I reread a lot of sites, articles, but I could not find the answers I needed anywhere. This is the first site where I was able to draw at least some conclusions for myself, therefore I am writing this comment. Prior to that, he did not write anywhere and did not talk about his situation. Probably, like everyone else sitting here, I consider my story special. I don’t know what to do, even March 8 is on the nose. I really hope for an ambulance. I am weak and afraid of losing HER forever. I have already made a lot of mistakes, excessive attention, excessive persistence, talking about feelings, adjusting to the interests of my object and even trying to appeal to female logic.
The situation is pretty complicated. It seems unrealistic to me to return a girl who never had feelings for me, or they did appear and I buried them myself.
I am 21, she is 24. I have had sympathy for this girl for a very long time, as much as 7 years. Due to the age difference, at my 14 I could not even dream that one day I would just get to know her. As far back as I can remember, she has always been quite popular. And now 7 years later - we are together. Were.
Our history dates back to 1.5 years ago. At that time, I already knew her, but not as close as I would like. So clean, one meeting in the company, then a couple of times HELLO-HELLO. And all this time she was unaware of my sympathy. I was still afraid to send her a friend request, tk. it seemed to me that if she didn’t accept him, that would be it. I lived in the hope that somehow something would happen, that we would get closer. I waited, waited, and now I could not stand it and sent a request. She accepted him, and even she herself offered to meet at a local get-together, where she was going to go with her friend. I went there with a friend. Since that day we have become inseparable. We exchanged numbers, communication online 24/7. My sympathy began to grow into something more, but I still hid it. Although he tried to show it with some actions that she did not notice. And so I admitted that I want to be with her. Received a refusal.
I have never considered myself a guy who runs after someone, humiliates himself or achieves. I will not say that I am not popular with other girls, on the contrary. I always got what I wanted. I have not yet heard a single refusal in my direction. Since the 14 years since which I have sympathy for her, I managed to be in a serious relationship twice (3.5 years and 1.2). I loved. There were also many fleeting romances. I won't say what I thought of her. On the contrary, I did not think at all, I had a different life, but sympathy for it lived all this time. It just seemed so unattainable. And now life gives me the opportunity, we spend a lot of time together, everything is fine, we laugh, we walk. And she refuses me. She. The same one. The first one who refused me. It was a blow. For pride, for feelings, for everything.
As a result, we stopped communicating. I couldn’t stand it for a week. I bought a huge bouquet of meter-long red roses with my last money and came to pour out my soul. She said that you need to think. In the end, we met 2 days later at her place. The atmosphere was intimate. Everything hinted that it was YES. And she said to my friend alone that she agreed to try. We drank then, I stayed overnight for the first time. She lives on her own. They kissed all night, but I did not dare to go further. Not because I didn't want to, it just seemed to me wrong to take advantage of her, her drunken state. I thought that we would have time to have sex together. The next day she suddenly changed her mind, said that there was nothing between us. It seemed strange to me. What happened then that night? Is it really drunk? Is this how she behaves with every “friend”? It seems to me that even if you value a person as a friend, they don’t do that. It seemed to me that they played with me. It was spitting. I was looking for a reason, what's wrong? Maybe because he did not cross this very line and did not show her seriousness. After all, the girl is not 16. Experience is present. Sounds weird. I still don't know what it was and why it was. After her words that there was nothing between us, I said that this is where our communication ends and I will never disturb her again. And I kept my word. We did not communicate for a long 11 months. I do not know what happened in her life during this time. With whom, what, how and when. I was just bored, but I kept my word.
And now, after 11 months, she announced herself. It's just that at one of the parties I took a picture with a girl who many thought was HER. Although they have only hair color in common (the photo was in profile). I uploaded a photo to Instagram, and in my and in her direction, questions were poured, whether she was in the photo and really we resumed communication.
In the end, she wrote to me, asking me to mark the girl in the photo, because she was embarrassed by these questions. With this, a conversation began, without straining, they laughed, I asked how she was doing and she offered to meet for a chat. Then I didn’t really count on anything, but I didn’t freeze either. I didn't hold a grudge, I'm not touchy at all. I’m rather just drawing conclusions. I draw conclusions and continue to idealize her.
