If a woman makes decisions on her own or follows her own path, not listening to a man, then he will not be able to protect her ...
The man wants the woman to follow him.
Followed him in every sense. In beliefs, in decisions, in the principles of life. This is at the genetic level. Many of the men themselves do not realize this, but if a woman pulls ahead, they feel irritated.
The mechanism is simple. If a woman makes decisions herself or follows her own path without listening to a man, then he will not be able to protect her, which means he will not be able to fulfill his main purpose.
WHAT A MAN WANTS FROM A WOMAN
(c) Jorge Bucay
I would like to explore a rare topic - what do men really expect from women? Many wives believe that husbands need a s e c plus to keep the house clean and prepared. This seems to be true, but it is not the most important thing that keeps a man close to a woman.
Sometimes attractive women, good hostesses are very surprised that the husband is subconsciously looking for another woman (and most likely will find it sooner or later). Why is he looking? What else is he missing?
It turns out - everything is both simple and deep at the same time. A man's deep subconscious desire is for a woman to follow him into his culture, into his religion, into his rules of life. This means that a man expects a woman to accept his ideas, internal approval of his activities, his views on life. He wants a woman to adhere to these views. In other words, for a woman to join his life without changing his direction of life... Otherwise, he risks losing everything that he achieved in life (if a woman begins to remake it for herself).
From the very beginning, a man wants a woman to remain as she is. And a woman wants a man to constantly change for the better. The secret is that a man begins to WANT to change only when a woman accepts HIM for who he is.
And one more important point for men. It is very nice when a woman knows how to relax and enjoy the simple little things of life (eat a delicious cherry, play hide and seek with the child, knit a beautiful scarf, see an unusual cloud).
“The main job of a woman is to have pleasure,” the Chinese said, because only in a state of pleasure is a woman able to create.
The Root Cause of Women's Health Problems is hidden today, no matter how strange it may sound, in modern education of women.
To put it figuratively, the female psyche is woven out of love: a woman is born to love, care, care, communicate with people, create an environment of warmth and happiness around herself - in a word, for family life.
But, unfortunately, the education that women receive in our time has nothing to do with the family. It makes it possible to be strong and active in a social environment and is aimed at work, promotion in society, administrative position, or simply the opportunity to get some kind of specialty. But this is education "according to the male type", it has nothing to do with the development of the female psychic nature. As a result, a woman's psyche becomes dry and tense, and hormonal functions are upset due to the fact that she is simply making the wrong effort in life.
For the same reason, her ability to experience happiness is also reduced, because the happiness of a woman is mainly in the sphere of family life... Not feeling satisfied with life in general, women often suffer from chronic depression.
And one more important point: family needs 70% of female energy... It is a woman who should be able to build relationships with her husband and children. And if she does not make the necessary efforts, the family falls apart, because a man by his nature cannot regulate family relations. He only follows the guidelines set by his wife.
Of course, there are women who are passionately building their careers and who believe that family life should not be an obstacle to professional development. But this life suits them for one reason: they are so used to... The fact is that feminine nature is very stable. It is difficult for a woman to change, and she lives as she was taught. That is why, by the way, a woman's life and happiness depend primarily on upbringing... She tends to obey, loves to get an education and then follow it clearly. So, a woman can talk as much as she wants about the fact that a life focused on a career is what she needs, but my experience shows: words in this case always disagree with the actual state of affairs.
If a woman spends most of her time at work, her life is like empty candy - the outside is sweet, but there is no filling inside. And deepwho is not happy from such a life.
Sweet life
The second problem is that the understanding of a healthy lifestyle in modern society is based on the health of men. In general, it must be said that all the problems considered in this article are problems of society, and not of women as such.
So, let's take for example the attitude towards sweet food. It is the basis of a woman's hormonal system, and the exclusion of sweets from the diet leads to hormonal disruptions, bad mood and depression. Therefore, women want something sweet. But in society, it is generally accepted that sweets are harmful, and, allowing themselves from time to time a piece of cake, women experience remorse.
True, there is one caveat here: in order for sweet food to benefit the female body, it must be eaten in the morning... By the way, the stereotypical idea of "healthy" eating affects children as well. For normal growth and development, a child needs oily food plus sweet, flour and dry foods - that is, everything that children love so much and in which they are usually limited.
