probably he still has someone.
As a rule, such first steps do not end with anything good. Guys get scared, start to freeze or ignore. Even I, who rarely visit the forum, have met about 30, if not more, about this. I myself, in my youth, had 3 such cases, I also believed in male shyness, and even all my friends had something like that. I think that in the case of the Author, he either practices pick-up tricks on the Author, or this is his usual way of communicating with all girls, or the Author seemed to see all his views. Maybe he starts not paying attention to his views, then he will start to act?
I don’t understand why girls don’t tell about it? Why did no one warn me in due time that views are nothing? very insulting and embarrassing
and how should it have been obvious to him that you also want this? Did you suck a fountain pen loudly?
We are adults, he is also not 20 years old, so as not to see a woman looking at him.
Author, Please, once and for all, recover from this eternal female disease to fantasize from scratch and try on all male looks, flirting exclusively on yourself, a la looks, smiles, that means EXACTLY he likes me, he is in love with me, etc. , if M is really in love and WANTS to have a relationship with F, he MUST indicate this, if M needs F, he will show it and act, we come up with all these excuses for shyness and uncertainty in order to calm ourselves down and not kill hope, since with fantasies are already difficult to part. And all these signs of him show that as a girl you really are attracted to him, but. like any other beautiful girl. With another sexually attractive lady in his eyes, he will behave in the same way, he will not refuse sex with you, but there is no love here.
I know one such comrade who watches for a long time. As it turned out, he simply sees poorly, tries to get a better look, but it turns out that he is devouring with a glance.
Therefore, if you want sex with him, as an option, take the initiative, figure out joint leisure, preferably at night, and if you need it, bring the matter to the end) I am very interested, is it possible after the so-called from just an attractive lady for sex to turn into the love of your life? Can a man fall in love with you?)
Oooh, how old are you, I wonder? Only at the age of 12-13 can you be so dumb that you can come up with non-existent views and ideas. There is not a single man in the world who would not come up and did not start dating a girl if he really liked her.
First, the question is why is this necessary? Out of principle? Because he is the man of "your whole life"? To spite the former or something else .. After all, it requires a certain expenditure of mental strength, nerves, time.
I fantasized about every *****. I can't let go of bullshit, like the Author, now I want to be with this person.
First, the question is why is this necessary?
let's get down to business. not excuses
It is easy and simple to "merge" after sex if the girl is random and you just stop calling her.
And they are colleagues - t. *****. willy-nilly, they will intersect. It is not known how the author will react if he realizes that she was needed for sex for one night. Maybe she is inadequate and will start telling everyone at work about it and crying on the shoulder of her superiors, tearfully begging them to fire the villain. Maybe she will begin to publicly sort things out and throw up scandals in the workplace. Maybe, on the contrary, she will begin to behave as if they are a couple, intrude, walk with him for lunch and follow him, accompanying him to the house.
Better not to risk it and use the rule that men call "don't fuck where you eat."
And how should one behave for this? What to say and what to do?
I see.))) In fact, it is not difficult to make a person possessed, you need to feed his ego, to indulge his pride - then it is easy to manipulate him. Make him think about himself, make him feel much worse without you than next to you. It is beneficial to be different from other women, to do what they never gave for a man, and vice versa, not to do what they did everything and what a man does not like. Of course, to have a sufficient idea of which women he likes and which he hates. It is very important for a man to be sexually attractive, it is true that they allow and forgive much more.
In general, of course, you need to compose a psychological portrait of a man for yourself in order to know what may interest him, what will push him away, which will lead to a state of euphoria and excitement.
Thanks for the sobering comments. I think he had or is interested in me, but not so strong to do anything. Or someone else. I'm not going to win it, all the more so if I suddenly refuse, I still work together. In general, I looked at him with different eyes. I will behave friendly, but without flirting as before, I try to forget it.
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This is due to the fact that the elements of Water and Air endow their “wards” with opposite views on many things. If the Gemini loves to be in the center of attention, to be the soul of the company, then a man born under the sign of Pisces does not strive for self-extracting, on the contrary, he may feel out of place if everyone's attention is drawn to him. Some representatives of the sign of Pisces are characterized by isolation, which is by no means caused by a low level of intelligence, but by a tendency to detailed introspection.