We met. We talked. It started. Again, non-stop communication. Jokes, jokes. Second meeting, third. And now she herself brings me to the question of what I need from her. To which I replied “You. And you know it". She asked for time to think. And this time we became a couple. Everything was great. We spent a lot of time together. I tried to do everything in my power for her. I never have much money, although not from a poor family. My parents do not pamper me, and studying from morning to evening and training do not allow me to get a job. When it never comes out somewhere to "muddy" something. But I tried not to deny her anything. I would rather deny myself. I could save on food, I lost a lot of weight. But I never made it clear that I couldn't do something for her. I tried to surprise. The debts were increasing. There was no return. Even sometimes they did without an elementary “thank you”. Perhaps my mistake is that I never said that I really had no money and she thought that I was a major who spends well and spends. Although I donated a lot and wanted to receive something in return. It came to sex, but there was no initiative from her. It seems that we are meeting, everything seems to be fine, but she just did not want me, which caused a variety of thoughts to enter her head. If not with me, then with whom? Maybe there is someone, maybe something is wrong with me. It's the same with kisses. I climbed, she answered, but not though. Then there were reproaches that I climb too much, I am selfish. But I just wanted to know that she cares. I was waiting for an answer.
Before February 14, on this basis, (supposedly I don't listen to her, I don't care what she says, I do what I want) we almost parted, did not communicate for 2 days. On a holiday, I came to her with flowers and a gift without a call. Made up. That evening I did not climb to her, I tried to restrain myself. But already at the next meeting, I lost my head, climbed and was refused. After that there was one more, already the last meeting. I had to leave on business in another city, came to her in the morning instead of couples to see, again could not stand it and climbed. Having received a refusal, I decided to be persistent. My eyes burned like a bull being shown a red rag. Everything happened. But not entirely by mutual agreement. They didn’t give me, rather I took it. I took it and then left. On this day, everything was still fine with us. While I was in another city, our communication began to deteriorate, having arrived, she did not find time to meet, arguing that there were a lot of things to do and problems. And then she even wrote that she wanted to leave, because instead of conquering my soul and inner world, I was engaged in satisfying my physical needs. But this is far from the case. According to her, I went too far and she felt nothing but my lust. This is far from the case, I lived for her, I was ready to give her the whole world. Maybe I went too far, but I, like any other man, obviously wanted sex. I wanted it with her. As I already wrote, I am not deprived of female attention. To go and insert somewhere is not a problem. The problem is, I don't want that. I need her.
She said that she definitely didn’t care about me, but I’m not the one with whom she would like to have a relationship. In general, we held out for a little more than a month. During this time, there were many positive moments. Was it really the reason that I went too far like that? This is some kind of nonsense. I don't think that everyone in front of whom she spread her legs opened her inner world. And her last relationship was 2 years ago. I don’t believe that during this time she had no one with anyone, I will never believe. What's wrong with me? Why is this a problem? Is it really my fault? She made me feel guilty. Or the reason was different, but she found an excuse to leave
This is the 6th day, as we are not together. No calls, no messages. Feels like I'm being used, but I don't want our story to end. Every minute it seems to me that I am losing her more and more. Trying to follow the rules and just move on, hoping she’ll come to her senses. But the probability is very small. She has a very complex character. Very. Even if she is aware of something, she is not one of those who will take the first step. Rather 2 back. And what to realize if it meant nothing to her.
The day after tomorrow, March 8. I do not know how to be. Arrive with flowers, send by courier to remind you of yourself, or do nothing at all and just write “Happy Holidays”. I don’t want to be weak in her eyes, I don’t want to humiliate myself, but I want to return everything. It seems to me that she expects that I will not stand aside on this holiday and will make myself known. I taught it so. Perhaps doing nothing to play with contrast? How will it be for her to know that I am not there? Or do the wrong thing and try to talk. The point is that she still has some of my things at her house, which I will need to go and pick up. We did not live together, but there are things. How to be? Help with advice.
Relationships as a couple can be tricky. Indeed, in order for them to be aimed at success, the efforts of two people are needed, and not one. At the same time, you can find many advisers around who will express the opinion that it is early for a couple to enter into a marriage relationship, they should get to know each other even better, grow up and become wiser. All of this can destroy a fragile and unstable relationship.