Moreover, women need to eat more dairy products... Dairy food is closely related to the energy of the moon, which supports a woman's healthy hormones.
Vegetables are very useful: they have a feminine energy.
In modern society, women eat a lot of meat and grains: bread, sausage sandwiches and so on. Meanwhile, meat is generally disgusting to female nature, because it produces the energy of violence and aggression, which is necessary in order to achieve something in society, but clearly not in the family.
I did such research: I visited the dairy and meat factories and compared. Both there and there women work, but the difference in their behavior and state of health is colossal. Among women working at a dairy, only 1–2% suffer from fibroids and cancer in general. But at the meat-packing plant, 60-70% of women have tumors, benign or malignant. Now, even doctors say that meat food is the main carcinogen.
If a woman leads the lifestyle intended for her by nature, tries to cultivate love and care in herself, she will want vegetables, dairy foods and sweets. However, meat, grains and hot spices are not at all what helps a woman to be healthy.
Another example: in modern society it is customary to go to bed very late, but it is in the first half of the night - until about 00.30, when the moon rises - that female hormones are produced (male hormones are produced in the second half of the night). So it is better to go to bed at 22.00, and according to Ayurveda in general at 21.00... If sleep shifts from midnight to 10 am, the woman's hormonal system sooner or later fails.
By clothes
Oddly enough, even her manner of dressing affects a woman's health. The vast majority of young women today wear jeans. If we talk about human energy, where it is squeezed in clothes, energy accumulates, and where it is free, it leaves.
The man energy is directed upward and outward through the upper body. With this type of energy movement, a person becomes very active, active, strong-willed, and so on. So trousers and a loose top - a natural form of clothing for a man.
For woman, on the contrary, it is important that the energy goes down, since the downward flow of energy is associated with fertility and female hormones are produced in the lower body. In this way, a woman should cover her upper body with clothes, and at the bottom it should be loose... It is no coincidence that women have covered their legs since ancient times, but did not tighten them.
It must be remembered that female beauty depends on the level of female hormones: if it decreases, both beauty and health go away. And if the health of a man in general is associated with the activity of the nervous system, then the health of a woman is in hormonal function. That is why a woman must first of all take care of her hormonal system.
In the natural environment
Hormonal functions are associated with emotions, and the work of the nervous system is based on a person's activity, on his ability to achieve results. Therefore, a man is healthy when he is active and achieves his goal, and a woman must be emotionally satisfied. She is healthy when she lives in comfort and coziness and is internally calm.
Excessive stay in society wastes a woman's strength, her emotions become "wooden". As a result, she loses her feminine strength, is unable to devote much time to her family. And if a man, exhausted, becomes physically weak, then the woman becomes depressed. In other words, she is experiencing emotional weakness. Unfortunately, most women suffer from this in modern society.
After all, instead of being more concerned with family and being in an atmosphere that gives strength, women are mainly in places where they experience weakness.
Imagine a dolphin: he can go without water for some time, for example, jump out of it during the game, but his natural environment is water, there he gains strength. Similar the natural environment for a woman is the family, and for a man - society... If a man spends too much time in the family, he becomes sick and unhappy. And in the same way, a woman who devotes too much time to social activity becomes sick and unhappy.
Already unbearable to marry
If a woman wants to start a family, and her personal life does not work out, then she lacks female strength. Imagine a beautiful, fragrant rose growing in the middle of the road. Someone will surely rip it off, even if it is forbidden. The modern woman thinks attractiveness lies in the secrets of makeup and dressing. However, you can only decorate that which shines.
To get married, you need to cultivate feminine strength in yourself: to be caring and sensitive, kind and gentle. These are all feminine qualities. The problem is that they do not develop at work, because they are not needed there. At work, diligence and firmness in behavior, rigor and punctuality are valued - in a word, masculine qualities. So that work for a woman should be a hobby, and the main violin in life should be playing at home.
What a person puts energy into develops. And the result depends only on our efforts. Therefore, we must learn to live like a woman, think, dress and treat people like a woman. Then the female power will grow, and personal life will begin to improve - after all, a real man needs only female power. He is not interested in either a woman's ability to earn money or her well-being.
