Today we talk a lot about misogyny, but women continue to annoy and humiliate each other - at best in the face, at worst - anonymously, on social media forums.
Why do women so enrage women? The girls frankly told LADY about this. Oh, what did we not have to hear! So, 10 of the most incredible reasons why ladies annoy each other.
1. Olive branch is received by "stupid", according to respondents, girls
It makes sense: regardless of gender, people with limited thinking are unlikely to be liked by anyone, especially when it comes to working relationships. The problem is that some girls determine the level of intelligence of the first person they meet by their appearance: “It's horror when there is a painted haystack on the head and a Khokhloma on the face! You see this and understand: well, not the smartest woman. It’s even a pity for such people… ”- the respondent shares her opinion.
2. Chatty and gossip
Particular aggression among the respondents was caused by the ladies who are ready to discuss anyone, anything and give out such a wild number of words per minute that "the brain is already boiling." In addition, experienced gossips are distinguished by the magical gift of a writer: they will not hear the whole truth, so they will come up with an end. Epic, juicy and vibrant. It is by this quality - the wild love of spreading rumors and weaving intrigues - that girls cause irritation.
3. Envy
Girls sorely dislike it when their fellow tribesmen openly envy and, moreover, do not try to hide it. The range of subjects and objects of envy is huge: from new shoes to a smarter child and a businessman husband. This is where gossip and the following "points" of hatred are born, which we will talk about further. According to the respondents, in their eyes an envious person is "a certain Baba Yaga with a love-lapel potion, toxic to everyone around."
4. Competition / rivalry / success / beauty
Some of the girls interviewed honestly admit: "if I see a woman who is better than me in all respects, the brain turns off."
For example, there was the following answer: “They enrage everyone! Especially if there is someone nicer, rosier and whiter in the world. Doesn't represent anything of itself, and my husband is a smart guy, handsome and businessman! Forgive me, Lord! "
The respondents answered that they were also enraged by women with a vulgar appearance, with pumped lips and silicone breasts, "tuned" fit babies.
5. Arrogance / bombast / conceit / arrogance / pathos
The respondents unanimously stated that they could not stand excessive pathos and “show-off” when other women try to show their lives from the advantageous side, especially if in reality everything is very sad. Excessive self-love, narcissism and selfishness, when you only hear “I, I and I”, are also irritating.
6. Cunning and curiosity
The interviewed ladies are incredibly annoying when girls deliberately pretend to be "fools" and play underground games to achieve their goal. Manipulation, intrigue, hypocrisy, the use of a person for their own purposes - it's hard to endure. Here is one of the answers: “They annoy with imaginary holiness. All around are fallen women, and she is one such 'angel in the flesh'. "
Also, many frankly infuriate when young ladies they know begin to give advice and poke their nose into other people's business! Tactlessness and obsession, inability to keep secrets and sincerely rejoice for the success of others - this is what infuriates women in women. Therefore, many of the respondents questioned the existence of such a concept as female solidarity.
7. Hysteria and scandalousness
The respondents noted that they are pissed off by women who cannot keep their emotions under control and are constantly capricious. Women note that they do not like pessimistic young ladies who whine all the time ... But they immediately clarify: those who live fluttering easily and carelessly, but doing nothing at the same time, are also enraged. Here's a paradox.
8. Baby
Many girls cannot calmly react to those wives who only do what they say about children and husband. For example, one respondent commented: “It infuriates when a woman seeks to protect and protect a man: he is weak, sick, stupid and weak - I have to do everything for him. And then she complains about life! "
Most of all, the respondents in these cases are irritated by the fact that women are ready to "whine" and lament around the clock, but do not want to change anything in their lives: as if, apart from this, there is nothing in life! ".
9. Violation of traffic rules
Many men still believe that women should not be allowed to drive. Surprisingly, some of the fairer sex agree with them.
10. Enrage with their presence
Many girls could not clearly understand what the others were annoying them with, and answered shortly - to everyone. It's just that they are nearby, that they exist, that they breathe air and walk on the ground.
By the way, there were many women who admitted that other people did not annoy them at all. However, the number of people willing to express their opinion was huge!
Together with a specialist, we will try to understand the phenomenon of misogyny.