Left alone, and perhaps rejoicing at his such freedom, a man soon realizes that he wants with all his might return your girlfriend... According to statistics, in more than 40% of cases, a young man tries to return a girl whose feelings have cooled. And this situation can become a very big problem. A girl by that time may have a new lover, and this circumstance can deeply hurt the feelings of a young rejected guy. A young person may develop not only an inferiority complex, but all his thoughts may begin to revolve around the fact that he is already doomed to be happy again. This is a very erroneous and wrong opinion.
There are few irreparable things in life, and this is not one of them. It is possible to return the girl after breaking up if she says that there are no more feelings. To do this, it is worth developing the correct strategy of action and not losing heart. Even if the girl is gnawing at resentment or trust has disappeared, everything is fixable. You can again awaken feelings in her and assure her of your loyalty, love and the need for this relationship. It is worth, step by step, at a slow pace, again to fall in love with her, to seduce and conquer. This will take a lot of time and effort. Therefore, a man should decide whether he needs it or whether it is easier to find a new lover.
Taking back your girlfriend is not as easy as losing. The desire for her to return is not enough. To begin with, a man must make sure that he really needs this girl, that he not only had a passion for her and fleeting feelings, or he is gnawed at by the resentment of an abandoned man, but he really feels love. To do this, you should wait a while (it is better if it will be at least 7 days), and after that you sort out your feelings again. If the craving for the girl has not passed, all thoughts are occupied only by her, and the soul is sad and lonely, then the answer is obvious, the man is in love. The second thing a man should do in order to return a girl after a breakup is to analyze their relationship and draw a conclusion from what his beloved left. And only after that you can start taking action. If a man forgot to pay due attention to his soul mate, then it will be easier to return his beloved girl than if she was insulted.
What should NOT be done if a man wants to return his girlfriend:
As a rule, most girls take the problem of relationships very seriously, and if they decide to leave, they leave without turning around. This decision was deliberate and well thought out for more than one day. Therefore, begging a girl to return immediately upon her departure is very stupid and inappropriate. It also happens that a girl already has another boyfriend, with whom she is cozy, comfortable and she will not want to lose the acquired stability in a relationship, returning to a shaky connection with her ex. Therefore, all arguments and entreaties will be useless, and for the girl they will be perceived only as unnecessary importunity on the part of the ex-boyfriend. If the man has already bothered the girl with his apologies and requests for return, then it's time to stop this and not make even more stupid mistakes that will not help the case, but only aggravate it.
First, a man must start with self-development. No matter how ridiculous and trite it may sound, but this is a fact confirmed by many psychologists. Starting to develop spiritually or physically, a man is a little distracted from the painful emotions that overwhelmed him, thereby improving himself. There can be many directions for self-improvement. From learning foreign languages, learning to play a musical instrument to martial arts. The last hobby will especially tire the man so that there will be no time to sit and feel sorry for himself, there will be no time for stress. This will improve not only the emotional state of the man, but also his physical fitness. Self-development will make a man stronger, more interesting and will only benefit him.
Firstly. In the age of technology, when almost every adult has his own page in one or another social network, it will not be superfluous to post photos of his self-improvement sometimes. After all, no matter how the girl treats her ex-boyfriend, she will visit his pages on the Internet from time to time and trace his life without her. What will be her surprise when she notices that the guy is not moping without her, but on the contrary gets a lot of pleasure from life. This will definitely hook the girl and possibly give rise to thoughts of returning in her head.
Secondly, a man needs to unobtrusively show others his confidence. No matter how sad it was in his soul, it is not worth turning it out. Each new day should be started with only positive and optimistic thoughts. Remember that silence is gold, so try to chat less about your worries, even to your most bosom friends.
Thirdly, it will not be superfluous to study your ex-girlfriend better. Each girl is unique and each has a certain stereotype, how she would like to see a man next to her. You need to find out as much as possible about her tastes, preferences and hobbies. As low as it may sound, it will not be superfluous to spy on her occasionally, and social networks will help with this. With their help, you can easily determine which pages she visits most often, and which ones she liked. All this information will help you incredibly in the future. But for now, you should just hide and not make yourself felt.