The Pisces man analyzes all his actions and views on molecules, carefully analyzing them and drawing conclusions that allow him to gradually grow as a person. For a Gemini woman, introspection is rather an abstract concept. She can be brilliantly erudite in the field of psychology, but her knowledge is mostly theoretical and it is unlikely that Gemini can effectively apply it either to herself or to others. But here's the paradox - those around her consider her an expert on human souls, since she is always open to communication and is ready to listen, give advice, or help with active actions.
Naturally, her chosen one, Pisces, cannot avoid moments when Gemini actively begins to try to understand his problems, most of which exist only in her understanding. She is sure that without her care, he will disappear - after all, he can be so indecisive, quiet, modest, and with such qualities it is very difficult to break through ... At the same time, she may not notice the elephant under her nose: for the development of family well-being in this union to a greater extent the man answers.
He can earn several times more than his second half, but she mostly talks about work and career in their family; he can pay and organize repairs in the apartment from A to Z, but she will tell everyone how she suffered with the design and choice of plumbing ... From the side, the union of Gemini and Pisces looks like a classic example of matriarchy - she solves all issues, he follows her advice. But this is only from the outside - if you dig deeper, the Pisces man does not give up the palm in making fundamental decisions. He will gladly give her the opportunity to deal with secondary problems, but he deals with the most important issues on his own.
The representative of the Pisces sign perfectly understands that the hyperactivity of his Gemini partner is due to her need for self-realization, so she can turn a blind eye at her ostentatious authoritarianism for a long time. But the sign of Pisces, like the sign of Gemini, is double, which means that the character of its bearer is also bipolar. The nature of the Pisces man is not as changeable as the nature of the Gemini, whose mood can change several times a day, but sometimes he, speaking in the popular language, can get into a pose and start pumping his rights. At such moments, the shy Pisces turns into a real monster of emotions. He will remember her all her "jambs", will express everything that he thinks about her behavior, he may even throw a plate on the floor or leave the house, slamming the door, leaving the Gemini woman wondering what happened to her quiet and complaisant man.
However, unlike Gemini, the Pisces man very quickly begins to feel remorse for his intemperance. He begins, as usual, to analyze the situation and comes to the conclusion that the fault lies with him, since he could not contain his emotions. Then he buys a bottle of champagne, flowers, sweets and goes to make up. If a Gemini woman has enough wisdom not to bother and no longer talk about the subject of a quarrel, but to accept her chosen one with open arms, then for a while a complete idyll will be established in their relationship.
It is worth noting that the Gemini woman in relation to her Pisces partner is characterized by some prudence, even if she is completely absorbed in love for him. Initially, he conquers her with his complaisance, Olympic calmness, lack of conflict, and she begins to think: maybe it will turn out from him what I need? But, as mentioned above, under the “plasticine” shell of the character of the Pisces man there is an iron rod. The Gemini woman will be convinced of this immediately, as soon as she gives a serious reason - for example, allows him to doubt his loyalty.
The flirtation of a beloved woman with a stranger is the catalyst that awakens a predatory shark in Pisces, for him, like betrayal, is akin to betrayal. If his relationship with Gemini has not yet passed into a serious stage, then he can immediately stop communicating with her. Therefore, the Gemini woman should take this moment into account and not practice flirting with strangers if she nevertheless decided to opt for a representative of the sign of Pisces.
The Pisces man and the Gemini woman are absolutely opposite to each other. They are antagonists, and in very rare cases, they can get along together. Their alliance is full of contradictions and conflicts that can fan the flames of a protracted and very exhausting war. Partners do not understand, and refuse to understand each other, each nodding to their own feelings and attitudes in life. Only with incredible efforts on both sides in this alliance is it possible to establish peace, but on the other hand, peacefully established relations will give each of the partners the richest prospects in life.
It is not known how the Pisces man and the Gemini woman met and agreed to live together, but in any case, it was Providence, which aims to test both for strength. From the very beginning, it will be very difficult for partners to talk to each other, since they speak completely different languages. Everything that a Gemini woman undertakes seems meaningless and absurd to her partner. His actions, or rather complete inaction, the chosen one is inclined to consider as a challenge to her.
