Many men remain lonely because of fear of the opposite sex and not knowing how to get to know a girl, what to say to her during the first meeting, how to get interested and start a conversation. In fact, there is nothing difficult here - following simple recommendations allows you to find your soul mate and improve your personal life.
If you understand psychology, you can find an approach to anyone, even the most difficult person. But we do not advise you to be too persistent and waste time with a girl who clearly does not show any interest in you. You will only waste your energy and, most likely, you will not achieve anything. In this case, just politely stop communicating with her, saying that you are not suitable for each other.
For many guys, first meeting a girl is a real challenge. They do not know where to start a conversation, and most of all they are afraid of being rejected. After several unsuccessful attempts, a young man or an already mature man can permanently stop trying such acquaintances. All this is due to lack of experience and necessary knowledge.
The main sign of the probable success of an acquaintance is a direct look "eye to eye" and at the same time a friendly expression on his face. This indicates the girl's interest and the possibility of starting communication. Many guys miss these signals, get lost, look down and pass by. As a result, they miss their chance, and subsequently reproach themselves for a long time for their lack of confidence.
Contrary to stereotypes, getting to know each other on the street is easy. Moreover, this way of finding a soul mate is promising, thanks to a large selection of the fair sex. The main thing is to act assertively, confidently and from the first minutes to interest a new companion. But what is the right way to get to know a girl to arouse her sympathy? Let's talk about this in more detail.
A neat appearance is a key component of future meeting success. Give preference to the classic style - ironed shirt and trousers, as well as clean shoes. If you went out for a walk in a tracksuit and met the girl of your dreams, do not miss the chance. It's important to radiate confidence and be natural in your interactions with your girlfriend. Look up, straighten your back and smile. A positive attitude signals that the other person is well-intentioned.
Remember that girls are ordinary people who live with men on planet Earth and are not aliens from other planets. Of course, their interests and goals may differ from men's, but this is not an obstacle to communication, but in the future to closer relationships. Girls like it when people pay attention to them and give them compliments. They value a sense of humor, which should be used in the dating process.
If you like a girl, smile and say hello. As noted above, a smile disposes to a person and disarms the fair sex. The main thing is that the smile is benevolent, slightly embarrassed and necessarily sincere. It's a simple dating tool, but it works.
The most difficult thing for guys is to find the first words that would help start a full-fledged communication and start a dialogue. The perception of a guy by a girl, as well as the success of dating in general, largely depends on the first phrase. Moreover, the topic has no knowledge. At this stage, it is important to attract attention, start communication.
Consider a few rules:
For many guys, the question of how to get to know a girl properly is a real dilemma. And if you still manage to say “Hello” or “Let's get to know each other,” then you cannot secure the acquaintance and start a full-fledged dialogue. And really, what to talk about with a girl if you do not know her interests, life principles and goals?
A simple and at the same time effective principle works here. In the process of communication, focus on the interlocutor, be interested in him and ask questions. A lot of guys make the mistake of talking about their benefits. In the eyes of the girl, such suitors look like braggarts who are not worthy of attention.
Find out what interests the interlocutor in life, what kind of music she loves, where she studies. Listen carefully and memorize the answers, ask related and leading questions to get to know the girl even better.
Here are some simple questions and suggestions to start a dialogue with:
In the process of the first communication, try to describe the girl, confirm her peculiarity. In a conversation, mention her appearance, clothes, beauty of her face. You can start with a joke like “Can you talk?”, “What is your big bag. It can be seen that you like to carry weights. "
Guys often get lost when a girl goes to dialogue, but at the same time does not show much attention to their person. Do not despair - the interlocutor can still be interested. It is important to make her smile, make a joke, make her relax. You can tell an interesting and funny story from life. As a last resort, interest the girl in social status. It doesn't have to be financial condition. If you are competing or doing charity work, be subtle about it.
If efforts do not give results, and the girl communicates "on get off", end the conversation, referring to the lack of time or an urgent matter. In doing so, take a phone number to be able to improve your first impression of yourself. Perhaps the girl is in a bad mood today, but tomorrow or the day after tomorrow over a cup of coffee, the acquaintance will be more successful.