Fourth, to return the girl after parting will help the disappearance from her field of vision for at least a couple of months. As silly as it sounds at first glance, this rule works. At the same time, you should not directly contact and communicate with her friends and relatives. This will whet her curiosity about her ex. At the same time, you should not be afraid of losing the girl, because she has already left the relationship. Therefore, this method does not harm in any way. This time is given to a man for his self-improvement, for study, for sports, for making money. Perhaps a man should reconsider his clothing style.
Sometimes, it happens that the girl is abandoned by her current boyfriend and she immediately remembers about her ex. Then her return is not beneficial to the man, because it does not guarantee that the girl will stay with him forever. After some time, she can easily get carried away by someone else and quit again.
It so happens that after a while the girl begins to occasionally make herself felt by calls or SMS. This can be a twofold situation. On the one hand, a girl can sincerely regret her rash act, but she can simply check whether male feelings towards her have changed, she is still loved and desired, thereby cultivating her pride. In order to check the girl's motive, you should ignore her a little. This does not mean a complete refusal to answer her calls. The answer should be short and only on a neutral topic. The girl should feel that you are no longer interested in her as much as before.
Fifth, a man, wishing to return his beloved, must be able to show perseverance correctly and in time. The moment when it is time for action to return the ex-girlfriend, each guy chooses for himself. There are no definite criteria in this matter, the main thing is not to delay too much with this, otherwise the former beloved girl can acquire not just a new boyfriend, but already a husband and a child. Then the relevance of her return will disappear, because ruining someone else's marriage, leaving children in an inferior family is very low and will not bring happiness to anyone. But if she has a boyfriend, you can, but you need to act swiftly and assertively.
For this, it is worth choosing a neutral place of the first meeting. Perhaps it will be a holiday with mutual friends or a social event. The main thing for a man in this matter is for the girl to see him herself. You shouldn't go up to her and ask for something. Everything should take place in an unobtrusive manner and it is advisable not to show the girl his obvious interest in her. If the girl honors you with her greeting and further conversation, then you should not go far in it. You need to talk about more general, meaningless topics and say goodbye. The best tactic would be if the man after this meeting hides for a short time, at least 7 days. Thus, the man will give his beloved this time to think. Seeing her ex-boyfriend in good physical shape, in a cheerful mood, enjoying life, the girl will surely feel a prick of regret and realize her mistake.
Perhaps in the coming days the girl will call herself. In this case, wait no longer, it's time for action. At first, you just need to talk, you should start with generalized impersonal topics. If a man sees that there is no rejection from the girl, then one can inadvertently adjust the meetings, but the time has not yet come for the full approval of his feelings and confessions. Continue to communicate in this path until you feel that the girl is completely open towards you and does not mind leading the relationship further, and only in this case it is time for intimate meetings and confessions.
The further development of events depends on the feelings and motives of the man. It happens that a man tries to return his former beloved not at all because of his lofty feelings, but simply wants to amuse his ego and remove the feeling of inferiority after she leaves. This situation differs from the concepts of real male actions. Nevertheless, it also happens that a man achieves an ex-girlfriend, but having found her, leaves him, like she once did.
If a man tried to return his soul mate from the fact that he felt love for her, then from the experience he had passed he must draw his own conclusions, and not repeat the mistakes that he made at the beginning of the relationship, and because of which the girl left him.
Perhaps the time has come to offer your soul mate to live together, seal the union by marriage and have offspring. Children will seal love and give you even greater happiness.
Sometimes, by the dictates of fate, life pushes two people in different directions, but not in order to separate them for good, but so that they finally understand how they love and need each other.
Before you return the girl who left you and it breaks your heart, you need to make sure that you really had love. Because if you have an emotional dependence on this girl, then you need to urgently treat this dependence.
Love, in addition to boiling emotions and frenzied passion, is a kind of social contract, social exchange, which is based on common interests, on a common vision of the future, on a common contribution to relationships, resources and emotions.
You don't need to return anyone if you had unrequited blind youthful love, because the balance of significance is skewed, and no matter what you do, the girl will not want to get closer to you, because you need it 5 times more.