How can these qualities be developed? Very simple. Give love and care to the people around you. Is there an old lonely roommate? Feed her, visit her, talk to her. If she can hardly move, help to wash, wash her clothes. Everybody needs feminine energy. Someone is starving - feed, someone needs affection - caress.
Moreover, you need to develop a feminine sense of dignity... A woman should respect herself for being a woman. Often the reason for the inability to arrange a personal life and start a family lies precisely in an insufficiently developed sense of dignity. What does it mean? Women sometimes enter into intimacy with a man, as soon as they feel the slightest attraction. Sometimes this happens literally in a matter of hours after meeting. And if a man quickly achieves what he wants, he loses interest just as quickly.
Almost all women strive to find a man who would like to have a family. And there are no such men, it is not their nature. A man needs to be brought to this by moving away from him, keeping him at a distance. He must fall in love, crawl on his knees and shove flowers under the door. That's when he will seek her love, he will develop a sense of responsibility, he will want to marry and will appreciate such a woman all his life.
But now women don't know how to get married. We do not have this science, because all modern culture is based on masculine nature, unfortunately. Creating a family, loyalty, maintaining relationships - all this psychology studies little, and women are left without guidance for action.
Women’s labor is not valued today either. Around restaurants. Why? People have no time to cook. Both women and men work and eat outside the home. But in restaurant food there is no energy of love - it is primarily a business, so the food there is tasteless. Nevertheless, people get used to it, they like it. Actually the most delicious when the wife cooks... For example, I only need to eat once a day, because the energy of love that my wife puts into any dish completely saturates me. It must be clearly understood that if the family is not stingy, it will live on the money that God gave. When a wife takes care of her husband, he has the strength to grow further, and his career develops.
Pleasant chores
A woman who is selflessly building a career and disappearing for days at work, who has practically no time for home and family, is one extreme. At the other end of the spectrum, at first glance, the picture is ideal: a husband who is able to fully provide for his family, and a wife who can afford an absolutely carefree existence: with a housekeeper and a nanny. However, if a woman spends most of her time and energy on herself, her beloved, and does nothing around the house, she will bring only suffering to her husband.
Realization of feminine nature is not about enjoying yourself: a woman should give, give love and care... Otherwise, she will be pretentious, capricious, unhappy and sooner or later will begin to cheat on her husband, just out of boredom.
If a woman cooks, washes and cleans, she creates the energy of love and care in the house and harmony reigns in the family. Of course, if the family is large, you can take an assistant. But, firstly, now there are practically no large families, and secondly, the variety of household and kitchen appliances available today makes housework as easy as possible, there would be a desire to invest love in loved ones. Load the laundry into the washing machine - think with love, dinner into the double boiler - and think again with love. It turns out interestingly: everything seems to be preparing itself, but saturated with feminine energy and love. Everything tastes good and brings happiness.
Closer to the ground
So, the correct way of life is not limited to adherence to a regime and a healthy diet. The inability of a woman to realize her nature, unfortunately, leads to illness in the same way as non-compliance with a more or less healthy diet.
So, in the area thyroid gland there is a throat psychic center associated with emotions. A woman is by nature six times more emotional than a man. If she does not bring emotions out, for example, because she spends most of her time in an environment where emotions are not needed - at work, she will suffer from thyroid diseases.
Genitals associated with the energy of warmth, love and care. If a woman “lives at work” and there are no people in her life requiring care — neither children nor grandparents — she has no one to give this energy to. Consequently, sexual energy accumulates, and destructive processes begin. In addition, a woman becomes harsh, rude, touchy, angry, because there is no harmony with nature, there is no happiness.
A woman feels good when she is in her home. She needs to walk barefoot on the ground, dig in the garden, look at the sun, listen to birdsong - in a word, live in harmony with nature. Then she becomes happy, healthy, calm and benevolent. From the earth, a woman feeds on hormonal strength. But in the modern world, everything that is associated with female energy is minimized. People live in "brick boxes" where electrical energy is all around.