In numerous books and on the Internet, there are thousands of recommendations on how to learn to meet girls, what to do to attract attention, what things to wear, and what to talk about. Below we highlight the proven tips of psychologists that help you find the other half.
Before meeting a girl, let yourself be examined. There is no need to jump out from behind and scare the person in this way. It is important to attract attention to yourself, to make a small assessment and to draw conclusions. A short look and a smile are enough for this.
If the girl responded to a smile and also smiled, began to straighten her hair or fidget, you can start an acquaintance, the result of which should be an appointment or a phone number.
Start your conversation with a light and original compliment. You can praise the hairstyle, evaluate the right choice of handbags and shoes. Do not stoop to the banality like "You have great breasts." Believe me, confident girls know about it themselves.
In the process of communication, observe around and comment on the situation. It is important that the conversation is natural. If you have noticed a poster of a movie that you have already watched, share your impression and ask if your interlocutor has seen it. If not, this is a great excuse to invite a girl to a movie.
Unusual and unconventional phrases are well suited to start communication, for example, "Who do you think cheats more often - men or women?"
There are a few more important points to keep in mind:
In the process of dating, the psychological attitude of the guy is important, his willingness to make contact with a representative of the opposite sex. If you do not want to start communication, you will not be able to overcome your fear. It is important that there is a sincere desire to get to know a person, make an acquaintance and start a dialogue.
Learn to motivate and “charge” yourself before interacting with a stranger. If you go hunting, listen to your favorite song, set yourself up for a positive result and believe in success. Imagine that the goal has already been achieved - you saw the girl of your dreams, met her and now you are sitting at the same table in a cafe. It is important that an intention is formed in the head, which invariably leads to success.
If you don't know how you can get to know a girl and what to talk to her about, use a tried and true tactic - listen to your interlocutor. Ask her the questions she will be happy to answer. The main thing here is not to switch to a "banal" interview, for which it is worth accompanying some of the interlocutor's answers with small comments. Step by step you get to know the person, and he feels trust in the new interlocutor, and then - "a matter of technology."
To be honest, I don’t understand at all how to meet a girl on the street. No matter how hard I tried, I always ran into rudeness. I came up with various ways with questionnaires, surveys and other options for "tackling". Apparently, you need to work on your appearance.
People. If you don't know how to get to know a girl properly, start with the most important thing - the outer image. Believe me, the first impression is the most important. We are greeted "by the wrapper", because remember. It doesn't matter what I say to a girl at the first moment, if I am dressed stylishly and neatly. The conversation somehow starts by itself.
I don’t know about you, but for me to strike up a conversation is the main problem. I read a lot of literature on how to get to know a girl, but so far I have not achieved serious success. Although he still found one girlfriend, it never came to a serious relationship.
I never complained about my ability to pick up a girlfriend. At the same time, I have never read the literature on how to get to know a girl correctly (except for this article). It is not a problem to start talking and even get involved in a conversation. At the initial stage, compliment and try to contact through the look. It is very important.
I was looking for information about dating girls and came across this article. What I can say is very informative. It remains to cope with your natural fear of approaching the opposite sex. At least consult a psychologist. Knees are shaking, palms are sweating, instead of words, some kind of nonsense. Advise what to do.
I think that the most difficult thing is to start a conversation, and then it's a matter of technology. Personally, I start with a light compliment (even a banal one), after which I become interested in the girl herself. I always smile sincerely and make a slightly confused look - it works.
To my shame, I can say that all attempts to make an acquaintance and strike up a conversation have failed miserably. I manage to stop the girl, but I can't stop her with a conversation and interest. But I do not give up, because in this business you need to train.
From my own experience, I can say that when you first meet and communicate, it is important to leave on time. Here I support the author. If you see that the girl doubts, but at the same time shows interest, take a phone number and call somewhere after 2 days in a cafe or just take a walk.
I slightly disagree with the author regarding the tactics of an active listener. It seems to me that it only works after meeting and starting a relationship. The girl is unlikely to chat about everything with a stranger. Light compliments, short phrases, and early contact are important here. Then you can use the considered scheme.
I try to meet girls only through friends. So there is less hassle and faster conversation. I have never tried to start communication somewhere on the street - it's scary. But for the sake of interest, you need to try. Moreover, the necessary information is already available.
efficiency criterion for a higher school of dating: this is the number of women (or men) who have appeared in the life of students and the understanding of what needs to be done in order for them to appear there in the future.