For example, there is a story about Garry Kasparov, who was offered to participate in a chess tournament. It was not a professional tournament, not for the highest category, but there was an incredibly cool prize pool: several million dollars. Garry could easily beat everyone and become significantly richer, but he refused this offer, since participation in the tournament of the weak lowers his place in the world rating of tough chess players.
With girls, everything happens according to a similar principle. If she meets a weak and uninteresting guy, then she loses points in the "marriage market". A master of sports cannot train with a youth level all the time, otherwise his skill will be in doubt. So the girl who is aiming for the big league needs to communicate with men from the big league.
Therefore, let's return to the question: is it worth returning love or is it time to get rid of illusions?
A relationship worth returning is a relationship based on love and mutual attraction. They have prerequisites. This is the same or very similar rhythm of life and sexual temperament, common interests or common perspectives, the same contribution to the relationship.
If you invest in these relationships more than she does, if you have a wild sexual temperament, and your girlfriend in bed needs to be poked in the side with a needle so that she makes sounds, most likely the game is not worth the candle. Probably, after the breakup, you developed “pinched testicle syndrome” and you want to return not your former love, but an invested resource. It’s stupid and it won’t work, you only get caught in an even bigger trap. Therefore, just do not lie to yourself, look back and if so, then just let go, forget and move on.
If you really had love and idyll, and now you are ready to go into battle, then get ready for the fact that the path to return will not be easy and quick.
You need to understand that a girl once chose you because you were cool for her, and figure out what key qualities attracted her to you. Maybe you were an inveterate bully while everyone else went around with violins, and that's why she liked you. And then he relaxed in a relationship, turned into an ordinary guy and began to take an interest in violins, after which she decided that you were the same as everyone else and chose a more worthy violinist.
Choose and analyze your strengths that she liked. Understand what has changed from the moment you seduced her to the moment you broke up. Perhaps, intuitively, it seemed to you that you did everything right: you became more "decent", stopped dynamizing it, began to spend more time and money on it. Perhaps it was these changes that led to the fact that love passed. Because she fell in love with one man, and left completely from another. It is this moment of your own transformation that you urgently need to clarify.
You need to move away from her as much as possible so that you do not even have the thought that you are sitting and waiting for, when, finally, she will pay attention to you again.
How to move away?
There are contacts from you to her and from her to you, and they are explicit and implicit.
An obvious contact from you to her - you write: "Masha, come back, I love you and I suffer without you."
An implicit contact from you to her - you post on your wall a song to which you hammered into your gums for the first time.
She, most likely, will also contact you explicitly and implicitly - upload songs and ask you for help: "Honey, I left your wheels in the garage." He will come to pick them up with a sour expression, he will suffer, sigh and groan. At the same time, the tank of the gas tank will blink, and you, of course, will feel like a bastard that you have not refueled it ...
So, in order to move away from her as much as possible, so that she cannot reach you either by text messages or calls. You need to carefully filter these contacts, and from the moment of separation until the moment of returning, practice different techniques of emotional control. It can be yoga, sports, or any other spiritual practice. Try the New NLP Code techniques that will allow you to control your emotions and feel much better in stressful situations. Then you can give implicit signals about how good you are without her, and not how you usually do it - how unbearable you are.
Remember, the only way to get a relationship back is to play by your own rules until the girl accepts it and asks for the relationship again. The mission "How to get the girl back" will end there. And in order for her to ask back, she needs to be frankly crappy without you, or at least not very good.
A good example was in the Coen brothers TV series Fargo. A maniac who came to the hospital to kill a criminal told him a story: “I was in Alaska and saw a wolf fall into a trap. And this wolf fought for a long time and bit off his paws, after which, bleeding, he walked 40 meters away and died. But he died on his own terms. "
The same should be the case with the girl's return: either you return on your own terms, or it doesn't make sense.
The girl needs to be emotionally rocked so that she goes from implicit contacts to explicit ones. And here's how it's done.
As soon as you see that the general background of the signals changes from implicit (as she feels good, then not very much) to explicit (she begins to appear in the general circle of acquaintances, make requests), then you can start the attack.
Here there are 2 ways, which we will conditionally call "on the forehead" and "on the forehead".