Due to the fact that the family is not cultivated in society, children are not needed either. Postponing the very idea of motherhood for many years or even abandoning it, women use contraceptives or, even worse, go to terminate their pregnancy. As a result, the feminine nature is unclaimed. And this leads to hormonal diseases, fibroids, tumors, mastopathy, endometriosis. After having sex, a woman accumulates fertile energy. And if she does not find a way out, then it becomes the cause of various neoplasms.
feel the difference
This is far from all that could be told to women. But the main thing is to understand the essence of female nature. But in modern society, this understanding is not, and a woman, accordingly, is gradually turning into a man. Today it is called emancipation.
In American society, where emancipation is most pronounced, even outwardly it is very difficult to distinguish a woman from a man. They become more or less the same. And this is scary, because children need a woman's affection and love. Otherwise, they grow dry, rough and cruel.
We must make a choice and decide in which direction we want to develop. If women prefer family life, assigning a secondary role to work, and men, on the contrary, will work and achieve their goals, society will become full-fledged and harmonious, which means that there will be more health in it. published by
Here are 20 wise marriage tips from a man who's just got divorced. At first glance, it seems that a divorced man is unlikely to be able to give good advice about family life, but this person has gone through many difficulties and knows what is worth fighting for.
The most common qualities that most normal and sane women would like to see in a man if they are ready to build a relationship with him
7. Never blame your wife. You are upset or angry about her just because her actions caused some kind of reaction in your soul. Only if you have such feelings, give yourself time to come to your senses, look into your soul and understand what exactly requires treatment. This woman attracted you because it was she who most of all touched the wounds left over from childhood, and thereby made it possible to heal them. After you deal with your childhood grievances and complexes, you will stop hurting and wonder how this was possible at all.
8. just let your woman be. When she is sad or upset, don't try to revive her. Your job is to hug her and let her know that everything will be fine. Let her know that you can hear her, that she is important to you, and that she can always lean on you. The female soul is changeable and emotional, the feelings of your companion will roll in and out like the sun in April, and if you stay strong and don't judge her, she will trust you and open her soul to you. When she is sad, don't run away. Be there, be strong and let her know that you are not going anywhere. Listen to the meaning of what she says, regardless of words and emotions.
9. fool around. Don't take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh and make her laugh. Laughing makes the rest easier.
10. Fill her soul every day. Learn the languages of her love, find out what gives her a sense of her own worth and value. Ask her to create a list of ten things that make her feel loved. Remember them and every day try to make her feel like a queen.
11. Be here now. It's important not just to give her time: treat her with undivided attention. Unload your brain in any way you can and give your wife your full attention when you are together. Treat her like your most important client at work. She is the most important client.
12. Desire her closeness. Admire her with your masculinity, take her with full strength and passion, penetrate into the deepest layers of her soul. Let her be soft and feminine and let her know that she can trust you completely.
13. Don't be an idiot ... and don't be afraid to sound like an idiot. Both of you are bound to make mistakes. Try not to inflate the elephants with flies and learn from mistakes. Nobody expects perfect behavior from you. Just try not to be too stupid.
14. Leave her free space. Women are great at giving themselves to others, but sometimes they need to recover. Sometimes she will need to fly away from the family nest and find food for her soul, and if you allow her to do this, the wife will return, inspired and joyful. Yes, I got a little carried away with poetic formulations, but you get me. Remind her to take time for herself, especially after the birth of the children. She needs free time and space to renew herself, return to herself and not lose herself in serving children, her husband and the whole world.
15. Be vulnerable. You don't have to always be cool. Be prepared to share your fears and feelings, and if you are wrong somewhere, do not hesitate to admit it right away.
16. Be completely open. In the event that you want trust, you must be willing to share everything. Especially what you don't want to share. To love a woman completely, to completely open your heart and let her in there, not knowing whether she will like what she sees, it takes courage. And in order to allow her to fully love you - not only the light, but also the dark side. Remove the mask. Only if, according to your feelings, you need to constantly wear a mask next to your companion and constantly seem perfect, you will never feel love in its entirety.
17. Don't stop growing together. Malaria arises in a pond with stagnant water, and the flowing river is always fresh and cool. Thus, if a muscle is not developed, it will atrophy naturally; the same happens with relationships if you stop working on them. Look for shared goals, dreams and long-term plans and move towards them.
18. Don't worry about money. Money is a game. To win this game, you need to become one team. Team fights are never good. Learn to empower each other to win.