How to meet a girl
Dating and Pickup
When it comes to dating a girl, many guys start to experience some kind of discomfort associated with the fact that they know absolutely nothing about how they should act and what to say.
And this uncertainty sometimes turns into real fear if you think of meeting a girl as an exam on which the fate of future relationships depends. After all, the price of a mistake can be so expensive.
But fortunately for you, this is complete nonsense and any guy, when meeting a girl, can do absolutely unpredictable things and at the same time strike her heart. It all depends solely on the correct choice of the girl and on the ability to listen, but we'll talk about this a little below.
In one good film about meeting a girl, there was a phrase that some guys began to take literally: "Everyone has a chance to hit the heart of absolutely any girl and become the one who will spend the rest of our lives with her." And although theoretically this is so, in reality everything is a little different.
In order to hit the heart of a girl, you need to be about her level and understand her ideals and dreams. Suppose, how do you imagine that a girl in a BMW starts dating a guy who has been rummaging in the trash can all her life? In theory, this is possible, but in practice this will not happen. And if such an example seems too categorical to you, then believe me, there are many hidden details and little things that you either understand or not. And no matter how wonderful and good you are, you cannot break through this shield.
Therefore, you need to clearly define your level, your capabilities and choose the category of girls you want to achieve. You can take girls one, two levels higher or lower, but no more. Trust me, every day we see hundreds of stories of heartbreaking love that failed for this very reason.
Why you need to decide on the level of the girl
Relationships should be purely enjoyable and happy, and this can only be achieved in a relationship in which there is ease, understanding and mutual assistance.
Imagine a situation when your potential girlfriend is used to going to expensive restaurants and clubs, and she spends every summer in Spain. And you are an ordinary student who lacks stars from heaven, but has some means. Maybe several times you will be able to afford such a rest, and then it will start to be very stressful. And the girl's attitude will change when she gets out of her usual rut, where everyone does exactly as she did before, and you began to limit her.
Therefore, you need to choose a girl who will be happy with what you can offer her. The girl who will help you reach heights, inspiring you to feats, and not reproaching you every day.
There is a simple truth: in order to learn how to walk, a child first has to lie in a cradle, crawl on the floor, and only then take hesitant steps that lead him to a confident gait.
When meeting girls, things are about the same. At first you are afraid to talk to them, then you make awkward attempts to start a dialogue with them, and then you realize that most of them behave exactly the same, your only job is to repeat what you have already done dozens of other times.
Where is the best place to meet girls
As the practice of successful dating with girls shows, there are currently two places where the chances of dating are greatest:
Holiday or Event. We are ready to whack anyone who tries to teach guys how to meet girls on the street using a classic suit, silly phrases and a lonely flower. How do you imagine it so that a girl who is going somewhere on business or is going to relax in the company of friends takes seriously a stuttering guy in a suit? This is ridiculous.
For this reason, we advise you to meet girls where the situation is conducive to it. For example, at a rock music concert, you can easily identify the girls who are standing and you can clearly see from their face that they are bored, or that they are calling for the attention of the guys more abruptly than the shaman calls for rain. At some KVN game at the institute, you can also sit next to a couple of girls and meet one of them. You can do this somewhere in a ski resort, or just in the park for some holiday. This number also includes thematic sites where fans of a certain culture gather.
Acquaintance in such a place allows you not only to approach a peaceful girl, but also to find a topic for conversation that will be of interest to both you and her. If she came to an event, then either she loves it, or at least she has friends who brought her here. And that's great for you.
Internet. Many people are inherently afraid of direct communication. And this rule applies to both guys and girls. This means that if you come up to a girl on the street and start telling her something, then she may have a desire to run away from you faster. At the same time, if you write her a message on the Internet, then she can willingly talk to you without fear for herself. For this reason, the Internet is a good place to chat with girls.
Immediately I want to warn you to work on your page. A photo of you sitting in the toilet drunk without pants is not cool and uninteresting! If you write to a decent girl, then at least for the first time create for yourself the image of an adequate guy. And this is not a joke, these are real situations!