Psychologist Anastasia Korolenko:
- First you need to figure out what "internal misogyny" is. So, the term itself is interpreted as contempt and hatred of the female sex. The main idea is this: no matter what a woman does, it's still bad. The women themselves are very good at using this concept. For them, this is a way of raising their value at the expense of humiliating another woman.
How is it that women start to hate themselves? The answer is simple. Everything is laid down from childhood. Remember how in childhood they said that boys are allowed, but girls are not allowed, otherwise they will be ridiculed and punished. If a man does not marry before thirty, then this is his way of life, but if a girl has not married by thirty, then this is already an old maid. All this leads to distance from one's gender. Because confronting this alone is scary, unusual, and in practice it is hardly possible.
How is this hatred manifested? This is the denial of being female. Remember how proud it was to be friends with the guys in the yard and it was nice to hear: “You're a kid! Not like these! "
The next sign of misogyny is the devaluation of one's actions, ignorance of everything “feminine”. Whether it's dress style, female behavior, or just female household chores. Some women begin to scoff at female representatives who are on maternity leave. And we see such situations all the time.
How to get rid of this? It is only your decision whether to continue to hate all women or not. However, do not forget that this condition affects not only some distant women, but also you yourself in the first place.
It is impossible to get rid of such an attitude in an instant. But what can you do right now:
1) Control your thoughts. For example: "A friend deceived me because she is a woman or because she never inspires confidence in me?" The answer to such a question will sharply tell you how stereotyped you think.
2) Try to interact more with women. Don't be afraid of jealousy, rivalry. You are so alone! And you are not the same in the whole world! Look for an environment that you admire. If you like successful and beautiful women, try to befriend them and try to be who you want.
3) Ask close friends to pay attention to what you say. For example, when you say similar phrases or when you devalue your own statements with phrases such as "I may be wrong, but ...". If you suddenly expressed yourself sharply negatively in relation to another woman, then stop and think - why does it bother you so much and cause negativity? It is not uncommon for successful, hardworking women to be annoyed by those who do nothing and constantly rest. Do you live seven days a week? Then just allow yourself to rest, put things aside and do the same thing that the object of your hate. You will see, it will become much easier for you!
4) Show compassion, not judgment, when you notice your own or someone else's unconscious misogyny. Otherwise, you will not go far from her. Try to trade aggression for empathy or pity.
5) And most importantly - work with your self-esteem, go to therapy with a psychologist if you cannot cope with the problem on your own. As soon as you accept yourself, love yourself and admire yourself - immediately the aggression towards others will pass. As long as you deny that you are a woman, the chances of true happiness are very small.
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Men and women ... Representatives of two different planets. In some ways they are similar, but in others they are diametrically opposite. Men even breathe differently - with their belly, while women - with full breasts. And they speak different languages, sending each other "code messages", not always successfully being able to decipher them. But I really want to learn to understand these codes in order to avoid mistakes that lead to quarrels and conflicts, breakups and depression. What annoys men about women?
If you are more attentive to the strong half of humanity, then by their reaction, which they do not know how to hide, you can easily understand what annoys men in women. Secrets often lie in the phrases that women say without hesitation. They have become commonplace, and therefore anyone can remember how she repeatedly said them to her partner:
It is difficult to suspect men of rancor, but there are phrases that they have not been able to forget for many years. This lies in the plane of the peculiarities of their psyche and physiology. Such phrases are pronounced, as a rule, in the heat of anger, when a woman begins to be annoyed in a man by one or another of his features (indecision, inattention, stubbornness), and are incorrect: “this is not your child”, “my mother told me about you correctly” , “I didn't have to marry you”, “I gave you all my youth”, “Do you think I loved you?”. Their peculiarity lies in the fact that they not only cause counter irritation, but also create problems in future relationships. It is difficult to convince a man otherwise.
In communicating with the opposite sex, discussions of the former, comparisons, and provocative questions that are puzzling: "Is she cute?" Are inappropriate. Men are owners, choosing partners, in whom they are looking for confirmation of their masculine strength. But this does not mean that they cease to be connoisseurs of female beauty. In intimate relationships, the most unpleasant phrase is: “Not today. I have a headache". She does not need comment, because she questions the presence of feelings.
Habits are certain actions that have become a human need. Even if they are harmful to health or people around them, it is difficult to refuse them. This causes internal discomfort. Nevertheless, a person is able to give up smoking, alcohol, idle pastime, if he has strong motivation. What annoys women the most about men? That for the sake of them you have to sacrifice something, experiencing negative emotions. But staying in the relationship is motivation enough to revise the habits that irritate men.