"On the forehead" - means to create a situation in which the two of you will be isolated in a place where no one will come for the next 40 minutes. 40 minutes is enough to shake her emotionally. To make a scandal with the promise that she was so bad, she behaved this way and did herself badly, and against this emotional background it is very good to end the conversation with passionate instinctive sex.
It is important to create this situation at the moment when it itself is taut, like a string and is waiting for this conversation. because starting a conversation when she is not yet ready means turning everything into clownery and being left without sweets.
Another strategy is "On the forehead". Used when a girl has some other valuable guys on the horizon. Here, of course, you need to conduct reconnaissance and find out what kind of guys they are. Why are they good, and try to knock out the resources that she gets from these guys.
She moved in with some guy closer to the city center? Convenient, okay? Well, yes. And why should she now go to you in Biryulyovo-Tovarnoye? And then, that with housing he is in order, but he, for example, turned out to be an alcoholic or a junkie.
Another example. You can introduce your opponent to some girl so that he starts flirting with her. And let your ex see it. That is, you need to remove the values that she has in the current relationship.
How to do it? Here you need a subtle and accurate individual strategy, because you can fatally miss. Alternatively, you can use the experience and wisdom of the Male School coaches.
A good way is to plant jealousy in their relationship. For example, her boyfriend began to return home a little later. And if at the same time one of her girlfriends throws off her photos and correspondence with him, in which he discusses another girl, then we can assume that the trick is in the bag. At this point, you can call her and offer to drink tea or play squash.
At the same time, it's good if you stay late and she is late back home, and her boyfriend will make a scandal. Please, the bone of contention is ready. They start to scandal and all this is motivated by jealousy, that he is jealous of her for you, and she is jealous of him who is not clear to whom. And you are all so correct, you stand next to the mountain and shine.
Your task next time is to pull her to a more isolated place and go to the standard seduction that we teach in the basic training - isolation, trust, arousal, sex. At the same time, you need to understand that the first sex after the breakup does not mean that she returned to you forever. If trust was enough for sex, then it is not a fact that it will be enough for further relationships. Accordingly, you need to be nice after sex, but not be ingratiating.
And in the first and in the second case, after sex, develop the relationship gradually. Don't show your girlfriend that you are incredibly interested. Because the girl, in fact, entered the same river twice, and then she looks at how quickly you will turn into a vanilla boy again, from whom she has already left. You have to continue to be the guy she first got close to and had sex with. You must be courageous, funny, crazy, gentle, romantic, but exactly the one who seduced her for the first time, so as not to think again about how to get the girl back.
Remain yourself, do not relax the biscuits and will be together as long as you both enjoy it.
We are used to thinking that when parting, only women are subject to nervous stress, and only they are ready to take a desperate step in order to return their former love. This stereotype has developed in society due to the special female sensitivity and vulnerability. In fact, when a relationship breaks up, men suffer no less, and they are also capable of much to get the girl back in love.
There is no exact answer to the question of how to get the girl back. Because the breakup occurs for completely different reasons, everyone has different life situations. Perhaps this is a case when it will never be possible to return the girl, because there is no love on her part. But there are times when people who love each other leave because of misunderstanding, resentment and other mistakes. Time passes, and with it the understanding of how strong the feelings are. In such a situation, the relationship certainly deserves a second chance. Therefore, the line of behavior that a man should choose will directly depend on the situation of parting.
Girls dump their boyfriends much less often than girls' boys. And, since a girl is by nature more amorous and more serious in a relationship, the reason for the breakup is also serious. Therefore, first you need to understand the reasons for the breakup. If the girl left, then something did not suit her in the relationship. Sometimes they leave, clearly expressing their claims, and sometimes they do it silently. Of course, knowing the reason makes it easier to try to fix mistakes and improve relationships. Most often, girls break off relationships due to:
In such cases, it is much easier to make a plan for how to get the girl back. After analyzing your behavior, you need to ask yourself the question: "Can I change in order to return the relationship?" If a man is ready for radical changes, then there is a chance to return his girlfriend. It is worth remembering that the girl makes the decision to part when her feelings, if not completely passed, have cooled down. Therefore, the main task of the guy is to make the girl interested in him again. To do this, he needs to acquire a number of attractive features that are so important for girls:
A girl should feel small and protected next to a guy. She doesn't have to make decisions or take responsibility. For this there is a man - a girl must be sure of this.