It is believed that if a guy can say or write a really exciting introduction when meeting, then the girl will respond to this message with great enthusiasm. And indeed it is. But if you really appreciate what the guys write, then in 99.9% of cases this is such nonsense that girls are negatively perceived.
For this reason, if you are not sure of the genius of your blanks, then it is better to do with banal phrases that are perceived neutrally, which is already great!
It will be quite enough phrases like:
Hi, I saw some pictures of you on your bike. Can you tell me where you took these photos? By the way, my name is Maxim.
I saw you at the concert yesterday, but did not manage to come up to you, my friends dragged you. How do you like the concert?
Hi, you have good photos. I just could not resist not to write to you.
Take a closer look at the girl
Before you write to a girl, you need to spend at least a few minutes to evaluate her appearance.
If this is some kind of concert or just a street, then pay attention to the gait, posture, the choice of clothes and its color.
· Confident girls have a confident gait, a straight back and a neutral color. When meeting with them, it is imperative to be as confident as possible, express your thoughts clearly and clearly. Small banter in their direction is allowed, but on a neutral topic.
· If a girl is dressed in extremely bright clothes, her gait is confused, and her gaze avoids other people, then she is immersed in her thoughts, and other people do not bother her much. In this case, you need a somewhat cheeky approach with a romantic touch. These girls love bad boys.
What to say when meeting
You will be surprised, but the girl, when she meets you, does not want to listen to you, and she is not at all interested in your experiences and interests. The only thing a girl wants to do is be safe and talk about herself.
Your job is to keep the conversation going on a topic that interests her. Then she will be satisfied, and you can learn more about the girl. And this is useful to know if you are looking for a girl for a relationship, and not a girl for one night.
After you got to know each other, it's time to invite the girl to a meeting. And if you know her interests, then the place and words should not be a problem, but if you are still "walking in the dark", then remember a few points.
Don't make the meeting special. You shouldn't say: “I invite you on a date,” - you need to say more simply: “Let's go for a walk, we'll sit in a cafe. I have wanted to go for a long time, but just such a pleasant companion will be with me. " Less formality, more freedom.
Girls love intrigue. You can make a little puzzle about where you want to go. Even if you play with her a little on this topic, it's already good.
No friends and girlfriends. In no case do not agree to walks for three, four, etc. Such meetings are possible after a couple of months of relationship, but at the initial stage, this is the end!
There is nothing easier than meeting a girl. It all comes with experience, time and mistakes. And there is nothing wrong with that. You will definitely succeed in charming the girl of your dreams.
There is a huge amount of materials on the Internet on the topic "How to meet a girl?", "How to approach and speak?", "How to take the first step?" etc. Guys are looking for ways to meet for meetings, serious relationships, or just for sex. Whole trainings and online courses are aimed at this. The young man is taught how to approach the right way, pretend to be a resourceful and tough male, tell him about all sorts of anchors of confidence and so on ... The pickup industry does not sleep!
What happens after this training is completed? The guy goes out and starts trying to get to know everyone in a row, believing that now he will have a bunch of new girls. Many sites or courses directly say, "You have to go up to 10 girls every day and try to ask them out on a date." In pick-up language, this is called "making approaches."
The guy does these approaches and in most cases is left with nothing again. None of those who I liked were able to invite ... There is sadness in my soul because of the realization of my own worthlessness.
Why is this happening? And how does one get to know girls correctly? What is needed for this? And how to act correctly. Let's figure it out.
Without exception, all seduction techniques and courses focus on dating patterns. You will be told what to say, you will be taught how to touch a girl to get a positive reaction, and so on. But there is one huge omission in all these techniques! Nowhere does it say that you do not need to tackle everyone in a row, you need to choose very carefully. You need to see if the girl is ready to accept signs of attention from you. And in general, everyone is silent about the fact that looking for a female is not a man's business and therefore ungrateful ...
For you to understand everything, you need to understand the main roles of the male and female. The main task of the male is to interact with the outside world and search for resources. So it was 1000 years ago, and it is so now. The female herself looks for males who have these very resources, and tries to provoke them to courtship! Cut it on your nose!
It turns out that the pickup makes the guy go against his nature. Makes him be active and try to please. That is why a man can seriously engage in a pickup truck, but never get anything.