Behavioral traits to get rid of:
All people have features that are not always pleasant to those around them. Typification is an attempt to highlight the most essential features that characterize a person. Answering the question which women annoy men, one should name those types, communication with which leaves an unpleasant aftertaste:
A man who enters into a relationship with a woman must desire her. Therefore, appearance is of paramount importance to him. He will be able to discern the soul and mind only after he fixes his interested gaze on it. In this case, a woman should not worry about the dissimilarity with Angelina Jolie or Nicole Kidman. Each man has his own coveted image that evokes certain associations. Three other components are more important: neatness, a confident look and a well-groomed figure. You should consider what annoys men in women the most:
Why does a woman annoy a man in marriage or during a joint residence? He has already made a choice, demonstrating that he prefers her to other members of the fair sex. What in the behavior of the chosen one is capable of pushing away from her and causing a revision of the relationship?
The sphere of sexual life is the subject of an agreement between two people, expressing it through mutual feelings for each other. Men are annoyed when she becomes the object of bargaining and manipulation. Asking for intimacy is not only humiliating, but also fraught with consequences. This is a serious threat to marital relations.
It is unacceptable to discuss the details of sexual life with third parties, making fun of male failure or features of the genital organ. As well as criticism during intimacy or fake orgasm. Anything that destroys trust between partners causes irritation and kills feelings. It is more important to give your man an understanding that a woman expects psychological satisfaction from sex.
Smoking, obscenities, alcohol abuse - this is certainly what annoys men in women and does not require any explanation. These harmful male habits completely deprive women of their external attractiveness and respect for themselves. Because they are based on a decrease in self-esteem and a lack of culture of behavior.
Text: Readers' responses were analyzed by Sasha Gluvein Photo: Getty / Fotobank.ru We suspected for a long time that love is evil, and the stronger sex uses it. But the real extent of this phenomenon became clear only after about a thousand of our readers answered the question "What behaviors and habits of a loved one make you nervous?"
A loving woman is ready to forgive a lot, but sometimes love leaves or patience runs out.
Annoying factor # 1 turned out to be computer games: 37% of the women surveyed complained that the man simply ceases to notice them, leaving for the virtual world. The second place went to the "wonderful" male ability to let women's requests go deaf ears - this is the option chosen 19% respondents. 9% Participants in our survey had a chance to find puddles in the bathroom, and the culprit was not a leaking pipe, but a loved one who did not consider it necessary to wipe the floors after taking a shower. 7% women complained about discrimination on the basis of gender while driving - men allow themselves to comment on their driving style, making venomous remarks. The same number of respondents admitted that after their loved one makes another culinary masterpiece, the kitchen resembles the battlefield of the Battle of Kulikovo and the Battle of the Ice combined. 5% the respondents had to act as a "treasure hunter", looking for dirty socks, lovingly hidden by their beloved in secluded places. Yet 5% regularly face the manifestation of stubbornness - their halves are not afraid to be branded as Ivan Susanin, just not to step on the throat of alpha pride, asking for directions from passers-by. And finally 4% of respondents noted that their faithful experience an inexplicable craving for dyundiks, nuts, screws and wires and languish over them, like Tsar Koschey over gold. Interestingly, not a single participant wrote about the most stereotypical complaint - the raised toilet seat. And, as always, the most curious, killer and funny reasons for anger were found in the column “Your answer”.
What else is annoying?
Here you, men, live for yourself and do not guess why sometimes it is women who, for what you think, are normal behavior, take offense at you. After all, you take care of her, take care of her, and they ...
And they, too, try to do everything better, and choose a better man for themselves and spend better time with him. But still, even though we are all human, we differ in many respects radically.
Let's start with the moment when a man meets a woman and tries to please her. What is he doing wrong? Why does the affair end with one date, or the date fails at all? There can be many reasons, but the first three are especially annoying for a woman:
Boasting... Many men begin to splurge right away, talking about their millions, dachas, yachts. Some go further than words: they put on an expensive suit, twirl a cool mobile, show a lot of credit cards and generally try to raise their status in the eyes of a woman. But even so, the behavior of an ordinary person betrays them. A woman sees in such a man only a boy who, apart from bragging, is not capable of anything. Therefore, it is better to raise your status only if you want a short-term relationship and know how to do it efficiently and believably.