But there is another reason why a girl leaves a guy, and this reason is much more serious: a girl leaves for another man.
In this case, the chances of renewal of the ratio are small, but they are. Of course, if a girl left you for the sake of another man, you need to understand that, most likely, there are feelings there. And in this case, you need to realize the hopelessness of your efforts. But perhaps the feelings are not strong enough. Or it is possible that she did it to spite you. Nevertheless, in an attempt to get the girl back, you need to think carefully: do you need this? Can you forgive your girlfriend? Do you need a girl because you love her or to satisfy your own vanity? Having answered these questions and having finally confirmed your decision, you can proceed to action.
It should be remembered that there should be absolutely no manifestation of aggression towards the girl. And, if it is still possible to return it, there should be no reproaches. Also, you do not need to arrange a showdown with the man to whom your girlfriend left. And even more so to resort to assault. Such actions will cause pity in the girl and turn her against you.
In a girl, you need to try to awaken feelings with pleasant actions, courtship, pleasant trifles and surprises. After all, once she chose you, for something she fell in love with you. And now she must understand that she will feel good and comfortable only with you. At the same time, actions should be unobtrusive and gradual, bringing only positive emotions. You don't need to scream about your love at every step. Trying to get your girlfriend back, you need to try to become her friend. She will be pleased with the interest in her life, in what is happening at her work, in the family, how her relatives feel. Friendly advice and help in difficult moments will help you get closer to your beloved girl again. If the opportunity presents itself, you need to help her in solving any questions or problems. Girls love when their problems are solved by a stronger person - a man.
Intimate life can also play a role in solving the problem of how to get the girl back. If sex was great in the past, why not use it now. You just need to understand a few rules:
Trying to get the girl back and restore the relationship, you can ask for advice from more experienced men in these matters. It can be an older brother, father, uncle, work colleague. You can ask for advice from a friend of a girl or woman, what would make them return to their ex-man? But they probably won't say anything new, since the relationship between a man and a woman is rules and conditions developed for centuries that rarely move from borders. And if you ask women what they value and want to see in their chosen one, then the answers will, in principle, be the same:
Any psychologist will advise the same algorithm of actions that should be followed in an attempt to regain lost relationships and feelings:
After making the final decision that you need to get your girlfriend and relationship back, you need to develop a specific, clear plan of action to follow. Surely, it will be difficult to do, but patience is an important quality at this moment.
If all the planned actions lead to the renewal of the relationship and this relationship becomes even brighter and stronger than before, then this means that your efforts were not in vain. If it did not work to return the girl, there is no need to make a second attempt, which means that there are no feelings on her part, and the one-sided relationship has not brought anyone happiness yet. Open up to new love, and it will definitely find you!
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Everyone has the right to make a mistake, but very often the understanding that we were mistaken comes at a time when it is too late to correct anything. Often this happens in a relationship, when we begin to appreciate a partner only after he leaves. Men often have the question of how to return their beloved girl when she is no longer there, and an abyss lies between two loving hearts. Let's see how to do this in different ways.
To regain a relationship, you must first of all change yourself, but not force your beloved girl to return. Psychologists are experts in the movements of human souls, therefore, in order to quickly achieve the cherished goal, you should heed their advice. First of all, experts recommend:
Consider strongly whether you need a relationship with your ex. After all, the gap happened for some reason, and some actions are not forgiven and are not forgotten. If the breakup was solid, then your shared future will be precarious.
It is necessary to carefully analyze the situation, to identify at what stage of communication with your beloved girl mistakes were made, and the most important thing is to forgive the chosen one if she was to blame for something. Introspection will help you avoid similar mistakes in the future.
After making a positive decision, you need to immediately begin to act without wasting time. Agree to meet with your ex, talk to her without blaming anyone for the breakup. When you meet, say that you are ready to learn from mistakes, perhaps she will reconsider her attitude towards you. Admitting your mistakes will allow your girlfriend to understand that you value the relationship with her and are ready to take responsibility for them into your own hands.
If the girl is not ready to meet, then keep your distance, wait until she herself wants to contact or return to you.