Finding sexual partners is the task of females! This rule is still valid! A man should not take the first step because it is against his nature.
But we are told from childhood that a man should have an active position ... And women themselves are never suitable to meet. Paradox. How then to be?
The pickup is considering the beginning of the acquaintance from the moment the guy tried to "roll up" to the girl. Coaches and gurus teach young people how to pose as a confident man, an alpha male, after communication has begun. This is the main mistake and that is why pickup artists are so often turned off!
In fact, real acquaintance occurs when a guy appears in the girl's field of vision! Do you see the fundamental difference? Acquaintance does not occur when you approached her and began to pretend to be an alpha male, but when you first caught her eye! This radically changes the whole dating strategy !!!
You caught the girl's eye. And before you just start thinking about getting to know you, you've already been appreciated by this girl. Her body has already begun to read information from your body and analyze whether you are suitable for her. The first acquaintance will happen before you have the slightest thought about rolling up!
A woman is by nature much more instinctive, and therefore while you are gathering all the courage to approach, a hundred thoughts will sweep through her unconscious, including about you. If she considers you a worthy man, her body will release the necessary hormones, pheromones, assume an advantageous position, and so on. That is, an unconscious reaction will occur.
Conclusion: If a girl does not make any visible steps towards rapprochement, this does not mean that she is not doing anything at all! She does, but not explicitly. And if she liked the man, she will react accordingly. This is the real first step, and she is taking this step!
The man is more rational. He usually processes the situation in his mind for much longer, calculates options, weighs. Approach or not fit? Should you tackle now or a little later? What to say and how to start a conversation? And so on ... Then, deciding to approach, he gathers his will into a fist, remembers all sorts of pick-up anchors, puts on a confident look and, finally, approaches the girl, naively thinking that the acquaintance will begin only now and everything depends on this very moment ...
All pick-up technicians see this moment as key, overlooking the fact that the real acquaintance happened long before this. You've already been appreciated, bro! And they did it a long time ago. This is the pickup's biggest mistake. The girl's first reaction to the boyfriend (or lack thereof) is not counted at all. Although this first biological impulse is the most important!
This is how it is customary to prepare for the approach in a pickup truck: remember the moment when you felt confident, evoke these feelings in yourself and only then approach. And you straighten your shoulders, lift your head, try to look cool. But a second before that, you were an ordinary guy, yourself, who you really are. And it was just such a guy that the girl estimated at an unconscious level. And if at the same time you have not made an impression on her, an attempt at an active acquaintance is doomed to failure. No technique will save you. This is why classic pick-up stuff often doesn't work!
1. Task number one - to be initially attractive to as many girls as possible. In this case, a man should be really attractive before he even thinks about dating. In fact, he should always be attractive to women! He must broadcast his confidence, status, and so on to the outside world. A man should initially broadcast a message that he has resources. And these are not only material resources, even not so much material resources ...
But if a man does not have any resources, then how will he emit such signals? No way. You can lie to the girl in words, saying a bunch of tales, but the body will not be able to confirm it. The body will behave in a completely different way. It will be seen that the person is trying to play an uncharacteristic role for him. Girls feel it at the subconscious level. But most would-be pick-up artists try to strike up a relationship this way ...
In order for a girl to take her first step towards you on an unconscious level, she must read information from your body and this information must interest her. Therefore, you need to pump yourself!
2. Task number two - try to get acquainted only after seeing a positive reaction. There is no point in trying to hook up with those who do not show any reactions!
If you do not see any reaction in your direction, then no pick-up techniques and tricks will help you to get a phone number. But if you see that the girl reacts positively and is interested, you can make an acquaintance without any tricks.
Now you know what to do. But how can you tell if someone is interested in you? Answer: observe. The girl will certainly "betray" herself. She will begin to try to appear before you in the best light, to provoke you to action.
Any girl knows very well about her shortcomings and if she likes a man, she will try to smooth out these shortcomings and appear in a more favorable light.
A girl liked you if she:
If you see such a reaction, congratulations! They call you to action and give you the green light :)
The most important thing is that you will not be in the position of the supplicant, but in the position of the one who chooses! You will know that you are not trying to please her, but she is trying to get your attention. Positive consolidation is already at work here. Even if you are kicked off, you will not understand and self-destruct after that. It's not your fault!