Criticism... A number of males think that if they criticize a man sitting next to them, they will rise in the eyes of a woman. And the woman thinks: that you are a weakling and a failure, instead of raising yourself you lower others. This is mean and stupid. Especially if they themselves are not perfect. If you want to continue communicating with a woman, then Useful Tips advises you to stop criticizing other men, at least at the initial stage.
When they try to buy it... If you give a woman gifts, she takes them. If you give sex, she takes it. Therefore, think about who you want to become for another woman: a kind grandfather frost with a bag of gifts or a hero-lover / husband. A woman will be very angry and surprised when she finds out that by helping her and giving gifts, you dreamed of becoming something more than just a friend. And it will be right. As someone correctly noted: "All the best that a woman can give a man, she gives him for free"
She loves men. Yes, men. And I, ask who? The fact is that a man needs to be in behavior, you must be stronger (not only physically) than a woman, to be in the first place. Should not whine and spread in front of her. Yes, she will try to put you in her female place, but she will be very upset if she succeeds. Therefore, you need to be always on the lookout.
One more thing. It is necessary to be a man in the modern sense of the word, and not in the primitive one. There should be no rudeness and other things inherent in the behavior of representatives of the animal world. You need to be a gallant gentleman and at the same time strong and proud. Then you will be loved.
A woman does not like "brakes"... If she looks at you with a languid look, and you tell her about some Vasya, she will think that you are a brake. Or what time it is when giving you signs of attention, she will not wait for specific actions from you - she will also think that you are a brake. If she is interested in you, then she wants to see you, not gifts and flowers (they are appropriate as an addition to your relationship). A woman is interested in you, and not in an anecdote that she had already read six months ago on the Internet before you and. etc.
And what about everyday life, whether it is a spouse or just a couple living together, is everything satisfied? Of course (men smile), far from it. Since there are many female stimuli, I will single out the main subgroups, where everyone can enter something of their own.
Sloppiness... Socks scattered all over the house, clothes that end up anywhere but in the closet, lights left on, unclosed tubes and many other similar trifles. Men do this because it seems convenient to them or they just do not have time for it, unfortunately, which naturally annoys women. They believe that all this is from great laziness. Maybe in some way they are right.
That we are men. Yes, yes, before everything was the other way around, before this feature they liked until they drank it at home. So they have to endure football, beer, fishing, spare parts from equipment in all places. And what about male rationalization. Well, why waste time looking for a fork to get a cucumber out of a jar if you just grab it with your hand. Or what's the point in going to get a glass, if you can kiss the bottle and so on. Unfortunately, not all ladies appreciate our innovation impulses properly.
Our double standards... The woman behind the wheel is like a monkey with a grenade, men do not get tired of repeating, which irritates the female representatives. And when they get behind the wheel themselves, they can play around. And they do not understand that everything is for them loved ones.
Anyway, we often use discrimination against women. Much that we allow ourselves, we do not allow them, and they still have to cook, wash, clean, and for us this is not a man's occupation.
Jealousy... In small doses, jealousy is useful, but if you do not allow breathing, walk, always follow on your heels, track calls, etc. etc. Not every woman will be satisfied with this behavior, and many will simply be annoyed. It is not your property and it is not worth protecting it by force. It is better to make her want to be with you and not go anywhere.
You start to forget her... Not literally, but she feels that your attitude is not the same as in the early days of meeting. She found out that you have other things to do that move her into your schedule. She is not very happy about this fact, so irritation begins to slowly build up, the relationship between a man and a woman begins to heat up.
The difference is in the little things... We constantly forget some dates, anniversaries, we constantly do not notice her new earrings or other outfits. We carelessly treat knick-knacks, which are of quite great importance to her. Women are annoyed by what seems to be a trifle for a man - for her it is not at all trifles, and vice versa. We are so different and yet we are together.
Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: In the women's survey “What annoys women in men”, women had the opportunity to independently describe those traits of their man's behavior that caused them genuine irritation. Based on the results of the survey, I have compiled a rating called "the top ten irritants of women from male behavior."
As part of the women's survey"What annoys women about men", women had the opportunity to independently describe those traits of their man's behavior that caused them sincere irritation. Based on the results of the survey, I have compiled a rating called "the top ten irritants of women from male behavior."