19. Say goodbye right away and focus on the future instead of carrying the burden of the past. Don't let your story hold you hostage. The habit of holding on to past mistakes, whoever makes them, you or she, is a heavy anchor for your marriage. It pulls you back. Forgiveness is freedom. Cut the anchor and always choose love.
20. Always choose love. Always choose love. Always choose love. Ultimately, this is the only advice you really need. Thus, if you are guided by this choice in every decision, then nothing threatens the happiness of your marriage. Love can take it all.
Ultimately, marriage is not at all the line "and they Lived Long and Happily." This is a job. And the commitment to grow together and the will to continually build something that will last forever. It is the work on this that will bring happiness.
Marriage is life, and with it comes ups and downs. One must learn to accept each cycle with joy and learn to draw lessons from each experience. This is what will give strength and allow you to always see prospects and continue to build a marriage brick by brick.
I only realized this from my mistakes. Too late.
But I am trying to learn this lesson and am determined to pass it on. I really enjoyed being married. In time, I will marry again, and when that happens, the foundation of a new marriage will withstand any storm and any time.
Attention! Only if you found the fruits of my bitter experience useful, share them with young spouses, whose hearts are full of hope, and with couples who have forgotten how to love. Perhaps one of the husbands will be like the old me. Maybe these lessons, which I got at a dear price, will awaken some feelings in him, and he will learn to be what his beloved was waiting for.
The woman who told him "yes!", Who entrusted him with her life and expected a responsible attitude from him.
So, if you are unhappy with something about your own marriage, take 100% responsibility for your actions in the marriage, no matter what happens to your wife, and apply these lessons before it's too late. Men, be the best lover. There is no more difficult task - and there is no greater reward. Your woman deserves it.
What do men want? We cannot understand their logic. They say that they value kindness and complaisance in women, and they themselves catch the obstinate bitch. They are looking for an unselfish woman, but fall in love with such a “party girl”, whose love is measured by a man's ability to fill her life with Gucci, Maserati, Tiffany. They dream of tying their fate with a woman who can understand and forgive, and they marry a narcissistic egoist. So where is the truth, and what are men looking for in women?
“Look, watch, listen to men, but don't believe what seems obvious in their behavior. Read between the lines! " - psychologists advise. A man wants to see a compliant woman next to him, but not weak-willed; disinterested, but knowing its value; understanding, but having her own opinion. In the male "rider" there is a list of basic needs, the fulfillment of which will allow you to find the very middle ground and give the man exactly what he expects from the relationship:
For men, she always comes first. One cannot argue with this and appeal to the voice of reason, and not instincts. This can only be accepted and resigned. The man is looking for pleasure. And a woman for a man is always a source of pleasure: aesthetic, sensual, bodily. This is their nature, just as women have a genetic need for a man - a breadwinner and protector who can provide a well-fed and safe life for her and their children. Giving a man a beautiful night is a woman's pleasant duty. And a contented man is a submissive man. A true woman will make intimate relationships an anchor, a drug, an addiction, and a man will return to her again and again for another "dose." But why go back if you can not leave?
The ability to give a man quality sex should always come with fidelity. Otherwise, even the most high-class romantic man will be devalued and reduced to the primitive satisfaction of the "basic instinct." The explanation for this should also be sought in male nature. When a man receives sexual pleasure from a woman, he believes that now she belongs only to him, and wants to be sure that no one else will get this pleasure from her anymore. Therefore, men are often very jealous and aggressive about their woman's flirting with other "males." Attention to them, smiles, deep cleavage and even expensive underwear, they can subconsciously regard as elements of a love game. Men rarely understand all these subtleties of female sexuality, and even a harmless smile at a compliment from a stranger can be a reason to doubt the loyalty of their woman.
Many relationships don't work out or fall apart due to a lack of respect for a man. Women may underestimate respect in relationships, mistakenly believing that it is already implied: "I live with him, so I respect." Recognition of male merits to family, children, work, society is an unspoken female responsibility. You will not respect and appreciate what a man does, he may go to seek respect in another place, and not only from another woman. For example, he may devote himself more to work or stay with friends who respect and recognize his success, whatever it is - business, hobby, leisure, etc. Therefore, everything in him must be respected: time, resources, talents, abilities. And the main thing is not to be silent about it. Speak sincerely, but let it be not only words, but also actions. For example, if you learn to rationally treat the money he earns, he will understand without words that you respect his work, time and health. Respect breeds respect. It's so simple that many don't even see it as a solution to relationship problems. And in vain!