The Pisces man and the Gemini woman will very easily enter the whirlpool of conflict, which over time will only tighten both deeper and deeper, rotating in a spiral hated by both. The harshness of a Gemini woman, her adherence to principles, loudness can plunge a partner into depression, because his ideal of a woman is strikingly different from the one who is currently next to him. The Gemini woman will always strive for freedom and independence, even in love relationships - she communicates with pleasure, accepts compliments from fans and flirts with everyone who has shown her attention.
She believes that flirting and platonic romances do not pose a threat to her marriage, but only sharpen sensuality and passion, but the Pisces man will be horrified by this whole picture of "demonic dancing". The partner cannot agree with the point of view of his chosen one, jealousy can make him throw a scandal on her, or think about an urgent separation before they both do something stupid. They are both wise people who are able to understand each other, but the point is that “understanding” for each of them means “weakness”, and neither the Pisces man nor the Gemini woman want to be known as weak.
In the relations of these partners, one compromise is possible - to sit down at the negotiating table, to enter into a constructive dialogue. For a Pisces man and a Gemini woman, as dual signs, it is very difficult to find points of contact with each other, but still this must be done - for the sake of a calm future. The Gemini woman for her partner is a source of wisdom and a model of intelligence, strong material support. The Pisces man for the chosen one is sentimental sensuality, romance. The partner in these relationships can take care of creating comfort and home, and the chosen one can successfully pursue a career, engage in social work and politics. This will not be quite a classic version of family relationships, but it is he who will bring happiness and peace to this family.
VALI'S HISTORY. Part # 4
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If your beloved man flirts with other ladies, take 5, 5 minutes to read this article and you will find an explanation for this behavior of men.
I know exactly how you can restore relationships using my great technique. We continue to analyze the story of Valentina and how she got her husband back, or rather, how he himself came running to put up with her. It's best to learn from other people's mistakes and apply advice that has already helped. Do you agree?
So what awaits you today:
We continue our interview with Valentina.
- Valentina, how often did you quarrel, describe your relationship.
- In the first year of meetings, we did not quarrel with him often, we can say that we almost did not quarrel. There were only two cases. But, there were other girls present, he flirted with them, in front of me, compliments them, but I didn't like it. I was jealous of him.
When I told him that I didn’t like the fact that he admired other girls, he was offended and said: so now I can’t look at anyone, do you want to change me?
I then replied that I don’t want to change it, I just don’t like it, that he flirts in my presence gives other girls signs of attention, and at this time I feel superfluous, although we are a couple.
He himself approached, put up, said that I was the best of all the girls in the world, that there were no words to describe his love for me. And he gives compliments to girls out of habit and out of politeness, and they mean nothing.
with others in your presence?
I share one secret))
In no case do not throw a scandal in public. We understand another person when we find ourselves in the same situation or feel it.
In words - all the more with logic, it is much more difficult to reach out and explain to him that flirting is unacceptable.
So, you come home and say to your chosen one: "Look, you flirt with girls and you like it, huh?"
It doesn't matter what he says, you continue: “And if I’m over there with that Petka, who was sitting on the left at our table, I’ll also flirt, he will pay attention to me, wink, make compliments, hold my hand, you will be pleased, what will you feel?”
The key word here is “you will feel”, a person should try on himself. Of course, he will at least not be pleased. He may not answer you, but he has already experienced this negative emotion (jealousy or irritation).
And you add: “So let's not hurt each other” ... And that's all, you can leave to “wash the dishes” or just go about your business, that's enough. The grain is planted ...
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I will answer this question using the example of Valentina's story.
Better, of course, to consider each case separately. In Valentina's situation, the rules of the relationship were not stipulated. Are you surprised now?)
Yes, there are rules in relationships, and they need to be negotiated at the beginning. But, unfortunately, Valentina did not stipulate what is allowed and what is not. And the fact is obvious!
Flirting had become a habit for her husband. He didn't think he was doing bad things to his wife.
If you want to build a strong relationship, the rules must be negotiated, agreed upon and adhered to, otherwise everyone will do what they think is right in their opinion. And as you know, people have different opinions, as a result, misunderstandings, scandals, betrayal and parting arise.