I will now give specific examples that I received from the polls. At the same time, I will immediately make a reservation: regardless of their age, educational, financial and social status, most of the fair sex are annoyed in men by the same nuances of their male behavior. I think it is useful for men to find out.
TOP-10 irritants from male behavior:
1. A man does not pay due attention to his woman.: is not interested in her life, does not pity her, does not express approval, does not call, does not write SMS, does not give flowers for no reason, does not say compliments, does not inform a woman that he loves her and she is the most beautiful and best, avoids hugs and kisses ... Little is jealous and this means that he does not care about his woman. She never remembers when her beloved woman has a birthday, does not remember anniversaries and memorable dates in the history of this couple (date of acquaintance, wedding day, etc.).
2. A man always strives to sleep with some other woman. Moreover, this other woman is always worse than the existing one. (Even if she is younger, more beautiful and more successful: just men do not understand anything about women and cannot appreciate really standing women, they always bite on pacifiers and trickery).
3. A man does not notice how a woman does a lot for him in everyday life and life, does not praise her for it... Instead, she always demands something from her (to lose weight, sex, borscht, cleanliness in the house), although I should be immensely grateful for the fact that next to him is such an amazing and delightful woman.
4. He does not appreciate his woman properly in the material sphere, shows greed and prudence, instead of regularly presenting her with various valuable gifts.
5. A man always pulls with the solution of any issue. He almost never keeps his promises: come home on time from work, do not drink alcohol, do something by the announced deadline, play with the child, spend weekends with his family, etc.
6. A man is extremely lazy and does not want to develop in career and financial terms, does not seek to improve the life of his family. Instead of earning decent money, he either sits on the Internet or on TV shows, reads books, drinks beer or talks to his friends, who are all drunkards and womanizers.
7. A man depends on his friends, work colleagues, relatives, and some random people in making his decisions. He does not understand that they are clearly harming him, use him for their own selfish purposes, does not listen to his woman, who is only one of his true friends.
8. A man does not trust his wife, does not seek to work with her, does not share his plans, does not like to discuss them with his wife / beloved on his own initiative, generally speaks little on general topics, is secretive.
9. A man always avoids talking about important topics. even if they start on a female initiative and are long overdue.
10. A man is terrible in family life and extremely mismanaged: he does not know how to keep clean, does not help in cleaning, litters, is unable to find his own things, cannot not only cook for himself, but even warm up ready-made food, it is scary to leave the child in his care. In general, if it were not for women, men would still be wild: they would be jumping over the palm trees and yelling in bad voices.
I would like to point out a few important details that are striking. If in the polls of men in the first place was listed “female sexual instability”, that is, low sexual activity of wives, then among women the topic of intimate relationships did not even make it into the top ten female claims against men.
It is quite obvious that for women it is not sexual relations themselves that are much more important, but a man's attitude towards her, which is assessed through the attention that a man shows to a woman, her life, her inner experiences, thoughts and feelings. That is, to everything that rational men do not really understand.
It is straightforward from women's surveys that a huge number of women are not satisfied with their position in relationships, in the sense that:
That is, underrun and underfunded.
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An interesting impression is formed from the polls. The men surveyed essentially want their wives to be somewhere on the sidelines of their lives: they quietly go about their female (household and maternal) affairs, did not interfere with men from living their male life, would be attracted by men only for joint leisure and intimacy.
The women interviewed clearly do not want to put up with this state of affairs, they stubbornly make their way into the world of their man, heroically overcome resistance and literally snatch attention, praise, love and budgets for themselves. For which honor and praise to them. published
Andrey Zberovsky
Men, to charm the fairer sex, can immediately start showering. They can talk about high income, their business, houses, yachts. At the same time, the guys put on an expensive suit on a date, take a mobile phone of the latest model with them, and stuff their wallets with money. But the image created by a man for a meeting is not always true. The woman will feel the lie. Bragging will only alienate the girl from this man.Playing a businessman, a man needs not only to put on a suit, but also to merge with this image internally.
Boorish behavior can only be tolerated by women who do not respect themselves. A true lady will not stay next to such a man for a minute.
At the same time, ladies do not respect the manifestation of weakness, whining from the guy. A woman can tell you about problems, sharing with you as with a "friend", but at the same time she subconsciously wants you to treat her understandingly and even help with a man's work. But in no case did they begin to spread their problems in response, howling and sobbing.