Many women find it difficult to understand, but gratitude is just as important as bed. She will not be in a relationship with a man, he will go to look for her on the side. Unfortunately, the ability to thank and admire is usually inherent in fresh relationships. Years spent together make any work a duty. A man builds a house, plants a tree and raises a son, but this should not be taken for granted as a duty. This approach is fundamentally wrong! Men, like children, should be praised for the porridge they ate (especially if it didn't work out today), thanked for their obedience (took out the trash, bought a chandelier, took their mother-in-law to the dacha) and admire their successes (painted the fence, defended their dissertation, earned a million). There is no greater motivation for a man than sincere gratitude and admiration. This is real magic. Check it out!
The main thing here is to figure out what is a concern for your man. Each of them has their own individual concepts of the manifestation of female care and attention. It is enough for someone that the beloved woman makes coffee every morning and does not forget to throw a pinch of salt there, as a man loves; someone will not be able to live without the daily replacement of shawls to match the color of the shirt in the breast pocket of a work suit; and for some of the men, perhaps the highest degree of care will be the provision of a family by a woman while he is on maternity leave with a child. One way or another, but strict adherence to these daily rituals, traditions or ordinary routines turns a relationship into love.
Even the most courageous, successful, strong and brutal man needs support. When he creates a relationship with a woman, he hopes that she, in the literal sense of these words worn out by filmmakers, will be with him "in sorrow and in joy, in wealth and in poverty, in illness and in health." He will connect his life with that woman who, even if the whole world takes up arms against him, will stand behind him and give him cartridges. You will be able to be useful to a man, instill in him confidence in himself, provide support when he needs it like in the air, and he will do everything and even more for the sake of you and your relationship.
Family for most men is the engine of their achievements. A man, unlike a woman, is more realized in the outside world - he builds a career, achieves financial independence and recognition by society. At a certain stage in his life, when he is laying the "foundation", he does not need a family. It is distracting. But how much does he need for himself personally? No. New achievements begin to lose their meaning, and external realization no longer gives him the previous fullness of the feeling of life. Statistics are not lying when they claim that married men live longer. They have someone to live for. In children, a wife, living together, they find a deep meaning and realization of their ancient instincts. Carry a man with family values, show the benefits of family life, make him dependent on your love, and he will stay with you forever.
Probably, this article will interest men more, but actually I am writing it for women, because (as it turned out) not all girls have an idea of what a “right” man should be, which is why they often make mistakes in their choice. It is clear that when “chemistry began”, it’s too late to decide something, but there are periods “before chemistry” and “after chemistry” and this is the best time to think ...
We are all different and there are no two identical women in the world. Nevertheless, among the million shades of moods, temperaments, whims and quirks that distinguish us from each other, there is a certain common line that connects almost all women. After all, all women crave more or less the same qualities from men, and I will list the 10 most important ones.
Trust and understanding in relationships is of great importance to women. If a man lies, then he risks losing trust, and the loss of trust is the loss of everything else, as well as a direct path to the destruction of relationships. Women very often check men for "honesty" and do it subconsciously, even in small things. For example, a girl may ask: “How do I look in this dress?”, But not because she does not know the answer. She wants to hear the guy's opinion and a clear, clear reasoned explanation of why she looks good or why she looks bad. Often men answer such questions with one word - "good", even if in fact it is not true, justifying themselves by saying that "they do not want to offend." But, nevertheless, it is better to tell the truth in such cases. As long as there is love, care in the words of a man, and there are no attempts to hurt feelings or prick, a woman will cope with the truth and will even be grateful for it.
You should not think that the ability to tell jokes and the ability to laugh loudly is a sense of humor. Our feminine changeable hormonal background often makes us upset because of mere trifles or even for no apparent reason. If a man knows how to cheer, make laugh and at the same time not offend at such moments, it is this sense of humor that is most appreciated by a woman. A good-natured guy with natural humor will surely win a woman's heart. Significant warning - women do not like stupid teenage jokes at the middle school level.