Each girl has her own threshold at which she will begin to respond positively to a man. Moreover, each girl has her own ideas about the ideal man. Therefore, it will hardly be possible to attract the attention of all the chicks around. But that's another question. Most importantly, you must broadcast the correct signal! We also advise you to read the article "How to Like a Girl?" For more information on the topic.
Of course, even with this approach to business, not all of your tackles will be successful. The girl's body can speak of sympathy, but the brain does not sleep. Cockroaches in my head get in the way ... But in any case, you will choose, and even if the acquaintance did not take place, you will know that the girl was simply dull. Do you need a stupid one? In addition, there may be objective circumstances, for example, she is already married.
Even if the acquaintance failed for some reason, you will know that you liked her. This positive experience will take hold and help you in the future.
The right male goal is to find resources. If your life is subordinated to this goal, and you have achieved certain success in this, all this will be registered in the body and behavior. The body will start broadcasting a meta message to the surrounding space that you are a resource male.
Women will read this signal and will flirt with you, provoking you to take action. You will have to choose a girl from among those who show you attention. You can calmly approach and start dating after you notice a positive reaction. Here you can already recall different styles of conversation, and so on. It is in such a situation that a pickup truck will be appropriate.
Watch the female. If she reacts positively to you, go for it. She wants to get to know you and get to know you better.
In order to attract more girls - develop and gain resources.
In this case, the man fulfills his task, assigned by nature, and the girl, hers. When this happens, everyone is good :)
This article does not contain different tackling techniques, there are no prepared phrases and examples. There is much more useful information here! Read this article again to get everything fixed in your head. This knowledge alone will make you a slightly more successful male!
Now that you know the main secret, you can move on to different dating options. Here is a plan for your actions in a specific situation:
These three points are the most important! It is in them that the fundamental difference between our methodology and the traditional pickup truck is contained. You don't go blind. You will not be in the humiliating position of the supplicant. You have already been appreciated as worthy and are trying to grab your attention.
You know she wants your attention, so don't be shy. You are a welcome guest :) Remember this always!
Ask the pick-up artist: "Where to meet girls?" He will answer importantly: "Yes, anywhere! We don't care about the place at all." A loser pick-up artist hits everyone everywhere. Therefore, it is constantly sewn off.
Choosing a place to meet is also important. You know from experience that people feel differently in different places. It is better not to try to get acquainted where a person is closed for communication. For example, on a bus, minibus, subway. Better to drive a few extra stops and follow the girl out into the street than trying to strike up a conversation on public transport.
A good place to meet is where the girl (and you yourself) feels free and open. Let's say for a walk in the evening. In such a situation, it will be easier to unleash the "object" into a normal conversation.
Better not to try to pretend to be a great seducer. If you are not, it will look ridiculous and unnatural. Just be yourself. Start your conversation with a simple phrase built like this:
Hey! It seems to me that you and I crossed paths somewhere. I can't remember exactly where. You didn't accidentally go to school number ...
In general, you can say everything directly:
Hey! I'm waiting for my friends here. I liked you. Let's talk. My name is ... How are you?
These are the simplest and most effective options. The main thing is to say all this easily, naturally and without straining. Try practicing at home in front of a mirror. You should be able to do it. The main thing is to boldly approach and do not be afraid of refusal. You choose, remember this!
Here are some tips to help you be more successful:
Your goal is to make positive contact. The girl has already semaphored you, now it's up to you. Start talking to her like an old friend. Talk about interesting events in your city, ask if she was present there. In general, start making contact. Show your interest in continuing the communication.
But do not drag out the communication for a long time. It is better after some time to end everything on the positive, while the emotions have not cooled down yet. Just say:
You know, you and I had a very good conversation. But I have to go. Let's meet again. Say your phone number. I'll call.
That's all. As you can see, the most important thing is to choose the right girl :) This is where it all starts. If you follow this method, it will be much easier and more pleasant to make an acquaintance. Good luck! Now, be sure to read about how to date a girl to find out what mistakes guys make during the post-dating stage and how to avoid these mistakes.
It happens that a guy simply cannot overcome himself and come up to meet. Or he cannot behave naturally when talking to a stranger. This is a serious problem. Many pickup sites recommend overcoming this fear by forceful approaches. But believe me, this is a very bad decision.