But remember, water does not flow under a lying stone. And without special knowledge and skills, collected empirically on examples of real stories, it is impossible to return and keep a man, and even more so to build a long-term relationship, where you and your partner are wonderful and comfortable with each other.
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Cancer man's horoscope from the American astrologer - Linda Goodman (book "Sun Signs")
Do not expect this man to bare his soul when he first meets you. He never trusts strangers. It will take a long time, patience, to get to know him for real. He can, of course, flirt, but he will be faithful. Without warning, his scowling face can glow with a smile. His usual complaints and unpleasant demeanors can gradually turn into tenderness. When he's sad, you want to hug him and allay his melancholy. His caution will amaze you. He can be very considerate of you and there is no doubt that he is a romantic dreamer. However, he is very intelligent and practical. What to do with such a man? Try to understand it. This is not just a changeable personality, but changes associated with the right phrases. Today - one thing, tomorrow - another. And between these moods, he can show his true nature. Always remember that Cancer's manners can be rude or aloof, but his heart is so light and caring and so filled with sentiment that he sometimes feels like a very vulnerable person. Sometimes he crawls into his shell, which he carries in himself, in order to escape for a while from his own emotions. He may seem like a real cancer to you at such moments, but you don't always like it. But as soon as he comes out into the sunlight again, you can get close to him again. Unfortunately, Cancer man from time to time spreads his bad mood around him so much that it can affect you and everyone around him. But there are times when he can be cheerful and cheerful, like an orangutan. And it’s not surprising that you don’t know what to do with him: either pour a cold shower over him, or warm him up with a warm blanket. These changes in Cancer can surprise anyone. His mood can be especially terrible when he is afraid of losing something, perhaps you. Convince that you belong to him, a hundred times a day, words of love are music to his ears. He may seem sometimes just abnormal.
As a rule, Cancers make good money. I am glad that I raised the issue of money, you will also be glad to be with such a person. You can have all sorts of difficulties with money, but if you live with Cancer, such difficulties will be the least likely. Therefore, your wedding is not as bad as it might seem. Finances have attracted him since childhood. And accumulating money attracts him more than spending it. He's not greedy, but let's put it this way - he will never light his pipe from a dollar bill. His sense of humor never extends to money. And it is quite possible that he learned to add and subtract before he learned the alphabet. Do not be surprised if you find that he has an account in the bank that was started as a child and has not been touched since that time. The glitter of silver and the rustle of banknotes soothes his nerves. But Cancers very rarely save money to invest in something. They save in order to feel their safety. And very often they underestimate their financial capabilities. They play the role of a poor man who somehow makes ends meet. And you may even feel sorry for him and offer money on credit. Don't do this, he probably has more of them than you.
Cancer can sometimes manifest extravagant desires, which he will courageously resist. And if suddenly he starts spending money during such periods, it will never become his habit. Also, you should know that he has a very original approach to saving. He would rather take you to a fancy restaurant in order to get full for his money than offend his taste with a second-rate dinner. He also thinks that it is foolish to spend money on a cheap coat when a chinchilla coat will look better and will serve you longer: in a word, quality and pleasure are synonymous for him. Even the most poetic and dreamy Cancers, associated with music or other arts, don't have a very keen sense of money. If you have a real Cancer, he will not wear sportswear (he does not like it), he prefers a conservative cut and good tailoring. And even if he has little money, his shoes will sparkle and his socks will be clean.
It will be good if his mother's tastes coincide with yours, as she will be very often mentioned in conversations and remarks like: “My mother never had such cosmetics, although she is a very beautiful woman. Don't you think, dear, that your eyelashes are too painted? " or “You made frozen chicken. And my mother even baked bread herself. " And these embodied virtues of his mother will often interfere in many situations, even when you least expect it. For example: "Honey, we will have to postpone the date, I need to take my mother to the dacha." To put it mildly, Cancer man, with great reluctance, dethrones his mother and puts the crown on you. Cancer is terribly home-bound. And if his mother's house is comfortable, Cancer will not rush to leave it. The typical Cancer is very close to the mother. And this fact should not be hidden. If you fell in love with Cancer, then on the one hand, you will have to erect his mother on a pedestal, and on the other hand, you remember that you are her rival and you must constantly gain the upper hand over her. It is not very easy to praise a person and at the same time compete with him. But this is the only strategy you should choose. Make sure that she does not surpass you in household and culinary matters. Let her teach you how to bake lemon pie, your husband will even love this scene. Then make a lovely beef stroganoff yourself. Remember to feed your Cancer well, take care of him when he is sick. This will remind you of his adored mother. All this can turn him into a good husband. He will never admit it, but remember that he loves to be a child and to be treated kindly by a woman.