As a rule, women can stand up for themselves, but deep down, they all want to feel protected. Nothing pleases a woman more than a man behind whom "like a stone wall." If the guy: accompanies the girl home late at night and brings her to the door of the house (and not just put her in a taxi and paid the fare); protects from the shocks of the crowd in transport or at a concert; helps in difficult life, and just in everyday situations, the girl feels protected. And the stronger the feeling of security, the more the girl respects and appreciates the guy.
Women like men who are smart, have intelligent conversations and are good at expressing their thoughts. Interestingly, this preference does not depend on the intelligence level of the woman herself. And to the stop, a well-read clever girl and a classic blonde with a vocabulary of 50 words definitely want a smart man to be around. The fact is that a man's intelligence is another of his qualities, thanks to which a woman feels protected. Because she wants to be sure that when it comes to making important decisions, the man will be able to take responsibility and take a step in the right direction. Also, a woman expects that a smart man will be able to better understand her, appreciate and provide good communication in a couple.
For those who have forgotten, let me remind you that when we talk about loyalty in a relationship, we mean that this is a positive attitude and emotional attachment, which are the determining factors in making any decisions regarding the object of loyalty (in this case, women). Naturally, loyalty should not become a phobia, and if the relationship has not yet become long-term and serious, not burdened with mutual obligations, no one forces a man to adhere to the vow "until death do us part."
However, this does not mean that a woman will forgive a man for “harem behavior”. The girl expects that the guy will be loyal to her even at the stage of the first meetings. If a woman finds out that a man is dating another at the same time, visits dating sites or does something like that, she feels deeply offended. It is very important for a woman to feel like the only one. By the way, this is another security factor for her.
Unfortunately, some men believe that chivalry and good manners are the lot of weaklings. But women have a completely different opinion on this matter. They want to feel special and appreciate the men who give them that feeling. In this case, a man does not need to go out of his way. The usual little things are quite enough: hold the door; move the chair; shake hands on the stairs; help get out of the car; sometimes give a flower or a small souvenir; make a pleasant surprise, etc. The girl is especially pleased when the guy does all these "little things" naturally, and does not advertise them and does not behave like that, as if for every such act he should be nominated for a Nobel Prize.
An unkempt and poorly washed rocker with a bohemian lifestyle can easily knock the heart of a teenage girl, but for most older women, this type of man is unattractive. Uncleanliness and sloppiness are not sexual. Women prefer well-groomed men, not too much, of course, but ... in general, cleanliness. A dirty apartment and a garbage dump in the car does not add any advantages to the guy in the eyes of the girl either. For a woman, a man should be neatly dressed and smell good. Yes, and one more thing - it is very desirable that the guy lowered the circle in the toilet after him and did not leave the toilet dirty!
Politeness does not mean that you need to bow about for any reason or no reason. A woman does not demand much, but a man must observe and understand elementary things. It is very ugly when a guy does not follow his speech and the words flying out of his mouth. Naturally, in life there may be situations when one cannot do without a strong word, but it must be said at the right time and place. In fact, it's not cool to use foul language all the time. The same goes for behavior. Do not answer calls and after that do not call back, do not inform about changes in plans or talk about it at the very last moment, do not warn about your lateness, etc. All this is very impolite and offensive towards a woman (and in general towards any person). Well, and the worst thing is to apologize after a quarrel without looking in the eyes and not even by voice on the phone, but via SMS or via the Internet.
There are guys who constantly hang over a girl, unceremoniously invading all aspects of her personal life. At the initial period of falling in love, the girl is still capable of perceiving such behavior, but over time she is already trying to escape "for cover" at the first opportunity.
Figuratively speaking - "part-time lover and full-time best friend." This phrase most fully reflects the portrait of the "optimal" man. Mind-blowing sex and physical intimacy is very good, but this is not all that a woman expects from a man. A man who is able to: listen without judging or giving out “valuable instructions” about “how to act”; just do a massage; hug and caress without any hint of a sexual continuation; to support in difficult times and not leave alone when it is simply sad; without asking for help in household chores; make it clear what will be next, no matter what happens. Such a man is valuable for a woman not only as a partner, husband or lover, but also as a friend whom she can count on and whom she can trust, and this is worth a lot.