If, when trying to get to know each other, you get nervous, blush, sweat, if your legs are weak, and you cannot put two words together, then this means that you have a girl's fear in your subconscious. Such fear is a deep feeling and an attempt to suppress it will not lead to results.
The thing is that a woman's fear arises most often due to the fact that a man was brought up mainly by women. Because of this upbringing, his male instincts are suppressed. It has a "software" level glitch. In modern matriarchal society, this is more and more common.
If you notice the same in yourself, do not despair. Everything can be fixed. The main thing is to contact a specialized specialist. We wrote a special article: "The Fear of Dating a Girl - How to Deal With It?" Read it and you will understand in which direction you need to work. Our site has links to dedicated webinars that help guys deal with women's fears. Go ahead, everything is in your hands!
Modern Internet technologies provide ample opportunities both for obtaining important information and for communication. Moreover, you can communicate with anyone - with friends, colleagues, loved ones.
In addition, there is a stormy correspondence on the worldwide network with the aim of meeting and establishing closer relationships between men and young ladies. There are many examples when it was with the help of social networks that people met and connected destinies. This is why it is so important to understand how to meet a girl online.
Today, almost everyone has access to the Internet, since it is no longer necessary to have a stationary computer to access the network - it is enough to get a mobile phone. It's no surprise that virtual communication is now easier. In addition, such correspondence has its advantages over real meetings:
Despite the obvious advantages of such communication, it also has various disadvantages. These include the following factors:
In addition, the illusion of choice often confuses young people who, in pursuit of a bright appearance and more interesting communication, easily change their interlocutors, among whom there may be a really good girl.
On the Internet there are specialized dating sites, as they say, for every taste. Before registering, clearly define the main purpose of the correspondence. Your task:
As soon as you realize what exactly you expect from dating and communicating on the Internet, then narrow down your search and significantly save your time and nerves. After examining the opinion about sites for free dating, proceed to registration and filling out the questionnaire.
In doing so, it is useful to observe the following rules:
However, unlike previous sites, it is not always clear on VK whether your interlocutor wants to enter into a new relationship or whether she is not interested in it. Therefore, many guys are eager to learn how to meet a girl on Vkontakte.
It doesn't matter where you met a beautiful stranger - on a dating site or in contact, your task is to attract girls' attention. And for this you need to know which phrases it is better to refuse.
In order for the dialogue to start positively, “adepts” of such a phenomenon as a pickup truck advise avoiding the following impersonal and banal expressions until gnashing of teeth:
Such questions must be put aside, since they are asked by most men in VK, therefore, they do not cause anything but irritation to lovely young ladies. It turns out that you need to think carefully about what to write girls in contact for a positive acquaintance in order to compare favorably with other applicants for her heart.
Choosing the right phrase will be greatly simplified if you carefully studied its VK page.
For example, if a potential interlocutor loves dogs, ask how to care for a poodle (terrier, spitz), since you are planning to purchase a dog of the same breed.
If among the photographs you find any tourist attraction, write that you have been there recently and seem to have even spotted a girl during an excursion. The young lady will certainly want to know the details of the "meeting".
Can't think of what to write to a girl when communicating on Vkontakte? Use ready-made phrases for dating a girl, which can be easily found on numerous pickup resources. The following questions can become such "openers":
Agree, the expressions are not so trivial, but pick-up sites are a place visited, so there is a chance that the girl has already read such phrases many, many times.
So, the main thing you have already done is aroused the girl's interest. Now it is important to continue communication and not be blacklisted on VK or any other social network.
Even if your goal is just to sleep with a hottie, you don't need to make vulgar suggestions and ask frank questions.
Pick-up masters, who know how to please women by correspondence, offer the following recommendations to "beginners":
If you managed to strike up a full-fledged correspondence in contact, heed another advice from pickup-masters: try to immediately translate communication into real life.
A date will show how pleasant you are to each other, and if the sympathy turns out to be mutual, communication in real life can be alternated with conversations in VK.
Even if you managed to meet, the communication will continue online, which means that you need to think over topics for subsequent conversations. If the girl is not yet ready for a date, additional conversations will help to better prepare for real meetings.