There are several things that will equalize your relationship. For example, he himself can be a very good cook. He may surprise you with his ability to cook great meats. In addition, he loves to collect interesting things such as records, rare things. You will be completely safe when you come to his house for the first time. He is so gallant with women like no other. This is because men behaved this way back in grandmother's time, and he loves the old days so much. Ask him about the family, and he is happy to talk about this topic. He loves all the old things, loves to photograph. So don't be surprised if he wants to take a photo of you, this is his hobby.
Although Cancer can easily flirt, it takes a long time for a serious feeling. it is not easy for him to find a woman who meets his ideal. Finally, having found such a woman, he will be surprisingly sentimental, he can overwhelm her with gifts and his admiration. Its standards are high. And not every woman matches them. Most Cancers are afraid of unsuccessful marriages and for good reason. An inappropriate union can become a drama for them. When something separates them from their partner, it torments them terribly for many years. Therefore, by virtue of his nature, he does not want to marry rashly. But if he made the decision to marry, you cannot convince him, you cannot turn off the road. Cancer can perfectly play the role of a romantic lover. After declaring your love, you will see that you are courted by a serious and determined person who will achieve his goal. It is very difficult to slip out of its claws. Or you may not want to do this.
Cancer is a wonderful father due to its gentle understanding nature. He is infinitely patient with children, sincerely interested in their affairs. He is proud of his sons and fiercely protects his daughters. But when the children grow up, difficulties may arise, because he would like his children to be attached to him forever and to be with him forever.
To get him to propose to you faster, pretend that someone else proposed to you. And your Cancer will stop moving backwards. The easiest way to achieve him is to work on his emotions, which are always hidden behind his mind. Music, poetry, flowers, good perfume, gentle words and caress - these are the tools with which you can defeat him. And also do not forget that there is a direct connection between his heart and stomach. We must show ourselves as a good housewife and try to treat him like a child. Put on an antique bracelet - it will definitely work on him, because he loves all the old things. And one day he will ask you to meet his mother. Consider that the offer has been made and you have won his heart. You can sail with him in the moonlight. Let me remind you once again, do not throw away his old hat, torn slippers, school collections - these are all his treasures. Take your umbrella during damp nights and shelter it from the rain.
Now I may ask you if you like your new chinchilla coat? I think I like it. Anyway, a woman likes everything when she is loved. You are truly loved.
What could be more intimidating than trying to talk to someone you like? Fortunately, scientists have figured out exactly how flirting works. At the same time, couples and single people benefit from such knowledge. Below are certain points that you definitely need to take into account.
According to surveys and research in the field of social psychology, people start flirting for the following reasons:
In this survey, 101 women and 99 men took part, who were asked to write a fictional dialogue between a man and a woman who flirt with each other. Based on this, scientists have identified the main points of such motivation. At the same time, there were also gender differences. Men often flirted in order to get sex, while women did it to strengthen relationships.
In another study, 164 married couples were interviewed. The results showed that in most unions, flirting was present in various forms, ranging from gentle whispering in the ear to the parterre and ending with various forms of flirting. Flirting in this case serves as a way to maintain the closeness and intimacy of the relationship. Moreover, according to some reports, flirting in this case helps to create a personal space that is shared only by two spouses.
You probably know that in order to win over a person, you need to ask him questions about himself. However, this is not all. Research shows that people get much closer to each other when they start asking more intimate questions. For example, participants in this experiment asked each other about the importance and place of love in life, and how seriously they took attachment. Several months after this experiment, some of its participants even built real love relationships.
According to numerous studies, men in most cases overestimate the sexual interest of women, while women, on the contrary, underestimate it. In other words, a man thinks that a woman is interested in him, when in fact it is not, and, accordingly, women often underestimate how much interest they cause in men. To date, psychologists do not yet have an unambiguous answer as to why such a trend exists.