Women value attention very much, but obsessive men are hard to bear. At the stage of "conquering the heart", this can still be transferred, but then ... The last thing the girl would like is for the guy to constantly "hang on his tail", faithfully look into his mouth, agree in everything, decide nothing himself and sleep under the door. Women like independent and self-confident men.
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It's no secret that men are different from women. It is hardly news to anyone that men and women have different priorities in relationships. What do women expect from men? There are exactly as many answers to this question as there are types of women in nature: young, not very young, plump, thin, talkative, silent, beautiful and not very.
Meanwhile, with all the variety of variables, one component of the ideal relationship remains constant, regardless of the participants. The hallmark of all men is that they build relationships with discretion and even caution. Women are more scrupulous about this serious matter. Choosing a life partner, they not only make a huge list of requirements for him, but are also ready to make a lot of efforts to turn a man into the ideal of their dreams. But, despite the female talkativeness and passion for sorting out the relationship, it is often difficult for men to understand what exactly women need to be completely happy.
So what do women want? Just be happy! But they just don't talk about it directly. If you learn to speak with a woman in her language, learn to be silent when you want to answer, to hug when you want to leave, to speak the truth, even if it hurts, to be a man in whom she can be confident and love her as yourself, you will no longer ask what women want. They will ask you about your desires and happily fulfill them!
Here are just a few things that women especially appreciate in men:
High appreciation of others. A woman needs to know that her man is of genuine interest to other women as well. Especially women are attracted to men with a slight scandalous veil and a slightly dubious reputation. Therefore, a man with a companion (especially a beautiful one) arouses much more interest in women than a man who walks by himself. Paradoxically, it is a fact: the simplest (and proven) way to seduce a woman is to make her jealous. Female rivalry is a great thing!
Thoroughness. A woman needs stability, order, confidence in the future. She needs a man she can rely on. If you say you’ll be home by 9pm, be home by 9pm. Are you running late? Call and let us know that you will be late. Men often find it difficult to understand the difference between support and total control. Building a solid foundation of relationships and stability does not mean that unpredictability has disappeared in your relationship, and you are tied hand and foot. Love should not be a crutch for you, but a support. A strong bond in which reliability is synonymous with trust.
Reliability. Women want to feel protected by men. They need to know that everything will be fine. This does not mean that a man should be a tall bodybuilder or have a million dollar bank account. It is enough to be able to calm a woman down, take care of her needs and sometimes tell her what she wants to hear - that everything will definitely be fine.
Love. Love a woman more than anything else. Show your love. Prove your love every day, every hour, every minute and every second of every minute of every hour of every day. Become love itself and when solving any problem ask yourself: "How would love act?" Then fear will have no place in your life.
Gratitude. Women really look forward to expressions of gratitude and compliments. They just don't show it. Therefore, men, more often say compliments to women, give them the opportunity to feel wonderful and desirable - but you should not cultivate a feeling of indispensability in women. Do not get too carried away and do not run after the woman, frightening her off with statements that "you have no life without her." It just looks pathetic and repulsive.
Honesty. A woman can forgive almost everything, but she will never forgive lies and deliberate deception. If once she caught you in a lie, then she will never be able to trust you. Women regard lying as disrespectful. Tell the woman the truth, no matter how unpleasant she may be, and your relationship will get a second chance.
Tenderness. Hug her in the morning, hug her before leaving for work, send sweet emails throughout the day, and hug her ten more times when you get home. A woman should feel loved and desired.
Sense of humor. Women don't like bores. Smile more, joke around, don't take life too seriously! Be a player! Such an attitude is valued by women much more than unshakable seriousness - even if it is accompanied by beauty and wealth.
Women appreciate purposeful men. You don't have to have a lot of money and a fancy car now, but you must strive for it. Women love fulfilled and self-sufficient men.
So, to summarize: women dream of understanding, happiness, respect and expect honesty from men. Let's not forget that a woman also needs changes, as priorities and goals in life change over time. Why can't men understand women? Because it is a masterpiece of nature, which is becoming more perfect every day!