The following recommendations will help you to communicate productively with young ladies in VK:
If you do not know how to meet a young lady on dating sites, in contact, other social networks and what to write to a girl in the first message, try our recommendations.
The main thing is not to forget - virtual correspondence will never replace real, live communication with real smiles, embarrassment and timid touches. Therefore, use the tips described above in order to invite a beauty out on a date!
Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a special psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on raising babies. I use the experience gained, including in the creation of articles of a psychological orientation. Of course, in no way do I pretend to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers to deal with any difficulties.
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The question “where to meet” sounds almost more often than the topical “how”. In fact, there are no right places and perfect phrases for dating. But there is a theory of probability and a practice of common sense, according to which a club, cafe and street are not the best places to meet.
Most guys are sure the club, cafe and street are fishy places. To this I will say - trite, boring and ineffective.
Now let's talk about the geography of a successful hunt - where it is easier to meet a girl.
Psychologists call the most profitable places for dating: transport, library, fitness room, supermarket and the sea.
I remind you where I met the girl - there you will meet. Do not wait for the beauty to enter a transport, shop or buy a ticket to the sea.
Places for acquaintance should be calibrated with an eye on the target. It is clear that you should not hunt for young ladies of the family type in the club, and you do not need to look for a girl for a break in a museum. Although everything happens in life, and devils are found in a still pool. But today we are talking about places with high efficiency and first-order probabilities. So where to meet a girl for a serious relationship?
Let's turn to the statistics on acquaintances with the finals in the registry office ("Without statistics, it's not life at all, but some kind of hard labor", film "Office Romance").
The rest met in other circumstances. We draw the following conclusion - you can meet your "soul mate", in principle, everywhere, except for a sofa (if you have a laptop in your hands, that's another matter).
By the way, do you know what qualities a girl value most in a man? Start your acquaintance with this.
Good sex is appreciated by everyone. Many people prefer to meet in the “no obligation” format, and girls are no exception. Each has its own reasons. Someone wants to try themselves in the role of a sophisticated vamp woman who changes men like gloves. The other simply yearned for no tenderness, and is ready to sacrifice principles. The third ... Listen, what difference does it make to you? Just write down the subcortex: women want, and more than you think. And one-time sex is preferred by many of them. The question is - where to find one?
It is not difficult for a professional pick-up artist to take a girl to bed even from the library. Others go to a club or dating sites for fun. The efficiency is high both there and there. Check out the list of the best dating sites here. And don't be shy. You have the right to any whim. In addition to the usual dating portals, there are thematic ones: do not waste time on Mamba, when there is "black", if you love harder, and so on. Let's talk about web dating in more detail, since it is this method of gender communication that is becoming the leader today.
It doesn't matter what your grandmother thinks about the Internet. Remind her that pen-and-paper acquaintances also existed during her youth. Well, today everyone hangs out in the Internet space - they work, communicate and, of course, get to know each other.
If the Internet for you up to this point was a place where you can download music or watch pornography, it's time to expand your horizons.
Social networks are a godsend for a guy who wants to meet a girl. A social network account is a sea of hooks that easily turn into openers. Any photo, video or even like can be used to your advantage. And don't forget to clean your page. Remove posts that women are fools, and other compromising evidence. Your account must be exemplary.
The main advantage of dating sites is their specialized profile. On a dating site, girls want, oddly enough, to get acquainted. Take popcorn, choose a dating site - and be sure. But do not count on easy prey and one hundred percent return, because ...
I'm not talking about scammers, fools, prostitutes and other categories of ladies who will surely meet on your way. But the one walking will master the road. Go!
I repeat, like a mantra: where you like a girl, there is a place to meet. Street, concert hall, dating site - not the place determines the outcome, but your ability to act. And misfires happen to everyone, even to the pickup guru. Take it as a fact - they will turn it off. And this is not a reason to return to your comfort zone. It's an incentive to bookmark our site and read expert advice on how to improve your personal communication skills.
What does the light bulb have to do with it? Thomas Edison is said to have performed 10,000 failed experiments to create an electric incandescent light bulb. The great scientist perceived every failure as an experience that moves him closer to success. Take note. Any obstacle lends itself to stubborn and persistent assault. Good luck!
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