You do not need to carry out an hour massage session, while a light touch on your hand can really radically change the current situation. An experiment was carried out several years ago. The man asked for the phone number of random women on the street. At the same time, he simply asked some women, while when talking with others, he also easily touched a woman's hand for one second. As you might expect, those attempts where the man touched the woman's hand were more successful.
According to scientific evidence, flirting makes people more attractive to each other. Thus, as it were, a double process is carried out. You tell the person that they are attracted to you and also show that you are attractive to them as well. Flirting in this case serves as a factor that increases mutual attraction. This is especially effective if you do not rush and flirt slowly, stretching the process.
Many people continue to flirt even when they are already in a relationship. However, men and women feel differently. One experiment involved heterosexual respondents who were already in a relationship. The men met attractive women who flirted with them, as well as with inaccessible representatives of the fairer sex who simply ignored them. After that, both partners were told that their other half was guilty. Those men who had previously spoken to a woman who had flirted with them were 12% less likely to forgive their partner, while in a similar situation women, on the contrary, were 17% more likely to forgive their life partner.
Most importantly, show that you are available. Studies have shown that if a woman smiled and made eye contact, more men approached her, even if there were more attractive women in the room. In this case, it does not matter under what circumstances such a situation occurred. Experiments of this kind have been carried out in a bar, in a supermarket, etc., and they all ended with the same result.
If you stick to certain barriers and not stare madly, then eye contact really has a powerful effect. One study found that participants were asked to do various tasks while looking at their partner's eyes or hands. When eye contact was present, the opposite sex partner was more likely to feel attracted than when eye contact was absent.
According to another study, social psychologists have identified several styles of flirting that can be identified by the non-verbal behavior of people. Below are the key points of each style:
The facts presented contain useful information that has been obtained in the course of numerous studies and experiments conducted by social psychologists. The data obtained provide quite interesting results that can be successfully used by people in real life. Pay attention to these points, and, perhaps, it will bring certain changes to your life. In any case, this information deserves attention.
When we flirt, we play with people we like to try to win their attention or just have fun.
Sometimes guys act so weird that it's pretty hard to figure out who's flirting with you and who's just showing you friendliness. Especially if you are not very good at reading signals and hints.
Once you learn to identify the hidden signs of male flirting, you will understand whether he is just a good friend or is crazy about you.
We've prepared 14 key tips to help you determine if a guy is flirting with you.
Turn around abruptly and catch this look on yourself? His eyes seem to accompany you everywhere.
He feels the need to touch you. Even if this is expressed in a friendly pat on the shoulder or an innocent touch on the hand, it means that he is extremely pleased to be around.
One of the most honest signs. If during a conversation you understand that he is constantly looking at the movement of your lips, know that he is thinking about your kiss or about being closer to you.
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As soon as you mention that you're going to an event, how does the guy show up there? Is he spending all the time talking to you?
It only says that he is making the maximum amount of effort in order to be closer to you.
You constantly hear that the guy talked about you from the company of your acquaintances. This is a signal that you are always on his mind.
Can you tell the oldest and most unfunny anecdote, and he will still laugh? He just wants to impress you.
You know that if a boy pulls on a girl's pigtails, it’s only because of great love? In adulthood, it works the same way.
Only out of indifference to you, he continues to tease and pinpoint you.
Getting his drunk night sms? This is flirting, definitely.
The text does not have to contain a call for intimacy, no. Perhaps it is important for him to know how your day went and how you are doing.
He's probably too shy to do it openly. He may ostensibly remark in passing that you look good, and the next second continue to talk about something insignificant.
From time to time, he just asks the obvious questions just to enjoy the conversation with you once again.
When he sees you, he glows not only from the outside, but also from the inside. It seems that with all his appearance he simply radiates happiness.
Sometimes a guy can forget how to build the simplest sentence, he can get confused in easy words. His increased nervousness is a sign that he is afraid to make the wrong impression on you.
His eyes seem to pierce right through you. Eye contact for more than 10 seconds means that you have completely occupied his consciousness.
The guy is constantly playing with his hair, shifting from foot to foot, or reflexively repeating your movements. This is one of the ways to tune in to the same wavelength with you.
This can be regarded as a manifestation of male coquetry.
